Post something about yourself which you have been judged for?

[BrickPoet]

I will start
I like wrestling and Hawaiian pizza

That I have a dog and yet I don't worship at the temple of dog. I like my dog very, very much, but I'm not obsessed with her. This is incomprehensible to most dog owners and I feel judged, like there is something wrong with my soul.

Re training and changing career.

My hairstyle when I was younger

Not having children. Most people assumed I didn’t like kids, not that I was having trouble conceiving.

Having children later in life. Apparently disgusting and selfish.

Having big boobs. Trust me I’d rather not.

Being fat.

Seems now I’m old and in the way.

For not being able to provide therapeutic intervention beyond that provided by the NHS.

I was very kindly called “vile” & my professionalism was openly judged on MN after providing a realistic insight as to what NHS treatment would involve. I recognised the poster due to the username being a badly disguised reference to their child’s name.

I don’t make the rules hun, I’m just the HCP bound by NHS boundaries who gets called names online (but you pay my salary right…so that makes it ok 👍🏼)

Being emotional and telling people why. Often it's just hormonal (peri-menopause!!!) people don't like it when u say that's the cause.

Only things I’ve been openly judged on since being an adult : not wearing make up and nice clothes (that lovely comment from a lad at work about how I am fit, but could do more for myself with make up) cheers for that. Being Catholic - a few openly judgy comments on that one. Having kids - lots of comments from child free friends - why do you do it, you must be mad, I couldn’t do it blah blah blah. Being posh - all.the.time. I now live in the North and prob do have quite a posh accent. I work in a male dominated industry and get judged a lot for just being a woman to be honest - the worst is when men apologise to me for swearing as if my poor female ears can’t cope with it 😂.

Doing things because I can and not paying someone else to do it…I kid you not

washing windows
walking dog
cutting grass
washing car
child car
cutting my own hair

seriously piss of judgy neighbours/family

I felt like this about my old dog.

I’m completely in love with my current one (definitely not because my kids are older now and not remotely interested in me and my dog is the only one that is happy to see me every day 🤣🤣😬)

I can't drive.
I live with my mum at the age of 43.

Having a resting bitch face (apparently) I’m actually nice, so people have told me once they get to know me.

Oh and being 'posh'. I'm not posh at all, I just have a silly accent. I went to a not-very-good comprehensive school where I was relentlessly bullied (for being 'posh') and we had no money when I was growing up because my dad died very suddenly.

Being old and a woman.

Today in a supermarket by a man. Last year on a dog park by a woman.
Both were in the wrong and hitting back with the last thing they could say.

Both are facts about me but thought of as insults by them. Fuck me.

Being a young mother. Being a home owner young ( always assume my parents pay). Being mixed raced (either too black or too white). Not going to uni (took the apprenticeship route)

Being a single parent in the 1990s (we were responsible for all society's ills).
Being an introvert.

Same here although some colleagues totally get it but some of the younger ones think I’m odd.

Not having any professional ambitions. I don't want a career. I like my job and I'm good at it, but I can switch off from it when I'm at home.

I don't have a university education.

I'm divorced. The only one in my family and also my social circle.

Being thin and now being fatter

Being Scottish

For having a Scottish acccent / not sounding Scottish enough

For not having children and now for having children

For having an autistic child - judged for being too soft (in some people's eyes) and too harsh (in other people's eyes)

For not knowing which soup was on sale at the cafe (elderly relative in early stages of dementia)

I could go on, women are judged constantly

For having freckles.

Not having kids
Not wanting career progression
Being single (even though it's only been a very short while)
Having my hair done every 6 weeks, waste of money apparently

This! And just generally wanting a simple life with minimal stress.

Also not wearing (or owning) any makeup - my mum thinks this is dreadful, even though I like to dress nicely and am very clean...

Never enjoying night clubs etc when younger, I've always preferred a good book or a walk in the countryside. Much more socially acceptable now I'm getting old!

Hating dogs.

Being Irish in England.

Being disabled
Not (by choice) being in a relationship

Not drinking
Not smoking
Being "quiet" I'm not just more of a one to one person.

Just existing
Fat thin young aging what I wear
Just being a woman
Not having a boyfriend
Having a boyfriend
Getting married young
Having children young
Not having a job/having a job
Being a sahm/not being a sahm
Not driving/trying to learn

Every decision ever
Decisions I didn't make

Just can't win 🤷🏼‍♀️