Professions you would never date after working with them

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I’ll start - surgeons.

One of them told me his wife was a GP -“because only one of us (him) could have a proper career”

Also - the overriding narrative that every female who complained about their outcome or consultation had “mental health issues”. They just couldn’t conceive that anyone would complain about them.

I’m treating this thread as a ‘heads up’ on the problems that people experience in their professions… and how it could impact me if I chose to have a relationship with them.

That’s all….🤷🏼‍♀️

There have been some very broad brushstrokes applied to certain professions, but if you RTFT, you’ll see people popping up saying they’re in a great relationship with surgeons, police etc…

So who’s going to fess up to being with an Estate Agent…?? C’mon. You know you want to 🤣🤣

This thread is quite sad

This is such a negative and unnecessary thread.

Happy Mother's Day.

Entrepreneur - my experience is they tend to be BS artists.

Of course i need them. I just wouldn’t date them. I’m just being honest here. Life its hard already.

Police officer
Banker
Doctor
Lawyer

I know there are probably nice ones in all of the above categories but I'm old and tired and haven't got time to sift through for the unicorns.

Absolutely military.......they (IME) cheat like fuck on deployment......spent 6 months working with them in another country and it was a total eye opener.

@Collywobblewobbles is right.

For society to work, some people have to do the shit-work. The unpleasant stuff.

It doesn't mean that they're psychopaths, it just means that they're capable of doing the horrible stuff that you can't.

And be glad of that!

Sorry, police as well. I've met some real arseholes in the police. Their opinions on women, the homeless, football supporters, minorities and the mentally ill, are derogatory and their morals do not chime with mine. I work in transport so it's mostly the transport police I meet.

I couldn't date a soldier, lawyer, a doctor of any kind, politician, firefighter (safety concerns), parking warden (wannabe coppers) security guard (ditto) or snyone in the creative industries (because the current trend is identity and I can't be arsed with that shit).

Ok, get ready for a long list:

Composer
actor
film, tv, or theatre director
photographer
musician
pilot
lawyer
pro sports player
police
writer
someone who works in marketing or advertisement of ANY kind
any job at all in the restaurant business including: waiter, chef, sommelier …
I’ll stop there, but there are more, I’m sure 😅

Why do police officers keep coming up on this list? Aren’t they fine members of society? Don’t know any in real life

Have you been living under a stone love?

Why do police officers keep coming up on this list? Aren’t they fine members of society? Don’t know any in real life

Has it ever occurred to you that your last point might be directly related to your first?

😂

Senior ranking military personnel - I know one who is a lovely person but his view on his place in the real world is completely skewed. He’s under the impression when he leaves his very specific battlefield skill set should put him on a very salary with amazing benefits in whatever career he might chose. He sees civvie street jobs and careers as lesser and therefore totally in reach. I explained gently he couldn’t do my specific well paid job without the 15 years it’s taken me to get where I am and he was most disbelieving. Because his job is more important. There’s an arrogance drummed into them of ‘being the best.’ But it doesn’t map over. I’ve met others of his friends the same.

Chefs - worked with a lot in my youth. A lot of big egos and drug problems. A lot very unstable and arrogant.

Police officers. (I've worked for the police as a civilian). It's not just all the cheating that goes on, it's the unethical behaviour and acting as though they're above the law (and getting away with it because they cover for each other). Of course I met some great people there, but the number that weren't very nice people and just how bad they were, was shocking.

Social workers (and social pedagogues).

I used to work in the same office complex as the council’s social work (and protection) department and shared my office with two different social workers after graduating law school.

Many (not all, but enough…) were shockingly unkind, arrogant and the opposite of open minded in my personal experience.
I also happen to be related (by blood and or marriage) to some of them and just… no, not my cup of tea.

I am sure that they’re many exceptions and I was probably just a bit unlucky. But these experiences left me rather cautious.

Train drivers
Marine biologists
Fork lift truck drivers
Chartered (not certified) accountants
Museum curators
cab drivers, lorry drivers, and ambulance drivers
Chefs (but not celebrity chefs).
Kitchen fitters

Ouf. This is interesting. I have had a long term relationship with a surgeon and also a military officer. Both were brilliant men in their own way but the relationship failed as both felt they had to be permanently prioritised. The surgeon discouraged any career progression and I think went on to marry a woman who was at home with the children. This is fine just not what I wanted. The officer could not really see others viewpoints and had very little empathy. Is suspect because they live in a culture where you just have to work / push harder to succeed. I think we only lasted as long as we did because he was out of the country for large periods of time every year and I was quite happy getting on with things on my own

I think it is probably to be expected that people that are attracted to high demanding professional careers will have the expectation to be first. For many families this may work really well. Just not for me!

PE teachers
Chip on their shoulders

Police
Army
Prison service

When some organisations have deep rooted issues of misogyny - and involve shift work or rotations that are not compatible with family life then people can and should make judgements based on that.

All of my consultant friends are married to other doctors, I'm guessing as they spend so much time in each other's company and understand the pressures of the job.

Well as I have 2 colleagues who are divorced from surgeons and i dated one in my youth. I will put them at the very top of the avoid list.
Obviously I'm sure there are lovely ones but unfortunately i have a little too much evidence of them not being great at long term relationships.
Slight tendency to cheat also.

Candle stick maker. They get on my wick.

Police, because some, but not all, are attracted to the job for all the wrong reasons.