The Reverse Ick thread…

[Firefly2009]

What inconsequential things (or not so inconsequential!) have you done to embarrass yourself and caused a partner or date to get the ick? Perhaps you got dumped or he was never seen again. or perhaps you died of embarrassment and just went into hiding.

My husband games, I prefer tv. I don’t actually see the problem unless you are someone who doesn’t watch tv, internet surf etc It’s just another way to chill in the evening.

Yes, this! There’s something depressing about it. An occasional muck about on a game or a chilled night eating pizza and playing together or with friends – fine.

Someone really into it and sitting in a room by themselves for hours on end – I’m with you.

A guy I went out with a few times aged 17 told a mutual friend I was “pretty, but her conversation is too college-y.”

He was 19 and an electrician.

I drove us places.
He said it was immasculating for him and that he was embarrassed when I pulled up in my 'girlie car' and he had to get in the passenger seat.

He could not drive, wanted us to get buses together.

I agree.

I struggle to watch TV unless it’s something really good and I prefer to game.

I don’t have SM or scroll on my phone apart from on MN.

I think I’m someone who just needs to constantly be doing something, as if I do watch a movie I will often have a jigsaw or mindful colouring book out at the same time.

I do enjoy reading though and usually need to read before bed to help me sleep.

No way!! That is insane!

This thread is putting me off dating for life 🤣

When I was 22 a guy dumped me because I chewed with my mouth open. I was mortified!

Went on a second date with a guy and we met up with his best mate and best mates girlfriend.
Lovely people and we got on well. Cool people and I did feel a little intimidated by how cool they were.
After quite a lot to drink we went back to best mates house and were sitting watching comedies on TV when I decide to be 'cool' and ask if we could watch porn instead.

I quickly got my bag left.

Yikes

Had a HUGE crush on a guy as a teenager/early 20s. He looked like a young Bruce Springsteen. I'd never had a boyfriend and SO.DESPERATELY.WANTED.ONE. Specifically HIM. He was GORGEOUS.

We were in a hobby together and both had a chest infection the same week. He was really sweet and sympathetic with me. I told him I got it when I went swimming and he got really close to me and started looking a bit flirty...

"Where do you go swimming?"

"Virgin Health Club"

"Is it good? I'm thinking of starting swimming."

"Oh. Cool. Well if you need a training buddy I could help you? I'll race you!"

He sort of screwed up his face. Slight ick.

"Haha. Erm. Well actually, I want to start swimming and generally building up my fitness to a mega high level so, no offence but it would be kind of hard for you to keep up with me."

"Oh, I doubt that. I'm on a real fitness kick at the moment. I'm kickboxing and everything. I know I look like a lightweight but I could totally kick you in the face and knock you out."

More ick. Shut up me.

"Cool. Erm....

dramatic pause while he smoulders at me

"You see, the thing is...I really want to join the Army and I need to be fit. After all, I'd be fighting for this country and everything, got to be able to take on the Taliban and all that..."

"No way! Oh I can help you with that too, I was an army cadet for 7 years, if there's anything you need to know, I'm your girl! I can show you how to load a rifle, shoot, help you train for bootcamp...how are you with weights? It might be good if you do some cross country with a really heavy weighted back pack. It's pretty brutal but it would make camp easier..."

Icky ick ick ick.
He pretty much never spoke to me again.

He just wanted a nice, pretty girl who thought he was a hero.

And I thought we had stuff in common and were bonding. It took me years before a friend finally told me that I have a habit of emasculating the guys I liked and acting like I'm in competetion with them.

And that's the story of how I ended up being a very old virgin and didn't even get to go on my first date until I was nearly 30.

Sameeeee

So weird to get the ick for gaming because it's a waste of time whilst we're all posting pretty pointless (but fascinating!) stuff on Mumsnet! There's not a world of difference is there?!

I don't know about what icks I've created but I'm guessing staring mindlessly at my phone for long periods of time is one.

As a kid,aged about 3,I put the heel of my foot on my dad's pushbike wheel and ripped the back of my foot apart

It scared and still blisters randomly to this day-dad was that scared himself,he went out the following week and bought a motorbike (his logic was it was safer!elf and safety flies over his head daily)

Anyway,years later I got chatting to a bloke online and we agreed to meet

Sods law meant a massive water blister popped up on my scar,so I borrowed my dds ugg boots as I couldn't wear normal shoes

He walked up,clocked me,his eyes slid down to my feet and I just knew I'd never see him again

He just snarled that he 'wasn't into dating chavs' (not my words) and he stormed off

Another guy and I went on a date,got on just fine until my mate messaged me

My-happily married,male friend

His eyes slid to my phone,saw my mates name on the screen and told me I was to either 'nob him off or never see me again'

I was sat at home 10 minutes later-alone

@Nonomono Aww I haven’t installed my new Harry Potter game yet! It’s sat on the Xbox waiting to be opened. Bloody kids getting in the way 😂

I had a boyfriend when I was 8. I didn’t give him my football stickers so maybe that was his ick with me 😁

I took a phone call from my mum mid date (I know I know). Had a perfectly pleasant date and never heard from him again!!

Yes me too 😂

When he saw my music collection.
I cringed hearing myself justifying my choices.

2 guys, one at Oxford doing a DPhil and one ex public school boy dumped me for not being posh/well turned out. I was poor and I don't care about clothes or make-up but I've done OK in the world. Current husband loves me just the way I am.

❤️❤️❤️

Wow a therapist who gets the ick from someone's healthy ability to enjoy their inner child...

I matched with someone on a dating site who then messaged me to say he didn't go out with horsey girls, sorry.
I can only think he liked the first photo and then had a scroll through my others after we'd matched. At least he was honest 🐴

Yep, it kills me sexual desire for someone. That's ok, you know? Therapists aren't robots.

She’s allowed to find whatever she wants sexually/romantically unappealing! Jaysus

I'm sure he doesn't find you sexually attractive 24/7, let the man have some fun without being objectified 😂

Asked for a pint in the pub. He tried to compromise by offering to buy me two halves instead, which just made me all the more determined it was to be a pint. A whole pint. In one, single pint glass please. I'm quite feminine, but he definitely wanted someone very ladylike!