What is the MOST irritating thing on Mumsnet?

[5YearsLeft]

I saw someone mention that something was “high on the list of most irritating Mumsnet things,” but I couldn’t find a post discussing that list. And now we have polls, I thought it might be interesting, especially “other” stuff.

I'd guess we're usually right on this one.

Fair enough but my point about men still stands.

And I already said that I understand those coming on to ask relevant questions so books on miscarriage would fall into that category. Obviously for those TTC or who plan to have children it makes perfect sense why they'd be on here.

I haven't been on here too long.

Some really nasty posters is what has stood out the most.

Why would you choose a parenting forum to discuss your hobbies? Especially men.

I must have read this the wrong way. I can only answer from my own POV as a women. However as you picked up on my comment about why people, both men and women would use a chat forum to talk about shared interest when they don't have children or are not a mother, I think other posters have summed it up eloquently.

However, as I pointed out in my post I said the site was designed for parents, a chat forum which spreads over many many topics which are not specifically targeted at parents can be used by anyone. As you pointed out it is a great space for women.

I voted not RTFT.
It's vey vey annoying when, pages and pages in, people are still answering a question or addressing something that was answered ages ago, especially when it wastes posts on a very active thread.

@ManchesterBeatrice I'm sorry but what reason do you give for men being on here? Unless they're looking for advice regarding a woman in their life, why are they hanging around a forum designed for women (mothers or not) ?

The majority of things posted here are about women and their experiences so what would a man get out of being here?

You don't need to reference their name - you are on their thread! If you really want to you can put OP in your post so they know you are talking to them.

None.

Hence I'm talking about child free women.

I've not once mentioned you'd point about men.

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Completely agree. It makes it really difficult to prise out the key information.

I think it sometimes happens because the OP doesn't necessarily recognise the main issues, nor the true crux of their problem and possibly gets irritated or upset by a few peripheral problems that detract from the much bigger problem.

@ManchesterBeatrice I see why childfree women use this forum now. I'm still baffled by men.

So basically all my friends are common 😆

The mil bashing on here is awful.
So many of the problems could be sorted if only they talked to each other.
Dils forget that being a first time GP is nerve wracking.
We don't know what's acceptable unless you tell us.

Then it's not letting anyone see the baby apart from their mother,and the dh is treated like a spare part.
Then come back in 6 months wondering why nobody bothers or has any relationship with the baby.

I guess I can imagine a male parent coming on here for advice because it has more users perhaps than dadsnet.

This happens several times a day in the gardening threads, when someone posts a photo and asks for a plant ID. There will be a couple of answers from knowledgeable gardeners, usually correctly identifying it as X, and there will be a few more who give random totally wrong guesses, then the original answerers come back and say it is definitely X because (reasons) and here is the proof (more photos).

Then somebody comes along who has a plant app on their phone which says it is Y, which is completely wrong as well. Cue a few more saying it is A, B, or C, ignoring the fact that the matter is already resolved.

Gardeners have already positively identified it with their expert EYES, but nobody pays any attention.

Does my head in.

OP I know this isn't exactly relevant but as far as I can tell you should leave your husband.

It’s just twattish. The sub-forums you mention are completely unrelated to parenthood. Surely the answer to “When would be the best time to plant my winter pansies?” is the same regardless of whether you’re a mother or not? If someone asks for a recommendation for a good murder mystery book, couldn’t you make a recommendation without knowing if the person asking has children? What are you going to say - “Well, personally I enjoyed Storm at Huntingdon Point, but I can’t speak for anyone who’s never pushed a head through their foof”?

@HotChocolateNotCocoa 😂👏👏

As for why men would use this site I have just asked my partner who knows I use this site. He has said if he was a single father and needed advice then he would probably google it and it would be reasonable to think that this site would appear. Why after getting sound advice would he then find a less useful alternative?

Ok so maybe gardening gear while trying to deal with menopause hot flashes? You see what I mean? I asked for help with a super embarrassing personal problem that wasn’t children related but also that I would prefer to have asked other women about.

And I’m not in disagreement with you - I don’t want anyone to feel hated, and I do think that men need to be able to ask questions as parents and have a place to do that. I just also think there are a lot of forums where “male” is the default poster’s gender (Reddit) and vanishingly few where female is the default gender.

The kicking when people are down especially on the Aibu and divorce boards.

In threads I've been on, where people are vulnerable, on their knees, desparate, I've watched posters like coyotes descend upon them.

The idea that if whatever is troubling the OP wouldn’t bother you, they are automatically a precious entitled snowflake and you are better than them.

Calling people 'dear', DH, DP, DC, etc. Just say husband, partner, wife, whatever. It's not a 2002-text message and we're not saving money by using less characters.

Posters who wouldn't respond/react in the same way, in real life.

Excessive acronyms.

Explaining a username change, no one cares.

Cycling or running etc as a hobby is not outing. If I read a post that someone’s partner is a cycler, I don’t immediately think it’s my mum’s neighbour at number 53.

Quoting the original post… we all read it, that's why we're in the comments' section, absolutely no need to quote it.