Would you leave your almost 18 year old for ten days to go on holiday?

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He's not remotely interested in coming and we do plenty with him anyway so we are thinking that this year we will go away for what will be ten days. Holiday on the Caribbean

First time I've ever left him for any length of time - there was a few days last year when we went to Portugal - I know, I know! But this isn't a deliberate thing, just how it's worked out

He's sensible on the whole. He will be 3 weeks off his 18th when we go away. However he is a very typical teen and will he take the opportunity to have a little skive off college and his part time job? Perhaps. Can't say for sure he won't. But overall, he's relatively sensible

I'd have my best friend popping in every day to ensure the cat has been fed properly and that he's not left every door unlocked and his 25 year sister is also local and will pop in and check he's ok regularly

Not quite sure why I feel anxious. It's not an all consuming anxiety and it's probably peri menopause driven tbh but I just want to feel relaxed about leaving him

So, would you trot off without a concern? Or would you be wanting to make sure all bases were covered so you could relax a bit?

Standards. Is that what it is? 🤔

Thanks @K0OLA1D! Appreciate the support

Why not just ... go? @Newchapterbeckons you're very strange indeed. Maybe get some help for those issues you clearly have.

(Not from someone with a tattoo though!)

Yes. My daughter stayed at home when she was 17 .No problem.

How would you know a dr has tattoos unless they were super obvious? It makes no sense at all. 😂

Also those saying when they are ready, they genuinely won’t ever be ready if you don’t loosen the reins a little. He’ll be fine Op. enjoy your holiday

Exactly. That threads been a whirlwind!

Absolutely. I don’t do grubby tattoos and we like to spend time with our teens. Leaving them alone for ten days is selfish and shit. I don’t even believe op has invited him. What teen would turn down a trip like this unless their parents were unbearable? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well I'd say go. I go married a few weeks shy of my 18th.

🤣 At this point, I genuinely think you post just to get a reaction

@Newchapterbeckons hard of reading as well as weird!

@K0OLA1D it's funny isn't it? I genuinely worry about posters like this. Clear MH issues sadly

😄 I couldn’t care any less tbh - it’s not my teen or house or cat! 🐈‍⬛

Just making up whole stories about your life and conversations you apparently haven't had with your dc! Wild!

Poor kid

Checked out parenting

When is he going to university?

He won't be alone all of the time.

His sister and a neighbour will be checking in on him constantly by the sounds of it.

More than what I'd organise, to be honest.

You mean he isn’t already going on holiday with his friends himself? My mum was leaving me in charge of my younger brother while working away at that time, and a lot of 17-18 yr olds are travelling on gap years or moving abroad for uni. He sounds more sensible than I ever was, so I’m sure he’d be fine. Lock away anything particularly valuable or fragile though - I’ve never known anyone who won’t have a few friends over for some beers when parents are out of the country and he sounds like the type that will clean up after but it’s almost unfair how badly he would feel if something you loved got broken lol.

If they doing A levels shortly then no I wouldn’t. After is different

I am so depressed by this thread. Really you can't leave your almost adult DC at home?
I voluntarily stayed at (my parents' very rural) home during my late teens whilst they had holidays (under the guise of caring for the dog/s). Once I was was 17 and driving, I really loved it.

Why would you be depressed by a thread on the internet. Everyone is different. Some people are robust at 17 and others not.

Yes. Without a moment's hesitation. At that age his grandfather was at sea.

@K0OLA1D I'm embarrassed for her/him. Desperate for our attention now

I have to agree with this, obviously there are exceptions and you probably wouldn’t leave your recently heartbroken suicidal 23 year old alone for 10 days etc but at 18 they are then legally an adult and if they are not ready then for reins to be loosened then when are they ready. At 18 they are perfectly entitled to leave, change their name and never have any contact with you again if they so wished. I’ve known of 18 year olds married with kids, soldiers at 18, people who have qualified as nurses at 20, it is slightly ridiculous suggest an 18 year cannot be left for 10 days. Until 18 the law is so grey I wouldn’t bother for more than a night or 2 unless unavoidable