The Reverse Ick thread…

[Firefly2009]

What inconsequential things (or not so inconsequential!) have you done to embarrass yourself and caused a partner or date to get the ick? Perhaps you got dumped or he was never seen again. or perhaps you died of embarrassment and just went into hiding.

I had been seeing a guy for a few months. I'd had thrush so used a Canesten pessary. I assumed it was all resolved so 2 days later I had sex with him, only to find the pessary came out on his willy, like a lump of cottage cheese. I was mortified. To be honest he didn't seem too bothered by it, but it was definitely the beginning of the end.

@Abhannmor

That is a formidable set of dating challenges.

I don’t drink either, and was always surprised that it gave some men the ick that I don’t. It was probably for the best that they screened themselves out that way.

Told by my first boyfriend that my jeans weren't tight enough and my lip gloss wasn't shiny enough. Oh well, never mind 😆

I definitely don't encourage people to colour. What?!

Thankfully it didn't give him the ick in the end and he married me but my very first date with my DH we were earing chicken nuggets in my halls of residence. I went to shake bbq sauce and just as he was away to say 'oh I'd put your finger over the top of that' the lid came flying off and I was literally covered from head to toe in bbq sauce. Had to pause the date for a while while I had a emergency full shower because it was clumped in my hair.

Do you have a photo of that outfit? 🤣

Old thread:
Men, they are vile creatures and they give me the ick, for lots of silly reasons.
New thread:
Men, they are vile creatures because once the got the Ick with me for a silly reason.

I feel there has been a misunderstanding here. It was the therapist who first brought up the fact they were a therapist, while berating a poster in a fairly aggressive manner about delving into their childhood. It seemed very ironic, and it was the therapist’s agressive dismissal of another poster which took the thread in a less-than light hearted direction.

Please quote the aggression, thank you.

See I understood the reason she brought up being a therapist was because the gaming poster was grilling her about how she could possibly find gaming gives her the ick before going on to suggest she must have had a childhood issue that would explain it. It was pretty defensive as if to say you must have psychological issues if you are put off by gaming. Which I think was the problem here. So to reply to say she’s a therapist herself was to say no it’s not about that at all, I understand myself and I feel the reason I get the ick is xyz, not my childhood.

I actually really like these😆

This thread has confirmed what I've always suspected...that therapists become therapists because they have issues

I once got dumped because I had the wrong brand of jeans. We were poor, he was from a well off family. I had fancied him for ages and was so thrilled to finally have him interested in me. He asked me ‘what brand are they?’ Then dumped me the next day.

That's actually appalling.

Have to say I completely agree with you @whyphone gaming is such a turn off

Yeah, thank you, I'm a therapist myself I don't need you to attempt to analyse on a random thread about the ick.

Try not to worry about how my comments have made you feel, they aren't personal, I wasn't even talking to you.

I did feel this was agressive. Sarcasm is surely not effective communication, and it just seemed unwarranted.

i used to dance professionally with a male dance partner, we would compete regularly.
a lot of boyfriends wouldn’t like that at all, and get jealous which I understood.
this one particular boyfriend came to meet me after a performance - he was fine with me getting up close and personal with my dance partner but I was still wearing all my stage make up as I hadn’t had a chance to take it off and I literally saw the light in his eyes die.
it must have been instant ick.
he told me I looked like a beauty pageant kid crossed with a clown and did I have to wear quite so much.
, I was mildly confused but knew I wouldn’t be seeing him again after that.

I’m now engaged to said dance partner and so far so good he hasn’t got the ick yet!

Also I don’t get the ick about gaming. I get the ick way more about cycling or golf 🙈

Complained I wasn’t adventurous enough as I wouldn’t have anal sex and said it was probably best we didn’t continue to see each other

I think I was meant to say I will just I need time or something like that 🙄

You can make sweeping judgments and generalisations about an entire profession from a mumsnet thread? Oh dear.

Feelings aren't facts.

I think some people on here have clearly taken other peoples icks personally when it's meant to be lighthearted.
We don't always know why we get the ick about something we just do. Grilling someone over it takes the fun out of the thread and derails it.

I went on a first date after a very recent and traumatic break up. I was a bit all over the place, banged on about my ex and was so tickled by the fact I was having a deep dried softshell crab in a bap that I kept on randomly repeating 'crab in a bun' in a bad mancunian accent (he was from there.) I still cringe when I think of it 😬

@Notmatthewmcconaughey 😂 😂 this made me laugh so much, quality gold if you ask me 😂