Post something about yourself which you have been judged for?

[BrickPoet]

I will start
I like wrestling and Hawaiian pizza

Being a single mum.

A colleague when I started a new job, asked me what my husband was called. I said that I didn't have a husband, or a boyfriend for that matter.

She said 'Oh, a single mum.' and did the down-to-the-toes-and-back-up-again look of total disdain before walking off. Silly tart 😂

Saying I don't like the band Queen, that was an actual "I'll get my coat then" moment.

Being vegetarian (in the late 80s / early 90s not recently, total non-event now).

Wearing make up, having hips, tits etc. and basically being a woman. According to various comments from men over the last 30+ years.

Probably lots of other things over my nearly 50 years on the planet but fortunately I am pretty deaf and generally oblivious 😂

Variously :

• being too fat
• being too thin
• being single
• being married
• not having children
• being pregnant
• having a baby
• using disposable nappies
• using cloth nappies
• breastfeeding
• bottle feeding
• taking maternity leave
• going back to work
• only having one child
• having two children
• taking maternity leave
• going back to work
• working
• not working
• not being able to drive
• having a car
• driving
• buying too many Xmas presents
• not buying enough Xmas presents
• not getting divorced
• getting divorced
• being single
• dating
• drinking
• not drinking
• eating meat
• being vegetarian

Sure there's more ...

Being a surrogate mother.

Being disabled
My taste in music
Being single
Being childfree (partly not by choice)

Having a mental breakdown

Having chronic physical illnesses

Being slim

Not being pretty

Being a SAHM

Not being able to drive (even though I don’t rely on anyone for lifts, or even ask)

Not being rich

Not being materialistic and not caring what the latest trends are and just liking what they like.

Being NC with my abusive family.

Disliking a lot of people because of the poor treatment I’ve had from people because of their judgements of all of the above.

Having huge curly hair that takes hours to tame and when I do take the time to straighten it I get comments ‘you should wear it like that more often) 😩

Not particularly enjoying wine or indeed alcohol in general, unbelievable the amount women who look at me like I have just announced I eat babies for lunch

Not watching reality TV or the latest must see series is akin to being a weirdo in some circles.

At various times in my life:

Being thin
Being fat
Being a SAHM
Being a working mum
Having three children
My accent
Getting divorced
Just about every fucking thing. I don't give a shite anymore, you can't win.

Claiming benefits for 25 years.

Still living with husband despite being separated
Letting my son have long hair
Having food issues
Sounding posh. I'm really not
Swearing too much!,
Tattoos and ear piercings

• Moving to somewhere I'm not from.

Having pancakes for dinner whenever we fancy it and not just on pancake day

Eating a large portion of chips at random times as a snack

Eating a lot

Having "two lunches" (soup AND a sandwich 🧐)

Lots of judgement about women eating 😅

Not wearing a ring - or jewellery of any kind.

Not wearing make-up. I have to explain every time that I have perennial hay fever, so there is really no point.

Not going to church often enough, apparently. I had an answer ready for that one too.

Me too. Hate driving and always take public transport.

Saying that when a child goes to university to some extent they need to man / woman up and get on with it. Ringing parents crying repeatedly about essay crisis or it issues doesn’t help them and upsets the parents. This makes me “hard” apparently

Me too. Will take a lift if it's offered and quite happy to pay for petrol but otherwise I'll get myself home. I live in London so don't need a car anyway.

(As a child and teen) Having foreign parents.
Retiring early.
Not liking going out anywhere in the evenings.

I once worked away from home for 4 weeks, leaving my children in the very capable hands of their dad (my DH) AND grandparents. For context, DH goes away for work regularly for much longer periods, no-one bats an eyelid. My poor children have been traumatised for life because I wasn't there for 4 weeks, oh the horror. Being sarcastic. They don't even remember.

Christ, loads. I absolutely love it though. I love knowing that something about me gets someone’s back up and I live rent free in their head 😂

Choosing elective C-sections as I had no interest in feeling a single second of labour pain.

Exercising hard up to the day I had my C-sections.

Exercising hard after my C-sections.

Prioritising my mental health by making time for exercise and work despite having newborns.

Feeling strongly about not gaining weight during pregnancy.

Eating sushi during pregnancy.

Taking drugs when I was younger.

Having holidays without the children.

Competing in a dangerous sport.

I will fight anyone who doesn't like Hawaiian pizza. And wrestling! Have you seen The Rock or Randy Orton. Hello ;-)

Some years ago a journalist (female) decided to do a trip to India and leave her DC with the DH for that time. She documented her travels in the Telegraph and God alive, from the comments you'd have thought they were being babysat by the Child Snatcher instead of being (very adequately) cared for by their father (who was happy she was doing something that made her happy).

Having one child
Being fat
Working when DC was 6 months (I own my own business so hard to take a longer maternity leave)

Getting married in my teens, having a child a year later, all before my 20th birthday.

Still wet the bed from time to time, often when drunk but also due to stress or illness or anxiety sometimes too.