Has anyone on here ever hurt your feelings?

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I've had loads of support and advice on here over the years, some really nice people.

But there have been a couple of rubbish ones too!

Has anyone ever been bruised on here? I had one comment I've never quite forgotten. Shouldn't take it personally I guess!

@FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper I do agree with this however, I only access MN on my phone and sometimes it shows me the "end" of the thread, I comment and then it refreshes with 200 more posts and I end up feeling like a twerp...do have some sympathy 😆

Full sympathy from me in that situation! Same when you cross-post with somebody else.

I'm talking about the people who quite openly say "I haven't got time/can't be arsed to read the thread" or make it manifest that, of the 16 pages that have built up over the last 3 days, they clearly haven't even bothered to read the very first 10 comments (or even the OP).

I'm quite thick skinned so I can shrug off most of nasty comments I've received. However, there was one thread about raising mixed race children and I shared my experiences (my children are half white, half Indian). Several people piled on to me because they disagreed with what I said. It got so personal and so nasty and people were accusing me of being a terrible mother to mixed race children because I didn't understand the abuse they'd go through etc etc. It was all completely unfair and untrue but it hurt a lot.

Nothing has upset me but one amused/bemused me. After admitting I am rather lazy with the skin care routine and sometimes do it sitting in bed I got the following reply "Lazy as fuck". Erm yeah I believe I already admitted to being lazy......

Yes. I recently posted a very difficult post seeking guidance on inheritance and wills (both my father and brother are terminally ill). My brother is an alcoholic with end stage liver failure and has mental health problems. He has cut himself off from all family and friends due to paranoia. My father has blood cancer.

Someone decided that my post was made up and harassed me continually on the post, sewing seeds of doubt in the minds of others, who then discussed me as though I wasn't there. I ended up revealing more details than I was comfortable with in response to the constant hounding and then asked to get the thread pulled as I was worried that it was outing.

A lot of the disbelief centered around not believing that my brother could be an alcoholic and be financially stable. He worked in a very good job for years and then recently, my parents have funded him via standing order (giving some inheritance early).

I actually thought that they were really nasty to accuse me of making something so tragic up when it was a straightforward question about fairness, wills and trusts. I realise now that they were probably rather dim and ignorant or just a troll. Admin kicked them off the thread, but I still spent the afternoon in tears over it. It had taken me a lot of courage to make the post.

I think that their names was idealhome, lest you come across them and suffer the same fate.

@Thecatmaster

That user name that you said rings a bell with me as having been a very unpleasant person in the past.

I never understand the hatred and nastiness that people talking about an inheritance inevitably receive on here.

You'd think they were trying to force their parents to live in penury and financially abuse them so that they can take all of their money off them; not that they are hoping that, whatever their parents do leave behind when they die, they would receive their fair share - as the parents have often expressed is their desire - rather than have a sibling find a way to take all of the money for themselves. It's always OP who is 'greedy and grabby' for wanting their half and never the sibling who is wanting to take the whole lot.

@FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper

In my case it was my parents wishing to leave the lions share to me and my 2 children. They want me to move in with them, look after them and have the house. My brother has no children and is not contact with them. He is terminally ill (unless qualifies for a liver transplant). I was trying to see if there was some sort of work around with a trust that could provide him with a larger share, if he were to pull through/get a transplant. I didn't want him to feel less loved by my parents for receiving less than I had been left. On the other hand they were trying to be pragmatic and not give him a huge lump sum right now.

It wasn't the sort of thing that you would make up and I was trying to ensure that he was looked after whilst also respecting my parents wishes. It wasn't a remotely controversial post. That's why it was all the more baffling that I would be accused of making it all up.

I think though, that to accuse someone of lying about loved ones dying is an absolute low, even if you did have your own internal doubts.