I need a good talking to, bring me back down to earth vipers !

[GreenSilks]

I’ve been single for 6 years. Had one 6 month relationship in all that time. I have had approx 150 online coffee dates. I never fancy any of them.

In the 6 years I’ve just concentrated on bringing my 2 kids up, my career and making ends meet. I have a good life really, great family and friends but admittedly have been lonely for adult company. I go on holidays alone or with friends and am out most weekends doing sports or with friends.

All this is relevant as I don’t want anyone to think I’m just grasping at straws as I’m that desperate.

Anyway if I read on a thread on mumsnet what I’m about to post, I’d be rolling my eyes and jumping in with advice.

Here goes, 4 days ago I matched with someone on Tinder, there was an instant connection, and we went straight onto WhatsApp, at my suggestion. First red flag “instant connection” I mean what a load of shit, how can you “connect” with someone online??

We’ve talked on the phone a couple
of times, for 2 hours at a time. We laughed nonstop. It was just amazing.

Ok, second red flag …. He works abroad! I know! I know!! Although it’s 2 months away and 1 month home in the UK.

Third red flag- he’s 13 years younger than me! Tall, good looking and from what I can gather from the job he does, very financially secure. He has 2 young adult kids who he see regularly and an ex who isn’t a psycho.

Look I’m a veteran of on-line dating, and I’ve seen it all, but this guy I feel is 100% genuine! Although … 4th red flag I can’t find him on social media and I can normally find anyone!

Right vipers getting ready for the punchline. He’s home in 10 days and … I’m picking him up from the airport!

WTF! I am so excited, we’re talking about a future together. WE HAVEN’T EVEN MET!

He says he feels the same, he’s not gone as far to declare his undying love but he’s said loads of amazingly sweet things. It doesn’t feel like love bombing. He’s only (so he says) been in 2 relationships.

Wish I could enable voting on the App, but I’m being stupidly naive eh?

Should add, I'm in my 50's

It's difficult to tell because some people really do lose their heads over online fantasists. And then you look back at your own mistakes, and read the relationships board on here, and realise that sometimes, someone who wants love will believe the most far fetched things and make excuses for very obviously bad behaviour to cling on to that hope of love.

I did reverse image search OP's chat screenshots earlier, in case they were lifted from another site, but no match :)

But posting on here instead of answering the call she was waiting for just pushed it a bit far beyond plausible to pure entertainment fodder for me. Consider that a heads up for the next one OP! 😆

I think 30% is pushing it, I doubt many interesting threads are real on here.

I can't believe people believe this crap. It'll run to at least 2 threads.

Of course

Okay, watching with skepticism then!

I actually hope most of the relationship and AIBU threads are fake, because they've put me off relationships for life. There are SO MANY of them.

Oh right, I thought this was referring to the guy's name, not op searching online for his ex wife.

Very common surname don't know exactly first name. Do know his kids names but no way of knowing if they are his.

I am positive that a LOT of the relationship ones are fake. There aren't that many shitty/dramatic people in the world. Don't let it get you down too much.

If she returns and says it is all wonderful I will struggle to believe it.

Thank you. You are my favourite person of the day

If he wasn’t great, I think it would be over quicker?

Or we just won't hear from OP again.

I really hope you're right about that! Such obvious patterns of abuse though, and unfortunately very convincing. Whoever is writing them should put that energy into a screen play!

Well I'm not so cynical.

They probably are. A lot get removed, some epic bullshit stays. Either way it's not cool of those people making accusations on the thread, move on or report.

Just read the first list but this is my initial gut feeling. Sorry but this sounds like a scam. It’s the typical story. He will have some emergency that means he will miss his flight and he will ask you for some money towards whatever emergency it is.

C'mon, it's not that deep. Ppl are just having fun with the thread.

I can’t decide if I believe it or not. Having done OLD he certainly sounds like the kind of weirdo you come across on there.

How long must we wait for the next thrilling update?

Well. it's been an hour....

Will the op come back? 🤔

I think everyone saying it’s fake are the same people who don’t answer their doors 🤣

Oooh, just read the whole thread, I'm invested! 🍿

Strange that he doesn't want a villa mate to hear him speaking to someone, particularly in a 4 bed villa, there must be plenty of private spaces he could go. What's the betting he's married?

Really hoping for the OP this isn't the case 🤞

Just read the text messages. Not a scammer but definitely sus. Married maybe.