Has anyone on here ever hurt your feelings?

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I've had loads of support and advice on here over the years, some really nice people.

But there have been a couple of rubbish ones too!

Has anyone ever been bruised on here? I had one comment I've never quite forgotten. Shouldn't take it personally I guess!

Oooo which ones? Understand if you can't say

Hope things are easier for you now x

I've felt frazzled at times but nothing too serious.

Thing is if you're upset it wouldn't be uncommon for your post to be a bit jerky. Some people pounce on that.

Some motherfucker called me lazy because I said I like to lie in bed watching tv after 7.30pm 🫠

Ha! They should meet me :)

😆😆😆 @MorrisZapp I'm impressed that you remember it!

Under a different username I posted on the pregnancy board. I had a poster name change and private message me to tell me off for venting on a thread. They were too cowardly to say what username I would know them as on the threads and insinuated they knew me in real life, although eventually admitted I didn't.

I was heavily pregnant and very upset - I had a depression at the time and needed to vent about something but all I got was a telling off from some cowardly Internet random. It was some years ago now but I still remember it and how upset I was.

Yeah sort of I guess. Just the weirdness and misinterpretation takes me aback if I've shared any information about myself really.

No but I find the amount of effort some people invest in trying to do so both astounding and highly amusing

I once had someone make me feel a bit shit by calling me a ln awful mother. I posted a thread asking what trainers are popular with teen boys. I explained that as bright as my son with asd is, he is clueless at fashion and would happily wear Thomas the tank trainers...Someone said that is was the saddest thread they had ever read and that I was stopping my child expressing themselves. That I was a dreadful mother and should source him a pair of Thomas bloody trainers! My son was an actual teenager in a mainstream comp! Commissioning a pair of Thomas trainers would have probably cost me a fortune! He hadn't even expressed that he wanted Thomas trainers, I was just giving an example that he wasn't bothered by what he wore! All this over me asking advice on what was fashionable to help my autistic son.

Some people on here are dickheads, but to be fair, it's not just on mumsnet. I see it on other social media too. Some of them I get the impression are not very bright. Eg. People doing the giggling twat emoji to mock things that aren't funny on social media.
One good thing is that I've realised from social media that men are just as bitchy as women, if not more.

There are some people with very strong views on certain topics who aren’t capable of holding those views back for the right topics (discussions on the issue that people can avoid if they wish), but instead go on to any thread related to the topics to berate people with different choices or situations. Nasty, nasty people who need to be ignored but it’s hard to do when in the moment and vulnerable. Not been done to me as I don’t post on these issues but I see it a lot.

There are some very nasty people on here as there are in real life.

Yes - I was trying to help my son decide about further education and got lots of kind helpful and thoughtful responses and then a poster came on to say there was no way he would get in to suggested university with his (admittedly not great) grades. I'm not sure why - I was probably just stressed and worrying but it totally deflated and upset me.

I sometimes remember this as he DID get in to the university and is looking forward to attending next year. Had to resist the urge to post a delayed response letting her know.

I vaguely recall your comment on whichever thread it was, and I do remember being astonished at how extremely personally somebody took your opinion that PM wasn't a great musician - it was like they were his mum, or something!

I'm not a big fan of his either, but as musicians go, I hardly think Paul would have cause to worry not being our cup of tea; he certainly has a big enough fan base excluding us!

I posted about a typical days diet for my 2 year old daughter and I got absolutely torn to pieces for giving her too many calories, starving her, not enough fruit and veg, too much fruit, not enough snacks, too many etc. accused of having an eating disorder and all sorts (which I definitely don't!)

I was really exhausted and unsure of myself at the time as a first time mother and people were absolutely horrible. It was really bizarre.

God, yes. Several times (been here a while). Some of those times, I was really upset but eventually took it as a learning experience.

I firmly believe that no-one has the right not to be offended/upset/hurt.

Absolutely not. It's the internet - the Wild West - and you get all sorts out there.

If I post something particularly controversial I don't tend to go back to see what others reply.

I pick up my phone, I scroll for 15 minutes, I put it down and it's forgotten.

My real life is what matters and I honestly don't care what internet strangers think of me for one millisecond.

Yes, I've seen some absolutely bonkers people on here, assuming that they've rumbled you for the shameless disgrace that (they think) you are!

You can almost feel the xenophobic lightbulb flick on in their heads as they ask "Wait... are you... AMERICAN?!" - as if they had uncovered evidence of you strangling kittens or setting fire to old folks' homes!

No. I'm quite self aware though and I know when I'm being a dick so if someone said that to me I'd probably agree. I've spent 15 years working in customer service so I have the hide of an elephant these days as well. 😂

Mumsnet helped me in so many ways during d v
Extreme abuse during pregnancy and the process of fleeing

There was one attack and the baby was very small
I rang the ambulance and was on Mumsnet updating what had happened
The advice was to tell the paramedics what happened but I wasn't ready
I got so many nasty replies
Plus a few people thought I was a troll
So the thread with some very good advice and support was pulled

I was in so much trouble and needed the thread as I had told no one in real life
God that hurt

I had that too!
I said I didn't rate the Beatles and a poster got SO mad about it. I mean REALLY mad. Insults and everything.

So I amused myself by doubling down and saying they were really quite rubbish and I didn't see what all the fuss was about.

I honestly thought the poster was going to have a heart attack or something. It was hilarious.

I also find it bizarre how people seize on such (you would think) uncontroversial and, in the scheme of things, unimportant topics and opinions and decide to pounce on you to tear you to threads.

This is only my second username since I joined MN half a decade ago (I know: relative newbie compared to many!), but I changed it after I was set upon by some weirdo who took it upon herself to cyber-stalk me with Advanced Search, twist my comments from years previously completely to 'prove' (in her mind) that I was a terrible hypocrite and then savage me for what I had done and said in her imagination. She took immense offence at my personal opinion on something so relatively trivial.

I think a lot of people just have too little going on in their own lives and can see no means of elevating themselves through their own merits, so they attempt to achieve perceived 'superiority' by randomly pushing other people down instead. They really cannot be contented people. We all knew bullies at school and, whilst some of them do mature and turn over a new leaf as adults, many of the ones that don't end up on MN.

I got slated a few years ago by quite a few posters for stating that the op should take out travel insurance for an impending trip abroad. Apparently I was bullying them by not backing down when I explained that I work in the industry and that they really should not skip this incase of medical emergency

Oh and I also got attacked for agreeing with the op that Joe Wicks is not a hero. I agreed that he had done good but actually his form / warm up exercises were not great. That thread migrated to Tattle I was informed where people were actually in agreement with the op and some of the rest of us. It wasn't the opinions that shocked me but the vitriol and I was astounded that on this occasion Tattle was so much kinder

Whilst most people aren't as deranged as them, it's amazing how many people take huge offence at people who don't like the same things as they do.

Surely the rational response when somebody has a different opinion from you on a band/TV programme/book/sports team or whatever is to shrug and think it would be a boring world if we were all the same; but so many take it sooooo personally.

I've lost track of the many times on TV quiz shows, where a contestant will e.g. get a question on cricket that they have no idea about and will say something like "My Uncle Barry is a massive cricket fan, so he'll be furious/horrified/flabbergasted if I get this one wrong". Yes, it's Uncle Barry who is the cricket fan; not YOU!