Professions you would never date after working with them

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I’ll start - surgeons.

One of them told me his wife was a GP -“because only one of us (him) could have a proper career”

Also - the overriding narrative that every female who complained about their outcome or consultation had “mental health issues”. They just couldn’t conceive that anyone would complain about them.

I know several lovely doctors, Inc one I dated, and that wouldn't put me off at all.

Some jobs would put me off through practicalities:

• shop workers/ hospitality etc who work every weekend
• army personnel where I'd be expected to move and be a trailing spouse

Farmers - I think it would be a family lifestyle and it sounds stressful, worrying about events outside your control eg weather, disease outbreaks, law changes etc. Abattoir worker - I wouldn't want to talk about the job and just couldn't let those killing hands touch me!

No way dating these, only going with what I know from these types through friends and family.
Chef, alcoholics
Forklift driver, alcoholics, , arrogant liars and gamblers.
Sales men, druggy alcoholics
Any male musician in a band as a sideline/hobby. Huge ego,lying, cheating alcoholics

Paramedic. Ego and power hungry.

Any salesman, including an estate agent. ExH was in sales and I hated the way he'd use sales tactics to gaslight me.

Anyone who works shifts. I like organising my holidays and life in general months in advance!

Police (bad experiences within my friend group)

Professional Rugby Player (arrogant, entitled, womanising)

Some people are not getting this thread and taking it way too personal, it’s should be based in someone’s own experience of working in that environment and is obviously subjective. Although there are some common themes.
It’s also the logistics of the job, some people don’t want a partner that works long hours, or is away for weeks, months at a time.
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Interesting so many for the police, i was warned about them but didn't believe. He ended up leaving me for someone he worked with..

A woman is much less capable of hospitalising me and much less likely to try.

DH was a barrister. We are now old.

We saw many marriages dissolve due to the gruelling hours and court demands. If you are in court and your mother dies, wife has a miscarriage or early labour, the judge decides if the case may be adjourned. Hardy and capable partners are required!

but you can’t rule someone out completely because of their job! You could be missing out on someone incredible.

Yes I can. It's my dating life. It's my life. What was the copper's name, David Carrick? How many women did he rape? And importantly, he used his badge to deter them from reporting. I'd rather miss out on someone "incredible" (no such thing, all humans make me feel tense in my own home) than risk ending up with the next David Carrick.

It’s your life @VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia I’m just very glad to have the husband I have!

Police/doctor/surgeon/nurse/paramedic because of the shifts and long hours they have to do.

I don’t think anyone is saying YOU shouldn’t be with someone with a certain job. But that they don’t want to be.

Its not reflective of your choices or your happiness.

Exactly!

My own job has come up several times on this thread and I'm not offended.

It's important to think about lifestyle and mindset when choosing a life partner and career is a big part of that.

Some posters have to make everything about them and see opinions as personal attacks.

Yep - my ex-job has come up multiple times, and my current job has in terms of the "anyone who works in the NHS"... it's partly tongue in cheek and partly people who might have completely incompatible lifestyles to yours.

If you work in an environment where you're not allowed to take annual leave during school holidays if you don't have kids - getting with a teacher might not be the smartest strategic move in terms of ever getting to have significant time together as a couple.

If you need certainty of knowing what's happening day to day - getting with someone who works rapidly changing shift patterns isn't a great idea.

And personality wise - some professions do tend to cluster around certain mind sets or can end up in teams where a culture tends to permeate.

Psychiatrists are another general no-no for me because 99.9% of the ones I have to work with treat all AHPs like shit and only ever listen to the nurses (and the 0.1% guy who is absolutely lovely is moving on this month and we're all gutted). They also treat our admin staff pretty crappily which is a real reflection on how they actually view themselves compared to the rest of the team.

@CoffeeWithCheese that’s interesting as I would say I’ve had the opposite with the psychiatrists I’ve worked with, they’re almost all absolutely lovely… but maybe that’s because they want me to help them with things 🤣 it’s made me laugh here that any NHS job has been ruled out… I’m middle management and work completely normal hours with great annual leave etc, no on calls. But that’s undesirable too apparently!

My own job has come up several times on this thread and I'm not offended

Same here- why are people taking this so personally?

If people don't want to date me due to my job (it's not the police btw lol) they have every right to make that choice- it's fine.

Noone is obliged to date me and I am not obliged to date anyone either. Actually, its far better I don't date anyone who believes we would be incompatible anyway as its hardly a good start to a relationship is it?

Chef- I worked in a pub as a teenager.

Not all lawyers have to be right all the time. I’m the pedantic type of lawyer 😁

I second lawyers. I once had a relationship with a trussed up corporate lawyer. He was the nastiest, rudest person I e ever known. And cruel to my lovely DC too (who was only 9 at the time). I’m afraid he’s put me off dating lawyers for ever.

Tricky one this but my partner is self employed in a very niche business and we are incredibly susceptible to the economic environment. He is very good at what he does but right now he has no income and it took us years to get out of debt from the last recession. There is no safety net of sick pay and no pension. Lovely bloke but not an economically successful one and it worries me a lot how we will cope when the children go to university and when we retire as we have very little despite us both working full time our whole lives.

So...small business owner who is self employed is not to be recommended unless you are making good money and can cover all costs when times are tough.

Why MH nurse, out of curiosity? I dated one and it was a disaster, so I'm keen to know your perspective!

@Deebee90

"any guys in the airline industry it’s where I work and they are all cheaters"

That's a very sweeping statement, there's lots of different roles in the airline industry and you can't tar them all with the same brush. Even pilots, there are some decent ones...... or so I'm told

Ahh steady on,we all must embrace the sweeping generalisation and not be so touchy. It’s not all about us(apparently)

What's wrong with advertising/marketing??
Or writer, photographer or director?

And @BronwenTheBrave why not marine biologists, museum curatiors or train drivers??
Or chartered accountants? These are oddly specific!

It’s not all about us(apparently)

But it's not though is it- unless you are offended that noone in this thread wants to date your husband? You are happy- great. Doesnt mean you get to dictate other people's dating choices HTH