How old were you when you lost your virginity?

[Soubriquet]

And if you have children old enough, how old were they?

I keep hearing about how kids are losing their virginity younger and younger now so I was curious to know how old you were, compared to your children.

I was 17. Dh was 13.

DD is 10 and still at the age where anything sexual grosses her out (thank god). They are currently doing sex education at school at the moment and she comes home horrified every time

17, DH was 16 - not with each other.

We’d been together since we were 15, he was a nice boy and we stayed together until we were 20.

@Soubriquet where is your evidence that people are losing virginity earlier? My understanding is that it's very variable (big link to socio-economic and cultural factors) but average is still around 16/17.

36 - I was waiting for marriage. I don't regret it. I didn't advertise it though!

One of my siblings was 12 (my parents went mental) and I have a friend who was 13 and says she loved it. I'd be devastated if my children were that yiung.

Most of my friends were at uni when they lost theirs.

20. Wish it had been later tbh with someone I was with for a lot longer

I was 15 nearly 16 and husband was 13 ( not together) I would hope both of my kids are at least 15 minimum but as old as possible preferred

22, which I felt at the time was very late but I’ve realised now it just doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t go back and change it. A few of my friends were the same age, a few were much younger, and one or two were older.

DH I think 17/18.

Same

Absolutely this. Virginity is a social construct rooted in purity culture.

20 or 21, I grew up in a strict household. So I was expected to keep my virginity. I basically did everything but intercourse. Then randomly had a one night stand on a night out in London, I mean how dangerous! I didn’t know this guy. Although he said he was a dentist and turns out he was (but who knows what he could have done). I went back with him to his mate’s house, and honestly we shagged all night. It’s like it all just came out of me! He was bloody amazing, a few years older I think about 28ish? But god he was soooo good and an all round amazing sexual experience for me. Of course no love etc etc I didn’t know him but as far as sex goes he was good, and had a shed load of stamina he came about 4 times and then would start again! We didn’t sleep!

17, DH I think when he was 18. Both relatively late on for the time.

DS was 18, long term girlfriend. DD is 17 and not remotely interested, and neither are any of her peer group. DS was the first amongst his peer group, too.

So round here it seems to be much later, this generation.

14 and whilst I don't regret it, it was with a boyfriend I loved, I grew up too fast in general and I hope my own children will take life a bit slower, no shame at whatever age they want to have sex but I hope they enjoy their childhood.

15 this was in 2001.

Just turned 19

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I was 21, on my wedding night!❤️
Sometimes wish I could have that night again! It was so special!

I was very old (23) but I had a phobia of penetration (still not that keen on it, tbh). I had done everything else but. A boyfriend made me go to a sex therapist who gave me some dilators and got me used to the idea. It was the first time I had managed to have sex. I don't think I'd have faced my fears if it weren't for that (very patient) guy.

Why? Mind your own business...

I remember going to high school at 13. One minute we were young middle school kids, the next minute, most of my peers were are having sex. Most of the girls were with older lads. All I could see was peer pressure and coercion everywhere. I couldn't give a shit what the other kids thought of me, but I got called frigid and tight. For not wanting sex at 13/14! I just thought "but you are still kids" I found it a really weird time and never got why they wanted to be 'grown up' in that way.

DD is 12 and is similar to me in her nature. She's still at the "urgh, boys!" stage.

I was 15. It sounds young to me now but I was quite sensible and had taken myself to the doctors to go on the pill before having sex with my long term boyfriend. My parents were very strict so I was absolutely terrified of getting pregnant.

16

Why bother answering the thread ?

14 . To be honest it was a positive experience and I don’t regret it at all. Was with my first love and we were together quite a long time after.

My DH was 18.

I "lost my own virginity" or as i prefer to say, "became sexually active" at age 15 when I started masturbating.

A penis doesn't (and shouldn't) hold that much inportance, and i find it a bit strange that we all view sex from such a male centric place.

Also, how many times we have sex seems to tally against how many times a male ejaculated and not how many times we women orgasm. "Oh we've had sex twice today!" = he orgasmed twice. Whereas as a woman, I think we should centre ourselves in our language around sex. "I came 6 times today!" Is way more sex positive and wholesome. Female pleasure should be front and centre in our conversations.

It's such a sexist, regressive, patriarchal way to count our sexual experiences, isn't it?

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