How old were you when you lost your virginity?

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And if you have children old enough, how old were they?

I keep hearing about how kids are losing their virginity younger and younger now so I was curious to know how old you were, compared to your children.

I was 17. Dh was 13.

DD is 10 and still at the age where anything sexual grosses her out (thank god). They are currently doing sex education at school at the moment and she comes home horrified every time

19 and I was the last of my friends by years. No regrets though.

19, no regrets.

15, no regrets. I’d been desperate to for ages 😂

19- very old for my peer group but I was very shy

15 was a with a friend and more a get it out of the way thing

I was 18

Don't know about DH - we've never discussed it. Probably younger than me.

Children are too young

17 with a woman, nearly 19 with a man.

18, to DH which even makes me want to barf with how twee it is

@BingoMarieHeeler Aww it's not 'twee,' it's cute.

21

This may sound odd, but as a small child, thinking back, I was very sexualised for my age. And I am constantly trying to remember why. Thinking back, I don't know at that age, how I would have done and known the things I did. But the brain is great at blocking things out.
In my young teens, I was seeing the same boy, we did everything but have sex, as he wanted to wait until I was 16 (he was 3 years older). That never happened with him, as I sadly moved away before then.
I lost it properly at 18 with the boyfriend I'd been seeing for a few months. He was 38. There was no pressure at all. I was just ready.
As for my DH... He was 11. I have explained that this was not actually losing his virginity, this was child abuse. He just shrugs it off. He says it was with a woman who was his mates neighbour, that apparently "had" all the young boys in the area. This woman was in her mid to late 40's! (This was in the early 1970's). To say I was absolutely horrified is an understatement. We always assume sexual predators are male, which is all wrong.

(I myself occasionally have awful second long flash backs of being abused by an older female relative, but don't even know where to start in tackling this. And the horrible thing is, thinking about other things that occurred around that time, I think it actually did happen).
Sorry TMI there, but this thread triggered my dilemma surrounding it again.
I am also sorry and sad to read about other peoples experiences of abuse on here. 💐

15 (almost 16), with my boyfriend of just over a year, who was 17. He had 'done stuff' with his girlfriend before me, but we were each other's firsts. We stayed together for about another year. Drifted apart when he went to Uni. In hindsight, I kind of wish I'd been older, but I don't regret who it was with.
I was definitely one of the youngest in my peer group, Most were 17/18.

My longest term partner was 18 when he lost his, from memory (not to me!) He was a shy kid, and only blossomed at Uni.

I assume you mean 18.

If someone was abused as a child or something it doesn't count as losing your virginity. x

I was 15. It was with a nice boy who was17 in a bed, so I can't complain . But now when I look back I think I just went along with it, I don't think it occurred to me to question whether I was ready.

Eldest dd was 18, she had limited experience with boys so decided to lose her virginity via one night stand to get it out the way. She says she doesn't regret it but I wonder if she will one day.

Youngest dd was 15 to a boy she thought she loved. I hoped it wouldn't last and thankfully it didn't.

There was a woman who lived in my area when I was a teenager who also slept with young teenage boys, “breaking them in” she called it. She was early 30s 🤮

to me it seems that young people tend to be waiting longer now? I have two much younger sisters who are late teens and early twenties and there doesn’t seem to be as much pressure as there used to be and they are willing to wait longer.

when I was younger (in my thirties) it seemed like you were ‘late to the party’ if past 16 or 17! I know people that would just do it because they wanted to lose their virginity. I know someone who doesn’t know the name of the person they lost it with…

anyway, I was 17 and so was DP (but not with each other). Even at 17 I felt late compared to my friends but looking back how silly was I. I rushed into things with my then 20 year old boyfriend who had multiple sexual partners since he was 14 and was a twat , I wish I waited 🫣🫣

I was 13, my boyfriend at the time was 16, I really wish I had waited until I was a bit older. I wasn't pressured at all and it was a positive experience, we were together for another 5 years after that.

33 - yep I'm an outlier! Was with my husband.

Then why do you wish you had waited? What actual difference would it have made, do you think?
This is a genuine question.

I was 13 when I started exploring the sexual side with my then 17 year old bf, and we ended up having full on PIV sex when I was 14, and I definitely do not regret it at all. If anything, maybe the whole relationship, as it wasnt the healthiest, but you live and learn.

(to clarify, though, age of consent in my country is 14 when the partner is a peer and not in a position of power, which was the case, he was my best friends older brothers best friend!)

I am a loss for words.

I cringed tbh.

17 to DH who was 16. Still together.

DD was 14, nearly 15, to 15yo boyfriend. Was on the pill (as I suspected they might get carried away). She is still with him 18 months later.

Me: three months short of 25, with my now DH, who was 25 at the time. We were each other's first and only. 28 years together so far.

My children (currently aged 24, 23 and 14) - the older two, no idea, none of my business. I never talked to my mum about sex (I'd rather have died), and nor do mine talk to me. We're just not that sort of family. The younger, shows no interest in anything like that just yet, similar to myself around that age. Long may it continue.

15 to my 19 year old boyfriend at the time. Pretty normal for my friendship group. Looking back was such a terrible experience and I do hope my children wait until they are older!