"I'm an SEN mum"

[drspouse]

Of course my child goes to a school you haven't heard of.

Of course I have a full pack of complaint letters in my back pocket.

Of course I'll leap on you to exchange stories if you're another SEN parent.

Of course I know what all the acronyms stand for, DLA, EHCP, AR, LEA, we've got it all.

Of course the LEA doesn't bother providing my child with the education they are legally entitled to.

Of course I don't want to discuss your child's grammar school application. No, not their prom dress or school trip woes either.

(Feel free to continue in the TikTok vein, if you have contradictory experiences just put them down, no need for discussion, this is Chat not AIBU!)

I really do have a child with SEN and I can assure you it is not easy! I'm glad you all find it so amusing

I'm now officially SEN mum but I've always known, getting other people to listen was the problem.

I'm an SEN mum and I'm grieving for my younger years when I just thought I was a shit mum, when actually I was bloody amazing.

I'm an SEN mum and I'm pouring from an empty cup.

I totally understand. I don't know how we keep our sanity at this catch 22.

Fellow KCC parent. I gave up complaining as nothing changed and it just made me ill

I've got breast cancer and I think the last year of my child's education might have been the reason I got it. The stress was off the charts.

I don't think anything posted was amusing?

I'm a SEN mum and I wish my ultra competitive family would stop comparing grades and school reports and basing their child's worth on how they do in exams

I'm a SEN mum and I find the annual review time of year terrifying

I'm a SEN mum and sometimes I forget to charge the batteries for my child's equipment and then I hate myself

No ones finding it funny?!

I think you've missed the point.

I'm a SEN mum and when I'm exhausted, I need the GP to treat my anaemia not give me lectures on sleep fucking hygiene because for many years ASD DC needed me to be calm and available at all hours. No you wanker, being firm won't work, he'll have meltdowns for weeks if you dismiss him not support him...

*Sleep in a good phase for possibly the first time ever - I wish someone told me that you can get there x

I'm a SEN mum and the received wisdom DOES NOT WORK for my kids. They need a different approach - the different approach hasn't caused this you fuckwit.

I'm a SEN mum and I'm so thankful for the opportunity to home educate my kids how they need to be educated instead of them having to be in a school. The stress school would do to my boy would literally kill him; he'd end up being restrained on a daily basis and he would end up harming himself. Remember this when you're supporting all the useless registers n shit for home ed. They just invite the same useless idiots who can't help in schools into our home, our safe space. Trying to impose restrictions and make it as inaccessible as school would be a fucking nightmare.

I'm a SEN mum and only some other SEN mums get it. I'm lucky that I have the resources to support my son instead of having to rely on government services. I'm a lucky SEN mum I suppose.

@BarbaraBuncle @SandrenaIsMyBloodType

I’m there with you too.

I’m an SEN mum and DC spent Christmas in a psychiatric unit.

I’m an SEN mum and No, DC is not ‘choosing’ to behave this way.

I'm an SEN mum and I wouldn't change my child for the world (I would however, change the world for my child to make it an easier place).

@tothelefttotheleft I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you are doing as well as possible. I am grateful for this brief moment of solidarity in the shit storm of KCC. You’re not alone, even virtually, no matter how much you may feel so.

I didn't go back to my career cos I thought if I couldnt parent mine I had no business working with other children.

I feel like I want to say to you all not to make yourself ill like I did but what chose do we have?

I’m a SEN Mum and I cried during my DS’s nativity because I couldn’t bear to watch how painful it was for DS, how staff were encouraging him to endure it and how I couldn’t get to him and make it stop.

I’m a SEN mum and I am shit scared my DS will commit a crime because he always needs to seek revenge.

I’m a SEN mum and I don’t see a future. I am going to be a carer forever.

*choice

I’m an SEN mum.

of course my ‘friends’ smiled to my face and comforted me during my DC’s meltdown while saying awful things and judging my child behind my back.

I’m a Sen mum and my daughters been out of school for 18 months not only that I’m a lone parent and unable to work and sick of being called a benefits scrounged or treated with disgust because I’m not working, my child can’t attend child care because she’s aggressive and I have no family or partner sick of being treated as a scrounger. I’m an Sen mum and I didn’t choose this life!

I’m a SEN Mum, of course I have three packs of hot cross buns, garlic bread and Yorkshire puddings in my house.

I’m a SEN Mum, of course I can’t just change my daughters routine one day simply because I want too.

I’m a SEN Mum, of course I have a baby gate to protect my TV. I also have a screen protector on my TV as two have been broken in the past.

I’m a SEN Mum, of course everything is a fight with the LA.

My daugher is only 2 yet I can go on and on and on. Shout out all you mum’s doing everything you can for your children/teenagers/young adults. It’s hard as fuck

I hope everyone remembers this when casting their vote. Labour have been clear they will insist on a register.

We have been given overnight respite in December 2022
We had het to have any as lack of staff etc etc 😥

@x2boyswe were given it in June 2022, haven't managed to use it and now it has disappeared from the system!

@BetrayedAuntie
I'm sorry you find it offensive
I think it's quite refreshing
It's good to let off steam

I don't v think anybody is being sarcastic or finding it funny
I really am an SEN mum too and I assume the other posters are too.

I'm a SEN mum

I was in the beginning broken.. not one but two - who knew!!

I got help, was told to suck eggs and sat through endless PowerPoint presentations on how to parent feeling disgruntled my parenting skills were being questioned.

I met a lovely lady from portage, the only person to talk sense! She taught me strategies and listened..

I'm still a SEN parent, early intervention saved me and my boys. It's the one bit of advice I always share.. far too many avoid diagnosis and leave it until it's too late! I call that neglect.

Ah that ,s shit
Doesn't surprise me sadly😥