Post something about yourself which you have been judged for?

[BrickPoet]

I will start
I like wrestling and Hawaiian pizza

Putting my baby front facing in his sling.

Being an owl, don’t think I’ve ever seen a morning in my life.

Having a baby at 16. My dad told me I'd ruined my life and didn't speak to me again... She's now 17 and doing well in college!

Having four children
Not being married
Dying my hair
Being a size 8
Being a SAHM
Working full-time
Working part-time
Having lots of pets
Going no contact with my abusive mother
Having a chronic illness

Marrying and then divorcing a Muslim man

Being involved with a man with bipolar disorder

Dropping out of a degree course at 19

Being politically outspoken

Being happily single

😂

Having a tummy tuck on the NHS.

My hobby being diamond art.

Having bad skin as an adult.

Enjoying being at home and not wanting to go out.

Enjoying being a bit of a TV/book addict.

For allowing my hair to go naturally grey and not dye it.

I'm sure there are loads more!

Being quiet
Having an adult diagnosis of ADHD

As a teenager I was constantly judged by my working class family for being interested in politics, economics & science, listening to R4, reading books & broadsheet newspapers and wanting to get out of my crappy little home town to go to university.

Looking back, I probably was an irritatingly pretentious & somewhat arrogant little know-it-all, but I’m still glad I did get out.

Eating too many oven chips

As a Mum in 2008 I allowed my son to walk to school on his own. Fucking hell even then I was judged for not walking and breathing for him by the other helicopter Mothers!! Son is now 24 ,got a 1st in economics and earning more money in Vancouver than all those Mothers could actually dream of . Am gloating and no apologies…

Can I ask posters who is doing all of this judging and why not tell them to fuck off?

(Although that perhaps means I’m judging you for not speaking out?)

Having 4 kids
Being a SAHM

Being shy.
Being fat.

Being Danish
Having 4 kids
Liking licorice

Not having a degree.
Being fat.
Being Jewish.
Not looking Jewish.

Not paying off my Dad’s debt to a sibling.

Being plain
Having gappy teeth & not giving a toss about correcting them

Being too much woman

Having a lot of events happen throughout my life. People tend to think I'm a bullshitter which is not the case.

Ooh you’ve just reminded me, being what some people describe as slim (I’m not, I’m a size 10 and always have been but obviously size 10 has got bigger over the years), you’re judged as not a ‘real woman’. Never face to face but definitely in general terms.

Also, and this is in real life, weirdly friends who are bigger than me comment about me having no boobs a lot. It’s odd to know what to do with that because my cup size is anything between DD and F depending on the time of the month and bra and I sometimes struggles to find clothes to fit because of off proportions but if I say that I sound like a twat.

Another one, my BIL assumed I worked in admin for years because I think he struggled to get his head around a woman working in a prison type setting.

When my hair is short people assume I’m gay, including gay women.

I unleashed at a judgy couple of randoms at a wedding. I was on my own as dh was at another wedding was pregnant with a toddler and was a sahm after professional career.

On and on they went about how outrageous this was. I kept politely trying to change the subject. They kept on. Then I let them have my real views politely and calmly. She started crying. Live by the sword die by the sword love!

Sorry, this made me laugh.

So many things!
Not being sociable
Being fat
Not wanting to go to the pub after work
Not wanting to go to the Christmas do
Being picky about food
Eating too much
Rarely drinking alcohol
Being old

I should point out that I am autistic and have diabetes (not related) so a lot of the above relate to those.

Not getting the Covid vaccine.

@TheaBrandt which part was outrageous to them?

Your being a SAHM? Being alone at a wedding? Being pg? All of it?