What's your MN Niggle

[JackThayer]

Mine is when the thread is something along the lines of "what's your favourite dinner?" Or "Worst holiday you've ever been on?" And OP replies to every single post!

Bad/criminal/evil behaviour = they must have mental health issues

Maybe they don’t mean it but for me it implies mental ill health = bad, thus adding to stigma

And “issues” minimises genuine and sometimes life changing illnesses

I do recognise that people don’t want to accept that shitty evil people exist so this is their way at rationalising it but it’s a crappy narrative

"Your child keeps taking extra snacks? Have you considered that he/she could have prader willi syndrome?"

When the first line of the OP is ' Just that really ' or " As the title says'.

When the OP is very long, like a dozen paragraphs or something, I don't mind that, but when a poster responding quotes the whole bloody post again, and again, and again, instead of just copying and pasting the relevant part...! Takes me back to Yahoo Group message feeds of yore, when you had to scroll down a squillion repetitions of the original message to read the latest three word response to it. 🙄

Yes to people quoting the whole opening post.

Also, people posting loads of irrelevant details, or posting a blow by blow account when a quick summary would suffice.

The transphobia, elitism and general ignorance some posters seem proud to share with the class.

Endless typos. Some of what's written is just incomprehensible.

Snippy men who have to get digs in no matter what.

People who try to spot tiny things in order to catch people out then go on and on about it, even if the op is distressed.

People who quote "unmumsnetty hugs"

I don't like how ads appeear like a thread.

I've actually never seen any transphobia here. Can you give me an example?

People who think etcetera is shortened to ect. It's etc. folks.

The same posters posting over and over again with threads in a similar vein (often with several usernames) in which the replies then fawn all over said poster despite their refusal to actually do anything to help themselves out of their situations and have an excuse for everything.

Sound familiar?

People who reply to an OP with "This has been posted before". Well yes, if you stick around on a general chat forum then people will ask things that others have asked in the past.
Another one - people who reply on a thread about celebrities with "never heard of them", as if their unfamiliarity with popular culture makes them intellectually superior. Just scroll on by love.

Bloody poems/songs that posters make up on the back of a thread. I just can't read them.

When one adult tells another to "grow up" it's so bloody patronising!

People who say “off you pop” Grrrrr

This is driving me utterly bonkers.

Neurodiversity seems to crop up in every single thread no matter how unrelated.

Posters who compose emails for people to send full of legalese. I would like them to stop that forthwith.

I really dislike the phrase “give your head a wobble” I see it often on MN but have never heard it in real life.

Also roll my eyes when someone replies along the lines of “what did they say when you to spoke to them about it?” Clearly they’ve not spoken to whoever, that’s why they’re posting on MN!

This, or someone who attempts to shut another poster down by calling them 'privileged just because they have a view they don't agree with. Despite knowing absolutely nothing about the person.

Oh and posters who go to great pains to conceal the sex of their child. ‘They had a lovely time at the beach yesterday but when we went to get an ice cream they had a tantrum as they dropped it. We went to get them another, and when they asked for vanilla…’

I mean - why? They’re either male or female, and it’s hardly an outing detail.

Yes, especially if it's the first reply, and especially if the OP has written about half a page, and particularly when all they add is "I agree".

Just thought of another one. On a thread where the OP has said why they haven't raised the issue with the person concerned, people who reply with "And what happened when you asked them about it?". It's so smug.

Overuse of the word "grim".
"Comparison is the thief of joy" said on so many threads.
Accusing people of "hate" or "bullying" when they're just disagreeing.

Also smug posters when the OP isn’t sure she’s ready for visitors after a difficult birth. ‘You do you OP, but I threw a party for 30 people to meet my newborn a few days after we got back from hospital’ (yes that was an actual reply)