Has anyone on here ever hurt your feelings?

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I've had loads of support and advice on here over the years, some really nice people.

But there have been a couple of rubbish ones too!

Has anyone ever been bruised on here? I had one comment I've never quite forgotten. Shouldn't take it personally I guess!

Yes.

I offered an Anglo-Saxon pronunciation of a foreign name to a m'netter who wanted a nickname of this name iyswim (of which the British alternative is accepted as an alternative) and two m'netters piled on. Having spent 15+ years in the region and having many friends of this culture tell me that was the equivalent, I felt very attacked! Oh well.

As petty as this sounds, every time I see these people comment on threads, I raise an eyebrow 🤨

Yes, I posted a on TTC thread about my difficulties and everyone seemed to acknowledge each other apart from me. This is the first time I’ve posted since.

Well for what it's worth I love American people. There's a show over there called "What Would You Do?" I watch it all the time and Americans always seem so gracious, kind and good mannered. I'm going there next year for the first time and I can't bloody wait x

Not hurt...baffled maybe.
Years ago and different username but I said I thought Paul McCartney was shit IN MY OPINION in answer to a thread about overrated performers. One person clearly took it extremely personally and ripped me to shreds, calling me thick and uneducated and all sorts. It was bizarre. I didn't bother to respond.

yes I won’t repeat the comment as it was too upsetting but loads of posters on here seemed to find it funny.

yeh, i felt a bit shit when i was a single parent (still am) but before I was working, I was pretty much trapped by two young children, one of them had autism and I was on one parent family allowance. Xenia used to make me feel like a loser extraordinaire but I just didn't have the earning power to run a household on my own and pay for childcare for two. But she just didn't get that. She's very clever, and my level of intellect is more ordinary! I have always struggled with qualifications. Right now, I have a secure job and I'm getting by but I still couldn't fund childcare for two if I needed to. I don't know why it got to me. I knew I was doing the best thing I could for me, for the children, at the time, given that they had me for a parent.

I've only commented on here a few times, but I do a lot of lurking and see some really horrible people!

Years ago I shared the story of how I had 2 or 3 extra teenagers for a weekend. On the Friday one of the mums stopped by to drop her kids stuff off, said thank you and handed me a bottle bag. Sunday night when everyone had gone home and we’d cleaned up me and my husband sat down to relax and I remembered the bottle bag. I opened it to find a bottle of orange juice.

I thought it was a funny story. However one person ripped into me, telling me I was clearly an alcoholic, the other mum knew, and she’d be surprised anyone ever left their kids with me again. Now we were the sleepover house and at least twice a month we had kids friends stay over.

I must have posted something else the poster didn't like because after that she did a search on my posts to point out things I’d “lied about”. For ages after the same poster would pop on threads I was on to say something snotty about what I posted. It put me off posting for quite a while.

Batshit 🤣

Don't let the bastards grind you down. You are not pathetic. You are incredible x

I work in retail

I joined a thread (ages ago) about what it's like to work in retail and mentioned,among other things,that I'd been sexually assaulted 6 times in 7 years by 6 different men (work took it very seriously)

One poster seemed to take it as a personal assault on herself and called me a liar-she followed me round the thread just attacking me

'I don't believe you,where where your managers?'

Like I care if a random on the Internet believes me or not

I mean my managers cannot follow me around all day,just to protect me from random men,they have their own work to do

I was really upset at the time but as dp pointed out 'tell me you've never worked in retail without saying 'I've never worked in retail'

God knows what it was about me that triggered her

I namechanged not long after

Yeah it was years ago

Someone on s&b laughed at something I'd had done...i posted a pic and she ripped me to bits. don't want to say what it was I had done (and each to their own if they don't like something) but it was really unnecessary and she was really personal and cruel

But a few years ago, I retrained in a related profession to what I had done a few years ago and now make absolutely shitloads of money doing it myself as part of my job now . and I do it well and I'm highly regarded 👌🏻

So she can fuck off 😂

Yes I posted about a reaction of a friend on a group chat nothing horrible and there was a pile on of people saying I sounded hard work and needy and no wonder I'd got that reaction and things along the lines of I wouldn't want to be friends with you. It really upset me and I had to have it taken down. Sometimes people forget there's real people behind these threads

Oh yeah and years ago when I claimed tax credits (while working) and had made a thread as i was worried as they'd been cut a lot.

The old chestnut "you shouldn't have kids if you can't pay for them"

Okay well I'll just shove them back up my Fanny shall I ffs 🤦‍♀️

Yes the anti Irish sentiment of a minority of posters gets to me at times - especially those with rusty knowledge of Irish history. I lived in Scotland & England and only encountered mild comments so I’m really shocked that’s the way some people think.

About 10 or so years ago, people were getting exercised about there being a sex topic on MN ("there will be men! And they'll be wanking over filthy Mavis asking on MN about the best position with her prolapse for a shag with her husband Graham, the wanton harlott! We never have sex! The hairy-handed truckers will be spaffing all over the keyboards if we mention such a thing").
I was all for the sex topic: "Bring on the sex! It's the internet; wankers are everywhere...who cares?"
They were vicious, particularly a lunatic called "Santaslittlehelper" (she's still one here, I think, but I DGAF) and someone toxically sweet with a username like "HolyMary" or some such. I can't remember the latter. They were foul.
The lesson for me was I had spent a beautiful summers evening preoccupied on the thread, debating with such people wasting my time to feel a bit shit that a few randoms on the internet could make me feel like that.
MN was their world; there seemed to be nothing else. I didn't want that for me, so I sacked it off for a few years and came back feeling the freedom to ignore and disengage from stuff like that now.
Hugs to all of you who have felt the burn from random fuckers on the internet.

Sometimes MN is their life and they do it for sport and it's nothing to do with you; you just happened to be there.
Bollocks to the randoms!

What Would You Do is one of our family's favorite go to shows! It's made better as we often recognize where they're filming and two of our friends have featured on it. In a good way, luckily!

The anti Americanism on here used to piss me right off but I let it go now as I realize that most of it is coming from people who have no idea what they're talking about.

@TheaJess that can happen sometimes when a thread moves quickly and there are several conversations going at once.

(I'm sure you know this, but) no-one was deliberately ignoring you.

How long ago was it? How are you now?

No because l have no interest in starting a post on this forum and also once l have replied l never check back, it doesn't interest me what people think, and l don't feel the need to be right.

Yes. I've been on here for 14-odd years but under different names so no one would know. I get called a troll about half the time I start a thread, so don't bother often. In particular, there was a very upsetting situation over the summer that I posted about for support but the amount of nasty posts outweighed the good advice.

I remember that thread! You'd have looked a bit daft jumping in the pool with your jeans on 😊

Yep. A fair few people have beef with IVF and c sections. I did both and had twins. I got an impressive amount of vitriol whilst feeling unwell and with pre-eclampsia. My infertility plus required c-section due to the being breach were the reasons why

What bothers me is when you try to make a thoughtful, nuanced point, and people latch onto one small detail in what you've said and then basically caricature you into what they think you are.
So recently I said that becoming a SAHP takes big adjustments sometimes, like downsizing or going on camping holidays instead of fancy ones. And immediately people were all over it basically saying "so you think women only work for fancy holidays and getting their nails done?!" (I never even said it should be the woman who gives up work, if they've decided that one parent will).

In general, I absolutely hate being put in boxes. And on MN, some people love to make a thousand assumptions about what type of person you are based on one small aspect of one viewpoint you've expressed.

I was called sick for sending my baby to nursery. That's probably the worst comment I've had.

I don't take things seriously on here so it didn't hurt my feelings but it was definitely unpleasant.