Post something about yourself which you have been judged for?

[BrickPoet]

I will start
I like wrestling and Hawaiian pizza

💐 I wish women’s bodies could just be allowed to exist in the world without other people’s (male and female) unsolicited opinions on our attractiveness/health/femininity.

Having a practical and not feminine style.

Buying a pinwheel as an adult.

Liking things lying around, 'a bit messy'.

Not being 'huggy' and inclined to let people into my personal space. In particular, when I was 18 there was a child in the family who got great delight out of coming up to be unexpectedly and poking me in the sides, because this made me jump and squeal/scream. I found this upsetting and distressing. I think most people would! But I got no sympathy with those responsible for this child, who wouldn't do anything about it, and the child wasn't inclined to listen to me. These kinds of experiences have made me generally more tense.

Not tolerating bad language in my workplace

Not having a car

Announcing the name of a new baby in my family and being told that my family is 'posh' (Biblical name not in common use)

Being autistic, yet "not looking autistic".

Living in a flat when "I can afford a house".

Allowing my teenage child to live with her dad.

living in a council house (growing up)
being poor
Living in a large house. (People make assumptions about us when they see it)
driving a four by four (I live rurally and need it, but you’d not know that in town )
being perceived as affluent.
having long hair at 50
when I put on weight. When I lost it.
being a working mother, who even worse, travelled a lot.
people assuming and judging me that my husband is the bread winner and I married well, see early point on big house. He’s not. I am.
privately educating my child,
not voting for brexit.

basically just being,

My parenting- it's been an awful weekend of judgement 🥲

Being fat.
loosing “too much” weight (turns out people really hate it when their fat friend isn’t fat anymore)
Having 6 children

Speaking my mind
Being skinny!

As a teenager - having parents who had to claim benefits.

As an adult - working part time. Lots of comments about receiving top up benefits while my colleagues have to work full time. I only receive child benefit.
Also only having one child - some school mums almost seem to pity me but DD is happy and we can do so much more as a family with only one.

Being disabled
Being speech impaired

Having too many dc whilst on UC and not working knowing that it was likely they’d have ASD

The colour of my skin.

Where I live
Having a child with ADHD
Not driving ( until people find out I have a medical issue) then miraculously it becomes okay
Being a single mum back in the 80’s
Being a working parent / being a non-working parent ( can’t win that one)

Being thin.
Only having one child (not by choice)
Giving up on breastfeeding too quickly/ formula feeding.
Giving up part of my maternity leave to my DH (he took Shared Parental Leave).
Going back to work four days a week after maternity leave (one comment of ‘that’s practically full time’ still stings a little).
Having a small and cluttered house (I am trying to tackle the clutter, but we can’t afford anything bigger).
Letting DD use screens (with earphones) while out at restaurants/ travelling on trains etc.
Not doing anything very active at weekends/ holidays.
Not going on interesting holidays.
DD doing four extra-curricular activities.
Not being very sociable (I’m shy and feel awkward a lot of the time).

Most of this is me judging myself, or imagining what people think of me.

Currently married to dh number 4...

I'm fat
I'm quiet
I have had mental health problems
I had kids young
I'm divorced
I was a single parent
I've remarried

Having a posh accent, being a teen mum, not being very fashionable, being old.

Being charming/"nice" at work to achieve the outcomes I want rather than being ruthless and abrasive.

Edit: and being fat in combination with being too nice

Having a southern accent in a northern town.

I have been judged for a number of things, but the main one is......

My weight.

I was judged - and accused of being a bit fat, and having a 'bit of a belly' and a fat arse in my late teens/20s, even though I was 9 to 9 and a half stone, and a size 12 (10 in today's money.) Usually criticized by men, and a couple of women who were a couple of sizes smaller than me.

When I started to gain weight - in my mid 20s - after stopping smoking (I gained 2 stone over a year and a half,) the world and his husband felt they had the right to comment on how 'fat' I was getting.

Then I lost 3 stone over 5-6 months, and half the people I spoke to (who I know,) told me I was too thin and looked 'gaunt.'

There are many more examples, but that is the one thing that has always been commented on. My weight. Always someone else's business. 🙄

Swearing far too much

Genuine question if it's not having children then why are you on mumsnet? 

*Working and not doing all household chores so my husband has to chip in. (Yes, I know it isn't the 1950s)

*Dyeing my hair

*not being bothered about having a messy house. It could be tidier but I don't want to spend all my time cleaning and tidying.

*size of my breast as a teenager. They were large. Nothing I did to get them. I didn't really want them. They got in the way playing sports. People assumed I was a slag/easy/a bit stupid.

Only having one child.

Oh my! Have you not been around very long?