I have fucked up badly

[Shamefullhouse]

Omg I have Been find 400 for for tipping 250 if I pay within 10 days .

This would have been during in my time of struggling badly with my house and the state it was in my bins getting over full and really struggling with everything really badly.

I know I should not have done it but I was struggling. As far as I know they are talking about a couple of bits I took to the communal bins . ( they don't belong to me house) but to the flats behinde me. I couldn't get the bits in the bin. So I left them next to the bin. They would have been bits of wood from a unit i think .

Considering there is a weather warning for wind this weekend which specifies a risk to property & flying debris, yes that kind of wind absolutely could pick up a headboard and smash it into the nearest car or window- leaving another big bill to pay. But regardless, it is the law, where there is standing rubbish you end up with rats, maggots etc. When you break the law, you pay the consequences, in this case a fine.

This is not the end of the world though, yes you’ve been caught out, but all you need to do is call and arrange a payment plan with the council, then ensure it doesn’t happen again.

Firstly, please try and speak to someone in real life, because you are in a bad situation. Your son is a thug, I'm afraid, and hopefully some day you will find the strength to report him to the price and have him removed permanently. I know its a scary thing to face, but he is NOT more important than you or the other children.

Secondly, do you know anyone who has a car or van, who would do a tip run with you? You can get rid of loads of stuff that way.

It's a large fine but flytipping is a big issue. You know you weren't supposed to leave things there - whatever your reasons. Lots of people struggle with their houses/mental health/ finances etc - if everyone struggled used it as an excuse to leave their rubbish in places they shouldn't things would be even worse.

I give up ... I have tried explaining over and over again . My words are constantly twisted. It's impossible to explain when words /situations are twisted . There's Just no point Is there. I'm sick of fighting. I'm sick of explaining things over and over just for what I said to be twisted so people can get their kick out of it. If you want to do that go for it
Please enjoy yourself something to do on a Saturday night. I hope your all happy.

To anyone that gave kind, non judgement, advice. And showed some understanding thank you so much . I'm sorry if I have not replied to you. It does not mean I have ignored you. I just don't want to post anymore things that I feel are vulnerable things because it's messing me up to much. But I do appreciate the things you have said.

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Honestly OP ring the CA helpline. The people on there are there to help you. They won't judge you, and will go through the options. Its easy to panic and fall into the trap of agreeing to pay more than you can afford, which causes problems in other areas. The debt advisers will help you draw up a budget so you can offer realistically without leaving yourself short for other essentials, and often contact the people you owe to on your behalf. They can also check if you're entitled to any help you're not getting.

@Shamefullhouse you didn't fuck up badly, you fucked up a bit. There's very few of us, if any, that haven't fucked up a bit at times.
It sounds as though you're trying to get your house sorted out. This is just a set back, don't let it stop you from doing what you started.
Have you seen these bags? I think it's worth you having a look because they probably work out much cheaper than a skip. You could even just get the bag without collection, then you'd have somewhere to keep the stuff that you've cleared until you can get the council to collect it.
https://www.hippowaste.co.uk/rubble-disposal-lp/?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA-62tBhDSARIsAO7twbYXBaEq5i98x4AxctU4FSNb73AcuS_5Az1msZxkgQudzw9b1JF2W7caAgpoEALw_wcB
Are you on 'Nextdoor'? It's a neighbourhood group. You could ask if anyone on there would take stuff to the tip for you for a fee. Check though they are genuine and are not going to flytip it.
It's really fucking difficult to do anything when everything is shit and overwhelming, so the positive steps you're making are a real achievement.

Fortnightly collections are the norm in most places, rubbish one week and recycling the next. Most people cope. How big is your family that you're generating so much more rubbish than everybody else? And no, it's not common to put rubbish in other people's bins, regardless of how close to the collection is. How do you know that they're still not to use theirs? You just keep making excuses for entitlement that impacts on others

I wish the scolds on here would jog on. Unless you have something new to say, why comment? You’re just repeating the telling off everyone else has already given. She doesn’t red to be told again that she made a mistake- it’s in her own post and thread title!

@Shamefullhouse - you have made a mistake , Who of us hasn't ? forget the photo , you made a mistake , however portrayed it is the same mistake . But you realise that so stop worrying. Get on the phone to the council when you can and explain the situation and ask them the best way to take out other waste which will not fit in your bins and how you can pay the fine in your circumstances. I wish you well , but do not lose sleep over this . Get in touch , be honest about your mistake , the Council may very well be grateful for someone who contacts them rather than them having to contact the person

All best to you - but this really isn't the end of the world. 💐🌹

Please don't get upset, it's just rubbish.

I'm sorry that you've been treated so shabbily by some posters here who couldn't even be bothered to read the whole thread, OP. You've acknowledged what you've done and there's no excuse for nastiness. I hope you manage to contact the council to sort out a repayment plan. Best wishes.

Flytippers

Fly tipping is a complete nightmare for so many people. Dumping rubbish and expecting someone else to pay to clean it up. Even worse those advertising to take rubbish for cheap then fly tipping. Rubbish disposal costs money. Bins are covered by your council tax.
No more.
You fly tipped in effect.
You got fined for it when caught.

@candaby653 in our area families of 5 or more can ask for extra bins

The pictures will have been taken by the council as part of their investigations so nobody grassed her up. But actually I will report anyone up who fly tips for all the reasons mentioned by other PPs above. People are always complaining about how awful the UK looks because of all the litter and what a dirty disgraceful place it is.

You've took the piss OP so you need to own it - it's not a couple of small bin bags put in a bin at night it's loads of crap that the council wouldn't take in bins anyway like the flat pack wood - there really is no excuse - just because a few residents said it was ok doesn't mean everyone who lives there was and they are probably fed up of people taking the piss like you have

Ah OP. It’s not your finest hour but you need to not beat yourself up about it. You have bigger things on your mind so I’d be inclined to email the council a grovelling apology with a request to pay in affordable instalments

Why do I feel like this is everyone’s fault but yours, OP?

It's all my fault. I have said that a millon times, my fault , I fucked up. 90% of posters have told this to. I have told my self this to. Over and over again did you miss it? I will say it again I fucked up . I would fuck up In other areas to because that's what I do fuck up over and over fuck up.my life fuck up my kids fuck up everything. Needs to stop doesn't lt .

Is that clear enough or should I say it again and again

I really do hope you read my response and took it as it was intended.

It's ok to fuck up, now you get to fix it.

I don't know you as a parent or a person but you get to decide how you change your life in the future if you want.

It's never too late to be a better parent if that's something you want to change.

I would start with practical steps rather than dwelling on this.

Let this go, and focus on making a better future for you are your kids.

No more energy wasted on this issue. It's not worth the mental space.

@Shamefullhouse there is one thing I’ve noticed that might help you- you are paying most attention to the people being judgemental to you. You don’t need to do that. You can choose to ignore them as they aren’t telling you anything new.

Constantly paying attention to them is part of what you struggle with- beating yourself up and blaming yourself. Stop doing that and get on with the positive stuff- you know you can, you’ve been doing really well.

OP please don't come back to this thread. You've admitted so many times what you have done, you don't need to say it again.

Sort out a payment plan with the council or with the help of CAB and move on with your life. Stop beating yourself up, it's done, it's a very expensive lesson and although I abhor fly tipping I feel very sorry for you and wish you the best

OP despite what I said, please don't get too upset. It's not a good thing to do but people do a lot worse. I hate to think of you so upset. Work out a payment plan. You're not a terrible person and you're clearly going through some issues. I hope things get better. I'm sorry about my post, take care OP x

You have nothing to be sorry for .