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Which activities make your heart sink?

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TootTootPeanutbutter · 06/03/2024 15:37

Each to their own but which activities that your friends and family love are just not for you?

I’m genuinely pleased that others love it but I’m really not a fan of going for a walk unless there’s some other purpose e.g Exploring a city. I find it boring and difficult and often painful(Due to disabilities)

Also anything involving clubs or alcohol. I don’t drink and I have sensory issues so they’re too loud for me.

There are others but I want to hear what activities you dread.

TIA

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ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 06/03/2024 21:46

Work related "fun activities"

Icebreaker rubbish - 2 truths & lie, your 3 ideal dinner guest, something the group doesn't know about you (if I wanted them to know, I would have told them already!)

Roleplay - no I don't want to pretend to be a customer and act out potential scenarios

Team building exercises- find a way to pass thr coins around the team or get through a hula hoop or any of that shite. An orientation course or any such other nonsense.

Just let me get on with my job!

sittingingold · 06/03/2024 21:49

I hate walking too.
I've got a dog so either a walk involves them yanking me about because they want to sniff everything, picking up a million tiny tiny tiny little turds because they won't crack it all out in one go and avoiding other dogs because my dog is reactive (rescue).

If I don't have the dog on a walk I then feel guilty they are missing out.

Luckily? My toddler is a lazy arse and doesn't like walking much so at least I can zoom along at my own pace and not stop and admire the fag butts (joke) and sticks she picks up when she is out of the pushchair...

sittingingold · 06/03/2024 21:51

And Christmas 'do's' with a toxic workplace where everything is thinking - wish you had just given me the money this shit meal has cost and then having to bundle the anorexic boss into a cab because she doesn't eat, but does drink.

Thelazygardener · 06/03/2024 21:55

Board/Card/Drawing Games at Christmas or family gatherings. DHs family are obsessed with them and excitedly buy new ones for every event….i can honestly think of nothing worse….it goes on for HOURS!

MoonWoman69 · 06/03/2024 22:16

Absolutely any sport, involved in or watching, although I don't mind watching rugby union.
Any kind of mooching - along canals, in shopping centres, around towns... If I'm going to mooch about, I really do have to have a purpose!
Drag acts, detest them with a passion.
Jamming sessions in pubs - we had a mate that used to come to our motorbike meetings and bring his guitar. People just used to wander off and I'd be left, smiling til my cheeks ached, trying to avoid the embarrassing eye contact, in between the "being lost in the music" eye shutting shit! Not only did he play, he sang at me
too... Cringeworthy!
Bingo, I find it too panicky!
Listening to people enthusing about golf!
People showing me photos of people I don't know/do know but don't get on with and don't want to know/or want to get on with!
Drinking all night. I'm ok with a couple of drinks thanks, no, I'm not on antibiotics/pregnant (at 50 odd!!!)/a fun sponge - I have had my drinking days, a couple will do if that these days!
Party games. I'd rather not swing a tennis ball in a pair of tights, off my head, to knock bottles over thanks.
Having to go "see" new babies... Ugh God no! Bring em round when they're 8, I'll meet em then!
I am quite a nice person really, just had too many years of having to do things I don't want to!!! 🤣🤣🤣

ALongHardWinter · 06/03/2024 22:21

sockarefootwear · 06/03/2024 18:38

A day at the races. I caved and went along once and can't imagine any activity ever bringing together more things that I hate. Having to 'dress up' and being expected to wear uncomfortable 'dressy' shoes, standing around for long periods of time, surrounded by people getting pissed in the middle of the day, having to pretend to be interested in watching something that I find mind numbingly boring, lots of mansplaining (from men how misinterpret my disinterest on betting as a failure to understand how it works) then a long drive home.

I have never been asked to go to a bottomless brunch but would have to pass. When I first heard of them I really wanted to go but then I found out that a) the bottomless bit is the alcohol not the food and b) you have a strict time limit. I imagined it as a way to spend a morning sitting with friends and chatting whilst being brought a never ending supply of lovely food!

Oh! I also thought the 'bottomless' bit meant the food! And I didn't know there was a time limit on it either!

mitogoshi · 06/03/2024 22:27

Most sports, can hack a cricket match as long as I'm not driving

toomuchlikemyusername · 06/03/2024 22:29

Murder mystery evenings. I really just don't care who did it.

twingiraffes · 06/03/2024 22:33

Standing outdoors in the blazing heat / freezing wind / chilly drizzle / mud bath or any combination thereof at a music festival, having my eardrums assaulted by the racket and wondering how long I can last before I need to make use of the unspeakably grim toilets.

Glastonbury? Catch me first.

Windthebloodybobbinup · 06/03/2024 22:41

Board games where you have to watch a YouTube video to explain the incredibly complicated rules! I've only got so much space in my brain, and I'm not at work!

Devonshiregal · 06/03/2024 22:43

ZittiEBuoni · 06/03/2024 16:06

Every family gathering ever, SIL gets everyone to play poker. I HATE IT.

Aww. I bloody hate poker etc but my family all eat then dash to be as far away from each other as possible. I’d really like if my family would participate in games - just to spend time together, engaging you know. Sorry didn’t mean to be a knob just suddenly felt the sadness haha. But I do agree generally that poker is boring, monopoly, etc too haha

HowNice23 · 06/03/2024 22:54

Sharing plates! Tapas outside of Spain! Under pressure to make a group decision on a selection of somethings probably overpriced in the UK and half of which I don't like, all on teensy plates. Just let me choose a main course for myself!

GauntJudy · 06/03/2024 23:00

Karaoke
Bongo bingo type events
Games at baby showers

Dublingirrl · 06/03/2024 23:12

Drag shows. Magic shows. Fancy dress. Paint balling. Uugghh

Oganesson118 · 07/03/2024 08:23

I don't like musicals at the best of times (I don't mind Les Mis, that's about the only one) but these "Sing along" musicals that seem to crop up from time to time strike me as a fresh type of hell.

Oganesson118 · 07/03/2024 08:25

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 06/03/2024 21:46

Work related "fun activities"

Icebreaker rubbish - 2 truths & lie, your 3 ideal dinner guest, something the group doesn't know about you (if I wanted them to know, I would have told them already!)

Roleplay - no I don't want to pretend to be a customer and act out potential scenarios

Team building exercises- find a way to pass thr coins around the team or get through a hula hoop or any of that shite. An orientation course or any such other nonsense.

Just let me get on with my job!

I actually went to a meeting where I enjoyed the icebreakers the other day, I'm worried there's something wrong with me, I usually cringe my way through them.

Needmorelego · 07/03/2024 08:28

@Oganesson118 I used to hate icebreaker things with a passion and would literally dread them.
Then I hit peri menopause and started not giving a f what people think of me and now I don't care if I say/do something daft or if it's a bit cringe 😂

gannett · 07/03/2024 08:43

Shopping as leisure. Just why. When I need or want something I plan ahead where to get it, or which places I might have to compare between, then my only aim is to get in and get out as soon as possible. Shops are hideous and stressful places to actually spend time.

Team-building. The thing that will most boost my morale is a pay rise, not getting to know my colleagues any better than I already do.

Spas. As a ticklish person I can't do massages and as a person who wears glasses I can't do saunas.

I'm neutral on board games - not my first choice, bit boring, but am OK with taking part. But I draw the line at the ones that make you clown around and act shit out. Charades and the like. I'll save losing my dignity for the dancefloor.

Fancy dress. I'd actually love to love it, people who are good at it always look so impressive. But you can't half-arse it, and I can't be bothered with the amount of effort required to properly pull it off. And a half-arsed costume looks worse than just not making an effort at all.

Camping. This doesn't make my heart sink because I find it so unspeakable no one I know would dare suggest it to me. I still haven't really processed that it's something anyone does willingly.

On the other hand I love walking - prefer a destination rather than aimless "go for a walk" but can go for miles yomping. I used to hate sport at school but do it loads now - admittedly the individual sports I actually enjoy, I've left the hell of team sports like hockey and netball far behind. I love pub quizzes because I get to show off my general knowledge, I'm aware that makes me a dick but whatever. And I still love clubbing, dancing all night in a dark room can give me a buzz for days afterwards.

Maddy70 · 07/03/2024 08:59

Sister circles....

Maddy70 · 07/03/2024 08:59

Sister circles....

Needmorelego · 07/03/2024 08:59

@Maddy70 what's a "sister circle"?

Meadowfinch · 07/03/2024 09:03

Fairground rides, rollercoasters & anything 3D - make me horribly sick.

White water rafting - just plain stupid

Motor Racing - I hate the noise and can't think of a more pointless waste of time.

DrJoanAllenby · 07/03/2024 09:05

Any kind of swimming or water activity other than sailing where I can step on and off a boat without getting wet.

Amusement parks - awful places.

Loud restaurants.

BreakfastAtMilliways · 07/03/2024 09:11

Tortoise2go · 06/03/2024 19:37

When I was asked to join a book club I said I only read non fiction (

I love to read. I do not love having to expose my thoughts and feelings about what I am reading, or having to listen to other people’s mostly half-baked and ill-informed opinions about it.

(But then I did do an English degree, a sure way of (a) putting you off such gatherings and (b) ensuring you come across as an insufferable know-all to everyone else).

Maddy70 · 07/03/2024 09:40

Needmorelego · 07/03/2024 08:59

@Maddy70 what's a "sister circle"?

I'm invited all the time groups of women "sharing "