What is the MOST irritating thing on Mumsnet?

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I saw someone mention that something was “high on the list of most irritating Mumsnet things,” but I couldn’t find a post discussing that list. And now we have polls, I thought it might be interesting, especially “other” stuff.

Using AIBU, then not giving the option. What's the point?
The constant drip feeds. Maybe if all the information was included in the OP, people would have a better idea of how to comment/vote.
Quoting the entire OP, rather than the relevant parts of it that the poster is commenting on.
HRTFT - well then don't comment on something you haven't fully read!
Using A, B or C to describe people in situations. Yes, I understand that names are "outing", but is it really so hard to type Alice, Bella and Chloe?! The A, B and C just makes me leave the thread immediately.
The term " use your words". Gives me instant rage.
Posters who ask for an opinion, then argue with every single suggestion put forward, because it's not actually what they wanted to hear.
The "Help me name my baby" threads. Why don't people just simply ask for name suggestions?
The constant boasting/flexing threads - "I'm a size 0, do I look fat in this" "I bring home 6k a month... (add in absolutely any further information about feeling badly done to).
People who don't Google, then repeatedly ask what is being discussed.

I think there's probably a lot more, but those annoy me the most!

Lack of paragraphs!

There is a lot of jealousy & resentment towards people who gained from being born at the right time but haven’t actually done anything wrong.

I completely agree with this. I think a lot of the frustration comes from some people's total refusal to accept there was any luck involved though. My parents are a perfect example of this. Both have final salary pensions sitting in a big mortgage-free house in London and yet it's always "we scrimped and saved, we couldn't go on holidays whenever we liked, we had to do all the DIY ourselves" as if no one does that anymore. I don't understand why it's so hard just to say "we were in the right place at the right time".

My current annoyance is posters who think they’re Miss Marple but they really haven’t thought things through to the most basic degree and are convinced a post is made up because it doesn’t match up with their own experience. ‘This can’t be true because it’s only 8am and the op says it happened today’ as if there are no posters in different time zones, ‘I call bullshit because the ground is waterlogged!’ - all the ground, everywhere?! ‘She’s making it up, solicitors don’t ring back that promptly!’ - what, never ever?

Faux naivety as a way to show someone up (oh you meant cupboard, I didn't know what cuboard meant).

PA (what did your neighbour say when you talked to them about it?).

Not understanding that MN is a place to chat/moan (if that is that all you have to worry about, lucky you).

8 pages in and people suggesting obvious solutions not considering maybe, just maybe someone might have already done so.

Posters trying to catch people out. It's mean.

All of the above plus the weird and unnecessary use of 'fast forward' and 'think' while telling a story.

E.g. 'Fast forward a few weeks and I bought a new outfit. Think skirt, blouse etc.'

Just fucking say 'A few weeks later I bought a new skirt and blouse' like normal people.

People who dive in to tear the OP apart without having basic comprehension of what their posts say.

"Didn't want to read and run": trust me, no-one either knows or cares if you read and run.

Competitive hygiene threads, with people banging on about how others are disgusting and vile if they don't wash their towels every day or don't iron things.

The weird attitude to people asking if they can claim compensation, as if it's morally wrong.

People treating it as morally wrong to go to A&E when your leg's hanging off. Especially the ones saying you can't be that ill or you can't be that bothered about your child if you're posting on here.

"All good" in the middle of a story.

Oh yes, the allotment thread.

I posted yesterday morning that it sounded like the woman the OP bought the house off had lied about the garage and the allotment (which according to many posters could not possibly have been an allotment because these are rented from the council and no-one ever owns one) being used by third parties and was told by multiple posters that this couldn't possibly be the case.

But when the OP posted an update later in the day, the situation had been exactly as I had said.

Or the militant anti-ironing brigade who like to suggest it is a fetish for those with a personality disorder or are elderly.
No- I just like to look neat and presentable and don't spend the day in leggings and a hoodie.

Faux naivety as a way to show someone up (oh you meant cupboard, I didn't know what cuboard meant)

I change my vote. You're right, this is by far the most annoying. There should be a straight ban for this!

I don't understand what's wrong with that. Surely when someone's only told half the story it's entirely sensible to ask for the other half?

The posts that start with so many caveats about their post to try and fend off the usual ‘what about this scenario…’ it NEVER works.

Dickheads who correct others spelling and grammar and think they are better than those with dyslexia, whose first language is not English, autocorrect who didn't get a good education or who are just bad at typing.

Aresholes who are ignorant that there are different accents and types of English and that we don't all speak and write in Estuary English

Assumption that Mumsnetters tell people to LTB at the drop of a hat. In my experience (been here 18 years), people only recommend this if the partner is clearly awful.

Not saying something not outing in case it is outing.

Eg we went to the cinema. I won't say which film in case it is outing.
We went to a popular fast food restaurant. I won't say which in case it is outing.
I popped in to my high street bank....

Actually tbf, since there are only about 3 physical high street banks they might have a point.

I was driving my car. I won't say the make.....

My son plays a sport. I won't say which...

I have a shrub in my garden. I won't say....

I don’t think that’s what that poster means, they’re talking about the posters who asks ‘what did they say when you asked them’ knowing FULL well that it’s obvious that the poster has not asked the person they’re talking about - and is just asking on here for advice

Or the whole baby name thing where you're asked to make a judgement about a name, but they won't tell you what the name is - "think Mildred or Lexi-Mae"

Probably the fact it’s a hotbed of transphobia but also long long posts with no paragraph breaks.

"The "what did they say when you asked them?" ones."

I don't understand what's wrong with that. Surely when someone's only told half the story it's entirely sensible to ask for the other half?

It's the way it's asked.

It's usually clear the OP is simmering away and hasn't spoken to them.
Better would be "ideally you'd ask them OP, but we know that can be hard. Do you think it would help though?"

Goodness yes, the obsession with trans people. It feels like it's verging on an illness.

Shhhhh. They will hear you and come over asking you why you hate women.

People who 'just want to have a moan' but don't actually say this so they post tales of woe about not having enough money, time, support or whatever.

Then people give advice about how they could easily improve their situation by making a few small, and achievable changes then the OP comes back and says 'oh, I'm not actually going to do anything, I just wanted to have a moan'.

There was a poster who posted about half a dozen times in a few months about how she hated living in her boyfriends tiny flat when they both WFH and the area didn't suit and she claimed that while they both had well paid jobs, they had no money at all to get out and do stuff or buy anything nice but they (or she) was completely unable to move (this bit might have been true, I think it was a cladding issue).

People asked multiple times to explain why they didn't have any money because that part just didn't add up, the mortgage was low and no debt was ever mentioned, even if they didn't earn a huge amount, they both worked full time and bills weren't high.

They lived on the outskirts of London yet there was 'nothing to do' and 'nowhere to go' ever, yet all suggestions about going to museums, walks, hobbies, mini breaks, holidays etc etc were rejected as impossible but no reason given.

People who post the MN is a hotbed of transphobia when what they mean is women won’t agree a man is a woman just because he says he is (and it’s biologically impossible anyway)

posters who focus on irrelevant details

“I left my ex husband 2 weeks ago. He came around yesterday and locked me & the kids into the house, & blocked all the exits do we can’t leave. He then cut the phone wires, took our mobile phones, hot wired the car & drove off. We have very little food and no milk. Would I be unreasonable to smash my way out of the house and get some milk?”

first reply “I really hope you’re not going to buy cows milk OP, dairy is so bad for kids”

Women defending the right to their own spaces and their own sports is not "transphobic".
I like the way that on MN most women would not put the needs of men and their choices above the safety of women.