Professions you would never date after working with them

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I’ll start - surgeons.

One of them told me his wife was a GP -“because only one of us (him) could have a proper career”

Also - the overriding narrative that every female who complained about their outcome or consultation had “mental health issues”. They just couldn’t conceive that anyone would complain about them.

Got to love MN. My job listed as an unpalatable role. Funny y’all didn’t think it was so grim when you were loudly conspicuously clapping and battering the le crueset pots on a Thursday and putting rainbows and ❤️ NHS posters in your window.

Police, NHS, local authorities, public sector had to keep going . Keep,on keeping on and all that

Seems you only want to acknowledge public services when it directly suits you or you feel you might need something

Military
Police
Professional / semi professional football player

Stripper - married at first sight

Jesus Christ.

You have seen that many women have had such negative interactions with people from your profession, that they would not date someone working as that profession and your reaction is to be upset at the women?

Not upset that so many of your colleagues have done things that have been painful and damaging for women. But annoyed at the women who experienced it.

Maybe look at why your profession has such a bad reputation. Examines why it bothers you. My profession is listed here. I am not offended. People can not date me for all sorts of reasons. But also I recognise there are some behaviours I see in the industry that’s not acceptable. I don’t behave in that way. And I am trying to change things and my company is working on that change? So why be upset?

If you know the views of mners doesn’t apply to why are you bothered?

i don’t get your last sentence? Do you think if you work in a public service everyone should have to date you? What’s dating got to do with acknowledging?

Do you think people should have to treat people in public service differently to others?

What exactly are you so vexed about? That is a tirade and frankly unfathomable post. What are you Jesus Christing about?

I’m objecting to huge generalisation and stereotyping of /professions based on anecdote. Anecdotes are not evidence or proof

Currently, according to this thread my job is unpalatable My observation & experience is during the pandemic in 2020 when people needed or thought they might need public services it was all oh let’s clap! Put a love heart in the window.! Draw a rainbow to show appreciation! I didn’t like all that behaviour and you know what, I knew it was insincere and would be a temporary passing interest. It was.

I’m posting in response to my job being directly mentioned on this thread , and No, I am not seeking to date anyone and fortunately no one is seeking to date me. I have managed to conceal and obfuscate the true nature of my role to the extent I have ensnared a partner and I maintain a veil of duplicity & cunning to blend in.

Not my fault you can’t think of a way out of what you said.

Who said they thought you should hide your job to date? Who said the fact that they wouldn’t date someone in that job, means that no one should?

They have their own personal opinion based on their own personal experience. And you think they are the problem. Rather than the dickheads that are in your industry.

It’s people personal experience. Anecdotal or not. People are talking about their experience. Yet you are offended by it and annoyed about them voicing it. Rather than bothered that people have had negative experiences with people in your profession. That’s what I am saying Jesus Christ about.

You said you want some sort of extra acknowledgement in addition to doing your job. You want people to acknowledge your profession even when they don’t need it at that time. What does that look like in relation to this thread and dating?

Teacher
Social Worker
Politician

You’re ranting & erroneously paraphrasing simultaneously. Quite the multi- tasker. I’m also not going to be drawn by your goady comments or thought disordered tirade. By all means crack on though. Do continue to paraphrase and digress

You’re ranting & erroneously paraphrasing simultaneously. Quite the multi- tasker. I’m also not going to be drawn by your goady comments or thought disordered tirade. By all means crack on though. Do continue to paraphrase and digress

Anyone in the military. Mainly due to the fact that a partner comes second to the job and is expected to live in military accommodation and to move with the job.

Long way of saying you can’t answer m. But ok👌

I will refrain from directly responding to you, as this topic clearly seems to causing you a lot of consternation.

Police, military, doctors, anyone in emergency services

Anyone who gets into pointless and annoying Internet scraps with someone they've never met and never will.

Police: firstly because all seem to have affairs (worked at a big police unit) and secondly because of the young girl who died in London.

And the military, again those I've dealt with have had serious anger issues

This thread is bonkers 😁No job has 100% of one type of person working there! Even the practical concerns - shift work, having to move about a lot etc could be overcome if you genuinely fell in love.
FWIW, DH is a police officer and the nicest person ever! We’ve been married a long time and I have zero concerns re. affairs/racism/misogyny etc. We weathered the tricky years of shift work and he now has more regular hours. I can’t imagine my life without him.
Totally get that certain groups of people might come with some suspicion (including police following some of the stories we’ve all heard) but you can’t rule someone out completely because of their job! You could be missing out on someone incredible.

Doctors. I’ve worked with a lot. Some have been lovely but way too many have been arrogant and nasty.
PS I’m not stereotyping, this is how I found a high proportion of people in this profession to be. It’s my experience.

Psychiatrist. I've had reason to work with a few, and the phrase 'physician heal thyeslf' springs to mind.

Its not really true that surgeons are more likely to be psychopaths, its more like they tend to score higher than average on psychopathic traits (hence the detachment). But that's actually true of anyone who works in a total institution, such as a closed hospital ward, prison, military or residential school. People who score higher on psychopathic traits are drawn to authoritarian structures. It doesn't mean they're literally psychopaths (though I suppose some might be).

I haven't RTFT, because this is a bad thread.

I have dated and been married to;

A dentist

An architect

A psychiatrist

A builder

A photographer

An engineer

And my husband and the best man I've ever met, my heart for 20 years is a dev. It means f-all.

There were a couple of bad 'uns there. I'll let you all guess which they were.

Police (highest divorce rate of any profession), barristers (I know one lovely one but generally egotistical/narrcisitic), teachers & Drs (later two because of the high stress / low pay not making great compatibility).

Army. Having been a teenager and young woman in the 70s living in a town with two barracks it was hell on a night out or after school. Obnoxious sexist creeps.

Feel I need to defend abattoir workers here!

They're not riven with psychopathy as a group of people. In fact, many genuinely care about keeping animals calm and dispatching them in the most humane way possible. Many of them "burn out" of the job in a just a year or two and there are high levels of ptsd because the job seriously effects them emotionally.

So, write them off as romantic interests because you don't want to give that level of emotional support; because the idea of being so 'close' to an abattoir makes you uncomfortable or because you strongly believe abattoirs shouldn't exist, fair enough, but don't write them off because you think there must be something fundamentally wrong with them as people to do that job.

In every society there are incredibly hard and unpleasant jobs that don't sit comfortably with the many, those who do them find a strength of character most of us don't have and provide a service most of us benefit from every day.

They get high all the time

I'm a police officer and had to change my occupation when online dating as it put so many men off. The reason I was online dating was because there is no way I would date police officers. I have done in the past and was a disaster each and every time.
Having said that I have done and continue to work with amazing police men and women on a daily basis.