Tidy up shithole house weekend pics included

[Shamefullhouse]

I have been posting for a while now about my house being a shithole and trying to get on top of it,

Me and my family have been through alot. That has lasted years there's practically been no rest from it one thing after another. Its been absolutely hell. To the extent i could not even bath/shower on a regular basis. I had no support and was coping with everything alone its been awful. It gos pretty deep .

But things are getting better. But because its been so long my mind /emotions find it hard to believe. So I'm trying to get myself into a better mindset.

One of them things is to get my house clean and tidy and for it to feel nice to be in. I have done alot. But I also keep slipping backwards. So although it's better than one I first started I'm stuck because I keep slipping back.

I add shame photos because it pushes me to get it done and that's how I feel just now because I have basicly fucked up since Christmas and I'm angry for slipping backwards.

The picture of the really bad small room is a spare room . It's crap from my children's bedroom when I decorated it. I dumped crap in the spare room .

I wish I did live in a show home . Won't happen though 🤣

You are doing great OP!
It's not as bad as you think, as others have said.
I'm always on a mission to declutter / tidy the house, it's a never ending cycle. Don't be discouraged if rooms / things don't stay always tidy. The one thing I've learned is that no matter how well you clean your kitchen, you will need to clean it again the next day! 😩
Good luck! Looking forward to seeing pictures

I was expecting photos of an actual shameful house, your rooms are just a bit messy, in sure you can have that sorted in no time

Good luck

I follow the Maria Kondo method and tidy by category rather than room. Keeping like with like. Check her out on YouTube

I'm sort of doing that . I'm going to do the kitchen tonight. Probably slap dash the hall to be honest . There's no point in me putting in a big effort if I'm dragging crap down the stairs. I don't drive so makes it really hard. And yes doing exactly that

I see you find the third floor tiring. I know what you mean, I'm two floors above the laundry room in my building.

If it's safe to do so, just tie up the bin bag and push it off the top step. I've done that before with bulky items.

As long as there's nothing that would be an issue if the bag split (food waste, toiletries etc) you don't need to carry it down. You can do the same with the dirty laundry. Saves time as well as energy.😄

Do you drive? Or know anyone who does? A couple of tip runs would definitely make a huge difference if you’re saying the spare room is all rubbish.

PPs are right though, it’s not as bad as you believe it is.

Well done OP. It's a great start! I'm having what I call a 'house fire' sort. I imagine that if my house burnt down, what are the things I couldn't tell the insurance company that I owned and needed replacing. Those things are then being binned/charity shopped/sold,

Do little and often, and set yourself small goals & time limits - I run out of steam if I plan to do too much.

From the photos you've posted, you could get everywhere pristine in under a couple of hours.

Thank you. The photos feel like the end of the world to me . Even though I know that's not logically the case.

Yes I agree about pasing myself. I sometimes do to much end up over drained. Then just go on circles.

With asking the kids to help that's a whole massive thing that I don't want to go into because it's to negative.

And thank you. The kids really love their room . They have actually kept it tidy. I have not had to tell them at all . I am pretty proud of that one to be honest.

Yes it's my law to do update photo 😅

Yes definitely not as bad as i thought it was going to be. A quick hoover round instantly makes a room look 10x better. I have a big washing basket that i use for going round picking everything up from washing, paper, rubbish anything that shouldn’t be on the floor then once i get 5min to myself i will sit down and sort it in to piles and put where it needs to go. I also have a smaller box i use to go round collecting toys the kids have dropped to go back in their toy

Your house is nowhere near shithole levels of mess. As an ex social worker I have seen proper shitholes that you wouldn't leave a dog in. Yours is just a bit untidy. An hour or two would set that right. Be kinder to yourself.

Me and my family have been through alot. That has lasted years there's practically been no rest from it one thing after another. Its been absolutely hell. To the extent i could not even bath/shower on a regular basis. I had no support and was coping with everything alone its been awful. It gos pretty deep .

Cheering you on for your cleaning up. Wishing you lots of strength to get it done xx

Distinctly untidy rather than a proper mess!

my system is…

get a bag for life for each room in the house and a bin liner.

put items that need to go elsewhere into their bag for life, do one room at a time.

once you’ve done this in each room put each bag in the right room and put it all away.

then clean, top to bottom.

I have one of those long handled grabber gadgets , makes picking things up much easier and saves my back . I hook a binbag onto something (like a chair ) with pegs to keep it open.

I am constantly battling clutter but my DMum was (and still is ) a hoarder . There was something in everything , under or on . If she had an empty container - a box or detergent pod tub- she saw it as a vacuum to fill with things . Buttons, zips , seeds packets . Things she;d never use .

Anything I tried to throw out was "I need that" and it went back in a drawer .
So things heaped up with no home or use .

You get to the stage where you cannot see the wood for the trees.
She always said she wanted a tidy house but didn't want to do it . And we (as kids/teens) weren't allowed to throw anything out till she checked it and probably took it back.

It is exhausting and never ending .

Good Luck . Get your binbag and recycle bag and set the timer

I wish 😅

It's not bad at all.

I'm doing a big tidy/clean tomorrow so if you start a thread we can do it together. There is often someone who starts one on a Saturday morning and it's great. Everyone helps each other along.

I have visitors tomorrow so it has to get done!

Yes I actually do this. Its called want bag. Bin bag

I love this system! Definitely going to use it when we've got out of hand

I do similar. I go around the house with a bin bag and empty laundry basket. I put things that need to be put away in the basket and rubbish in the bin. Keep going round until it's done. On the second round I take the duster, third round the hoover.

Very of topic and my fault.

I left my front door unlocked the amazon delivery guy. Open my front door walked in a couple of steps. If my living room door hadn't been closed my dog would have gone for him.

I struggle with not knowing where to start. So I do a thing called "see and do" - I set a timer for ten minutes or I put three or four high energy songs on and I just do whatever I see first and then the next and then the next.
^
Doesn't matter what it is, doesn't matter if it's a priority or if it doesn't make any sense or isn't in a logical order, whatever - it doesn't matter. I just do what I see. If you want to keep going after ten mins / 4 songs go for it. If you don't? Absolutely fine. Do it again tomorrow.

I love doing this as it shifts me into gear in a way nothing else does.^

I've seen far, far worse.
Yes, it's untidy. Yes, it obviously needs a good declutter and clean. But it doesn't look like a health hazard.
Well done for deciding to take action though. You're brave to post pics and to acknowledge how much you've been struggling.
Rest assured, it's much easier to tackle things when it's like this than if it truly is a shithole.
You'll almost certainly feel a little better once you get started and your kids will enjoy it being tidier/cleaner (even if they respond by making more mess...). Depending on the age of your kids, it would be a good idea to get them involved with cleaning up - even if it's just them making a start on their rooms or helping to fold their laundry. You can make it fun ("1 minute to pick up 10 bits of rubbish" - obvs only works with little ones, but you get the picture). It's important for kids to learn that keeping things reasonably clean and reasonably tidy isn't just mum's job.
I hope the year ahead is a little easier for you.

I actually don't think it's that awful...it looks messy but not dirty. I've seen far worse. Also your home looks like once it's sorted it will be really nice. The flooring looks fairly new...the walls look neutral and clean. The kitchen is fairly modern. Much easier to clean and tidy places that are in fairly good decorative order which yours seems to be. Anyway, keep going, you're doing a great job.

I wouldnt call that a shit hole at all

Just a bit of tidying up and organising

A shithole is where a house is thick with grime, hording, animals and their detritus, sticky carpets, black skirting, the list goes on