The parents of the 2 teenagers who murdered Brianna Ghey

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I’ve been following the horrific murder of Brianna Ghey, and it goes without saying that her poor parents / family must be going through absolute hell.

But after the names of the 2 murderers being released today, it’s made me think how on earth do their parents ever come to terms with what their children haven done ?! As far as I’ve read so far, they are just normal people. I just don’t know how you could ever try and move on from this.

They don’t. They usually have to move away to where no one knows them.

Awful.

I almost always feel sorry for the parents, siblings, grandparents etc.

I always want to know the names of people who commit crimes like this but why? If I knew them, I’d know.

Once the names are released it changes everything once again for the families of the guilty.

This is also such an emotive case.

Their children have committed this crime, the world knows it. If that wasn’t bad enough, the public will now take the parents and families apart to get some kind of reason why they became killers.

Awful.

The mother of one of the Columbine shooters travels around talking about her son, look her up.

They don’t ever get over it.

I know someone whose teenage son killed someone - it was manslaughter not murder. Both their son and the victim were high school age. It wasn’t premeditated like this case - it was a fight and he picked up an item and used it as a weapon.

He was just a normal kid from a normal family - his parents had good jobs like a teacher and a nurse.

They all moved house to another city as their other children were getting bullied at school . The parents changed jobs and the whole family changed their surname to the mums name to protect their other kids.

Basically it destroyed their parents lives. It’s more than a decade ago now. The other two kids went onto college / uni and have good jobs, their own homes, partners etc.

The son who committed the offence was in a young offenders unit and then adult prison. When he got out he was involved in drugs , his parents tried so hard to help him but he didn’t want help. He died of an overdose in his late 20s.

The parents will never get over it. It’s ruined their lives. Same as for the poor family who son was killed.

They are all just ordinary decent parents like you and me. It’s tragic for everyone.

The parents of the young man who was killed have always said that they don’t blame his parents.

( I’ve changed some details for obvious reasons ) .

It seems like there were multiple red flags missed by the parents, and the father of the boy bought him knives and is currently on remand for indecent images of a child and indecent exposure so no I don't have any sympathy. They should be ashamed.

I don’t believe people are born evil so I imagine the parents aren’t so squeaky clean either

Her book is amazing. She is an incredible woman.

I really feel for the parents in these situations. Very often it’s absolutely nothing they could have done or have done.

I really think there is a huge disassociation between empathy and violence in our younger generation and I’m not entirely sure how we change it. I think the internet and social media has so much to answer for.

I wondered what what was going on in these young adults' family lives. Nothing ever happens in a vacuum.

I'm a nurse in a high security prison

The majority of parents continue to live and support their children , some who have committed heinous crimes ..

As do wives of the most vile evil men you never want to meet convicted of child sex offences

They even phone up to complain about the most minor of issues .. his mattress is thin , he needs more blankets , he needs more variety in his food ...

Is this true?

I know the girl was expelled from her previous school for trying to get other kids to swallow drug laced sweets. So her parents knew she had form for pretty nasty behaviour… though I don’t imagine they ever predicted this would happen.

Do you have link?

I think it all depends on what kind of parents they had, and whether they're considered "normal" or not. My daughter was seriously assaulted by someone who was previously her friend. I knew her mum, she worked for the nhs, seemed like a reasonable person. Her daughter almost killed mine. And in court the mother was just as vile as the daughter. I anticipated that she would want to defend and protect her daughter, but I was taken back at the looks she gave me across the courtroom, and the horrendous snipes when we left everyday. Her daughter was sentenced to 3 years in youth detention, and the judge was quite damning in his comments. Despite this, when I see the mum she looks at me like I'm the criminal (we live in the same town). So don't automatically assume the parents will be remorseful or show empathy.

We don't know anything about the parents

So this thread is pointless

Parents of the majority of children who murder with intent are not normal from what I've read

Is there proof he is Eddies father?

That's absolutely horrendous. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

You would assume parents would feel empathy towards another parent but clearly blood is thicker than water to many.

It sounds like Brianna's parents had a lot to deal with too throughout the trial, including the boy doing a sudoku during sentencing.

A bit of social media stalking gets you there but I won't link to that on here.

Those kids weren’t born evil, something has happened in their lives to make them like that.

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The DailyMail have a piece where they name his father along with his age and these match

@effoffwind agree. I see people putting their criminal partners ahead of their kids time and time again.

I saw a picture of the girl and her parents online in one of the newspapers. I have no idea if the parents could've done anything to stop their child committing such a horrific offence, but I did think it was unnecessary to have a photo of them.

Many murderers have "normal" parents & siblings.