If you are a sahm...

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Is that how you explain what you do if someone asks?
What do you say if someone asks your job?

I'm confused by this thread - are people commenting to be deliberately goady??

I am stay home right now and plan to be job hopping also, when the next part-time job turns up, and if I get crap manager, I will be home again and will apply again or perhaps might not.

Okay you're not employed but by that metric many of us work two jobs.

SAHMs and WM both get judged I suppose. WM are called selfish, while SAHMs are seen as too passive to be girl bosses. Society should really support women who choose to have children early but seek to return to education and careers later in life. There is too much stigma around older women pursuing careers and entering the workforce.

Oh sorry, you asked WHY can't he? We have a mortgage (live in the South East). Even with a reasonable salary, it would be too tight for him to cover all the bills including fun stuff.

I just say I'm at home with the kids for the time being, depending on how close I am to the person I add that technically I am a carer for my kids, but I don't disclose that or their additional needs to casual acquaintances.

I say I'm a housewife. As all our kids have left home and the youngest is 22, I can't honestly say I'm a SAHM! Too young to say retired to be honest. But I do work (just not paid), do loads around the house, have a sometimes full on volunteer role, decorate, do lots for my dad who is elderly and although not housebound yet, needs a lot of help at home and for hospital appointments.

A lovely old neighbour who loves to know all of us who live at home are actually not on benefits, kept asking me do I work and I would say whatever it is and if she seems unable to understand that I do not live on benefits ( so what if I did?) , not sure how this will change her own life by asking

6 hours a day, Mon-Fri?

30 hours of activities a week, every week?

It's very interesting that women on this thread don't think that staying at home with children is 'work' and has value ...... and that only paid outside-of-the-home- work has value.

Values have changed

Yes, I say I'm a stay at home mum because I am. What else am I meant to be saying?

That I stay at home with him/that I look after him 🤷‍♀️

If someone asks what your job is, I'd say you're unemployed. If someone asks what you do, I'd say you're a stay at home parent.

@TTheMost 😂 🍪

I say I'm at home with them as they're usually with me.

No one is saying it doesn't have value - but it's not work. It's not a job.

It's a lifestyle choice.

I wonder how they feel about childminders, or are they workers because they're paid?

@FunionsRFun Okay you're not employed but by that metric many of us work two jobs.

Don't assume anything - by the metric of 'employed' I'm working two additonal jobs