How do I tell my neighbour I can hear her?

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We moved in semi-recently and I can hear my neighbour having sex.

First time I thought it was a one off (maybe his birthday, 😂) as I didn't hear anything the first few months.

But now 2 or 3 times a week I can hear her (only her not him) as if she's in my hallway!
It's not a creaky bed or anything that can't be helped, it's loud, dramatic moans and 'yes, yes' type stuff

I have preteen/young teen kids who can clearly hear her too and it's really starting to piss me off when she starts.

DH and I manage to have sex without the whole house knowing. Never mind the neighbours.

I don't know her that well so I don't know whether to

A) bang on the wall (which I did last time but it was only my fist and I don't think she could hear it over her own squeals, so next time I'll use a shoe)

B) Wait till I see her and say something, which I have planned to do but just not seen her and I feel knocking on her door is way too intrusive. And WTF would I say.

C) put a note through the door. But again WTF do I write?

I feel almost rude asking her to keep it down in her own home but it's embarrassing sat in bed reading, listening to her howling.

A few nights ago DS was sat in bed with me and she started and he was so embarrassed.

Bollocks are they. It’s usually done for effect.

Even in the midst of a big orgasm you can still stifle it with a pillow stuffed over your face.

As someone who has had to have Frank discussions with current neighbours due to their loud abusive relationship (moving soon yay) I would absolutely find it funny to go round in this situation and have a word face to face as its just sex, nothing serious! I wouldn't be writing a note as I want to see the embarrassment. 😂 but seriously you shouldn't be woken up nor should your kids have to hear that. As my partner said many times about our situation, when the noise gets that loud, they aren't just arguing in their home, they are arguing in our home.

Next time you hear her screaming 'Yes Yes' just bang on the wall & shout 'No No'. If that doesn't work then post a note through her door asking her to please keep her private life more private & her entertaining noise down by a few decibels.

Maybe they would feel worse than you? You may get a suprise and they may apologise x

Your post made me laugh out loud - brilliant 👏

Any update OP? I recall reading this months ago. Did you write a note? Has it stopped?

My note to your neighbour would commence with you pretending to apologise to her for last night's noise from your bedroom, tell her you realise the walls are a bit thin and go from there. Add you will be more discreet in future, and end with your hope both she and her children if any were not unduly bothered, any other approach could escalate the situation.

No, please don't...

So awkward no. They may not even figure out it applies to them and think it's just fine since you claim to do it in your mock apology😂

I have had this problem once in an hotel, the noise from the next door room was screaming rather than the rattling of beds or passionate moaning, we both came to the conclusion he was using a giant vibrator on her, or an equally large artificial penis, or maybe a cricket-bat, the after affects were two-fold, meaning should we buy a sex toy, why aren't you like her, or the reverse why aren't you like him. To be honest we have never tied each other up, used chains, or ropes and been too shy to enter a sex-shop, and we do have children nearby to consider, excuses, excuses, but that's us ......

If you can hear them, they can hear you. So, when it stops, just clap.

next time they start have a karaoke machine ready ( you can buy mini ones really cheap online) and start to sing “push it “ by salt n peppa -push it real good 🤣🤣

It made me laugh too. Of course she’s a porn star wannabe … what a load of nonsense with all the oooohs and the aahhhhss and the yes yes yes bollocks.

I had a beautiful orgasm during sex yesterday and you know what, I had a pillow over my mouth and there was barely a peep from me.

All this noise during sex - in my opinion most of it is utter fake attention seeking bollocks. I’d not stand for it from a neighbour each night .. I would be blatant. Knock at the door. Write a note. Whatever.

But I wouldn’t be letting some random encroach on my personal space by her sex noises .
Fuck that shit. Literally.

Hello, I'm new here.
very awkward when this happens lol. I had this with my neighbour a few years ago when we moved in, and when I caught her one morning I mentioned it (politely and gently) and said it was waking up my newborn.

She was very apologetic bless her and since that we haven't heard her and her partner's intimate nights.

Only if there’s something very wrong with them.

How so?!

Spoken like a true nonce.
I hope your hard drive gets checked.

Do you people think puberty doesn’t begin until the teens?!? I’m so confused.

I looked back through your posts and the only things you've commented on are this thread and a thread about a 15yr old looking at porn.
You clearly have a thing about pre/young teens and sex.
Get fucked you horrible nonce.

They actually are tbh , i feel for you that you have never experienced it. I to had your opinion , then i relised what all the fuss was about. 😆 ..
43 yr old lady with 2 adult sons. Now getting married to "said offender" of making me make that awful noise 😏

I'd just go round and say can I please have a word and say that there bareback activities are effecting my titinus so keep it down for my kids trauma sake 😆

REcord it with a good quality recorder and ask her if she wants a copy?
she will soon belt up