What's your MN Niggle

[JackThayer]

Mine is when the thread is something along the lines of "what's your favourite dinner?" Or "Worst holiday you've ever been on?" And OP replies to every single post!

Niggles for me are

Posting in the wrong place.

On lighthearted threads (such as who do you irrationally dislike) posters that pick through posts to counter argue

a specific one, but overuse of strike through bolds and . There's one specific poster who does a combo of these in every post.

dead subtle that, “boots !”

This drives me batty.

Me... I've noticed that the sun hasn't been as shiny of late.

Academic ( annoying) poster... where are your stats to prove this?

Gobshite.

Yep.

People who do an advanced search on you. And then use it to slag you off on other posts.

Quoting the OP

Not reading the full thread.

Place marking posts.

Picking up on a spelling or grammar error and making that the focus of the thread. Especially when posters try to be funny about it. So tedious.

Posters quoting the entire OP in their reply.
Posters who haven't RTFT and/or don't realise you can filter and just read all the OPs posts.
The differences in functionality between the app and desk top site.
Third person descriptions of the 'let's call them ...', 'friend A and friend B' variety, when 99% of the time the OP is one of the protagonists. I find the phrasing so twee and irritating!
Posters who are unnecessarily harsh and unpleasant when it's clear the OP is vulnerable/struggling and really doesn't need a kicking. They're like sharks sensing blood.

@MyLovelyPurse

I can't remember exactly when but it's usually on long running threads that may or not be posted by a troll. I don't know if it's any particular poster as I don't check but they can be long! I think I saw some on the stalker crow thread from a little while back. It may be good (it's not my thing), but poetry always makes my insides itch so I can't read them.

God, that's awful. Someone dragged up a post of mine from 3 years ago to use against me. Talk about desperate.

@Maireas yep, I've had some really nasty comments.

I don't like the ads, I keep clicking on them by accident. At one point it was dildos and cleaning products. Can't have been aimed at me because I'm messy as fuck and never seem to have time for sex or dildos.
I get annoyed by people correcting my spelling.
Pile ons when the OP is distressed and upset.
Posts that start with how would you allocate budget for this huge fucking wage that I'm on....

Yeah agree - some people can be quite vicious and obviously have far too much time on their hands if they need to go playing detective on an internet forum!

People who start by saying they’ll be quick then witter on for 10 paragraphs.

People who don’t use paragraphs to break up some diatribe.

The constant “maybe they are ND” when someone is a pain in the backside. Half the populations cannot be ND.

Anyone who claims they are being attacked or others are mean for disagreeing. And those who get aggressive.

When the OP says they have name changed as it's outing. I just feel like that draws even more attention to it.

People who type a massive wall of text without paragraphs. And posts that end up being an endless stream of consciousness to the point that it’s hard to know what the fuck is going on.

I’m not going to go through nasty transphobic threads to find ‘specific examples’ for people who honestly must be feigning ignorance about this sites’ reputation for said transphobia

I'm another person who has seen no evidence of transphobia here.

I have seen thoughtful, evidence-based posts on the harm being done to women by so-called trans agenda.

If they don't say this, they'll immediately get 'interesting first post, OP' replies.

Posters who say ‘People only think/say/do X on MN. In real life, no-one does…’

I can’t tell if they’re implying that the posts on MN about whatever it is are lying, or if they’re just so thick they don’t realise that posters on MN are actual people who do actual stuff in real life, when not posting on MN.

I suspect they’re just so insular that they don’t understand their limited experience in their limited circle of friends and family isn’t universal.

I find it frustrating why people can't just be honest, it's anonymity afterall but there's so much projecting/overcompensating for inadequacies

When someone is rightly angry or irritated about her partner's awful behaviour, without fail one of the first replies will be suggesting that she feels that way because of perimenopause - or <gnashes teeth> "peri" or "meno".
I've had a lifetime of seeing men sneering at angry or upset women, saying it's PMT or they're "on the rag". And now we have women dismissing other women's emotions (and sometimes their own) as being down to hormones and therefore irrational.

Check out the FWR threads. You’ll be spoilt for choice.

Mine's pointless use of strikethrough! Sorry 😂

Any thread about food, it always turns into a competition about who eats the least. Posters claiming they only need a few deep breaths of air to sustain them and haven't gone above a size -50 in their life. Utterly tedious, just eat a fucking Twix fgs.
Competitive grossness threads, the amount of farting, nose picking and arse scratching that gets bragged about is 🤮

“For context”. Who ever says this apart from on MN every second post.

Mine is when someone posts and they are clearly at rock bottom- maybe a very disabled child, or young baby and no support; they come for advice and on the whole, they usually get kind, thoughtful suggestions; but there are always a few posters who seem to get an particular pleasure in saying something shitty.

Yes, I know you can report but I always think that the poor OP will probably fixate on the few horrible posts and not take in the actual decent advice.

In the same vein- I don't have a disabled child so I don't think it's helpful to say 'well I would just do x, y, z.' Because I don't really know what I would do. I have been a parent to a small ill child, so I do try and comment on those posts and I know precisely that feeling at 4am in the morning when you think that everything is dreadful.

I'm certainly not saying 'just be kind' but I am saying 'try not to be a complete dickhead.'