My Wife The Abuser: The Secret Footage

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Anyone watching? Channel 5 now.

Are you ok?

Pardon?

Years ago as students we knew a girl who would attack her boyfriend -his face raked with scratches.

They split up in the end, but she ended up marrying someone else soon after- another gentle, passive guy.

I'm glad I found this thread

I saw this documentary last night and haven't been able to stop thinking about it

Evil woman. In front of her children too

I’ve only just found this conversation but your post was heartbreaking.
I am so sorry you had to witness that as a child 😔 x

This is coming to Netflix v soon. Whilst I think it's important to show it, part of me worries how it will affect the daughters now it's going to be shown to a larger audience.

Perhaps people might understand their childhood trauma better....

Good god watched it tonight, one of the most distressing things I’ve ever watched

I agree with the original post.

The abuse was despicable and she deserves her sentence (perhaps it was even a bit lenient) but the female police officer, despite continually telling us how impartial she was, showed absolutely no signs of impartiality and seemed to relish in her role as a narrator of this horrific tale. Police officers are human but they should also be highly trained and have sufficient support in place - especially those dealing with victims of violent crime. There should never be a situation where a victim feels it might be necessary to offer words of comfort to the police officer interviewing them.

I understand that the man felt that he was giving a voice to other men experiencing domestic violence, but he is not the only victim and I wonder how this programme will affect his children. The videos of their home, the stories about their reactions, the images of them in the videos are theirs and as children they do not have the capacity to consent to their stories being told so bluntly on what is fundamentally a pretty salacious Netflix documentary. The documentary did nothing to really inform or educate. The constant photos of her when she was younger being used to shock us all that such a beautiful, privileged woman could be capable of such abuse were cynical. Those children deserve privacy and the opportunity to rebuild their lives without being re-traumatised by this. It's irresponsible.

This is exactly what I was worried about 😔

This is exactly what I was worried about 😔

I never comment on anything, I do nit even have a social media account of any type, however I just felt compelled to write this, I am a 50yr old lady with children and grandchildren and I just felt the need to tell you, you are such a brave man in the face of such evil and control, I only hope you and your girls find peace and happiness and fulfilment with the rest of your lives, you will one day, without knowing, just wake up and realise your such a beautiful man ( that is what came across) with lots lot of love to give to someone who will love you just the same….
It could not have been easy to record the abuse, even more so in the childrens playrooms, however I suppose it has to be seen that evil lurks where people think it should not, our children should be our safe place and a happy place…. You have been so brave to speak out and if you only help 1 other man in a world where men are always considered the abuser, you have done what you more than likely set out to do.
I wish you and your children all the happiness and good fortune that life can bring, always listen to your girls and know that they love their daddy and when they are old enough to fully understand that they will look upon you as a hero, a man that they will look up to in the face of adversity, I, myself and my husband wish you and your children such happiness when coming from a very dark place, hold your head high and when needed take a deep breath, and just put one step in front of the other and the rest of life will walk in step with you, good luck and thank you for being so brave and showing the world that abuse comes in very many forms, no it just a man abusing a woman, the police, who get so much anger and not enough commendation for their very hard job for very little money ( I am not a police officer nor do I know a police officer ) have shown such compasssion and sensitivity around this very hard situation should be held in such high regard for a very sensitive situation when pushing forward with a very evil and conniving woman…… wishing you love and happiness .

I think it's important they make documentaries about abuse against men as it might help more men to come forwards.

I work with lots of domestic abuse survivors who are women on a day to day basis and can say that this kind of abuse and worse is happening to thousands of women, today alone. It's become so normalised that people don't cry when they hear about it and we only make documentaries when they're murdered.

It made me feel very sorry for him, and angry for how normalised DA against women has become at the same time.

I’ve only just been made aware of / watched this. It made me cry. That poor, poor man.