What is the MOST irritating thing on Mumsnet?

[5YearsLeft]

I saw someone mention that something was “high on the list of most irritating Mumsnet things,” but I couldn’t find a post discussing that list. And now we have polls, I thought it might be interesting, especially “other” stuff.

Tough call this!

I'd add:

Pompous. "I'm sorry that's impossible to read without paragraphs"

Total lack of empathy "He beat you? Why on earth did you have a baby with him 🙄"

Completely unaware "VAT on private school fees is THE greatest financial challenge facing us"

But I think the most irritating is the trans obsession as the most important political challenge of the time "I'm a single issue voter so of course I'll vote Conservative. No I don't care about children in extreme poverty, decrepit schools, over flowing prisons, working NHS staff using food banks etc etc etc. I must have the freedom to wash blood soaked underwear in a public sink and pop them back on"

Lack of paragraphs and punctuation so that it's hard work to read the post.

Too many acronyms. Have to keep stopping to Google them, or read the post and try to guess what they mean from the context of the rest of the post.

People giving advice about schools based on the fact they went to school themselves.
It has changed
Loose instead of lose is annoying.
Frequent use of the word "grim".

But I think the most irritating is the trans obsession as the most important political challenge of the time "I'm a single issue voter so of course I'll vote Conservative. No I don't care about children in extreme poverty, decrepit schools, over flowing prisons, working NHS staff using food banks etc etc etc. I must have the freedom to wash blood soaked underwear in a public sink and pop them back on"

No idea what threads you've read to come up with that invented narrative.

I haven't come across any posters who have indicated lack of interest in all other societal issues in favour of one issue only. I do see an active, informed community continually addressing the deeply problematic issues caused by gender ideology.

The man hating.

Vile descriptions of men such as 'mansplaining' and 'manspreading'.

The words 'naice', 'norks' and the use of acronyms.

For me, it's those who let their imagination run riot after reading an OP and then post as though their conjecture were solid fact and boy, do they have it sussed.

The OP returns to say, "that's not accurate" and the arrogant shit will argue that it is!

Dicks.

Quoting the full, long OP, before giving a single line response.

"And you had children with this man, why?"

Makes my slapping hand itch. ANY opportunity to self-congratulate eh?

Use of DC. DH the DEAR really annoys me! Not many use Dear in this way in daily life... it's cringe, sick buckets. They're following like sheep.

the bitching and arguments, which take away from the thread

people letting their imaginations run away with them

This.

People quoting the entire OP. Please stop doing that. We all read it. We know who you’re answering. Context is what allows us to work it out.

Making up words. Noone … It’s two words. No one. How does your autocorrect not fix that??

The obsession with trying to shoehorn ASD, ADHD, SEN etc. into any discussion as if it’s the answer for everything.
Especially irritating when it’s to criticise the OP for their viewpoint because they were irritated by someone. It usually takes only a few posts until someone dishes out the beloved “what if this person is autistic???”.

The acronyms DS, DH etc. So pretentious

The fact that if you post about a mild annoyance or a news item that has caught your attention, some muppet will come along and go “don’t you know people are dying in Gaza! Count yourself lucky!”

Agree with most of the above but I have a new one this morning.
The tone that allotment thread has taken has made me think I need an immediate break from MN.
I don't really want to get into it and be piled on but to give a more generic explanation I'll say posts where the OP changes their tone and information given depending on how it's received and also posts where an OP starts getting all cocky and confident and other posters start getting all cliquey (I'll probably get roasted for making up spelling that) and saying stuff like 'oh do move along dear' or 'bore if' to anyone posting a counter view point, creating in jokes and getting nasty.
It can be like watching a bully be created in real time and plays into non MN people's ideas of exactly what does go on here and the sort of people it attracts.
Probably the reason I rarely tell anyone I come on here.

*and no I'm not part of the 'be kind' club.

"I've got a friend, let's call her xxx". Hate posts that start like this. They're like the first paragraph of any badly written self published short story. Which many of them seem to be.

People who ask a question and use a full stop instead of a question mark at the end of the sentence. Like "Am I being unreasonable to think that customer service is terrible these days."

People piling on a poster with needless spite.

Grammar pedants, totally insensitive to the fact that posters may have a learning disability.

The vitriol against Americans as all being thick, gun toting, racists.

The hate for mother in laws and step parents.

The trolls.

The boasting guised as 'I thought it was normal'

People who diagnose others with no qualification to do so.

The goady lazy teacher threads.

The recommendations on Dog House that everyone should get a rescue or a greyhound, and that no none is fit to have a dog other than certain posters.

Why are some people so covert about hobbies anyway? Cycling is not 'outing'.
No need for the mystery.

The mil threads where it is apparent to me that the self-centred, jealous, controlling dil is the issue...but she is exalted here.

I understand the second part of your comment but as for the first part, I’m sure there are actual vile terms that could be used about men (and maybe have been used, and hopefully MNHQ have deleted them the same as they would any hate speech and you should always report - I think most of us do), but mansplaining is in both the Cambridge Dictionary and the Oxford English Dictionary and manspreading is in the Cambridge Dictionary. In addition, both have undergone scientific inquiry at this point, with 82% of British women saying they’ve experienced mansplaining and science trying to find a physiological reason for manspreading, along with studies showing that if women perform the same action and take the same amount of space, they are treated more negatively than a man doing so.

Source:
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/manspreading-scientific-explanation-revealed-men-behaviour-public-transport-etiquette-a7862771.html