MNers, be kind

[Muppet12]

Hi MNers, I joined MN a few days ago and have to say I am totally shocked at the levels of aggression on here.
I’ve seen and had some truly lovely comments in the bereavement and baby loss etc sections, which is wonderful.
However in other places on the forum every single thread I’ve either posted on or started has quickly degenerated into the OP being shot down and shamed over tiny details that weren’t the point of their post. I don’t use the word lightly but I found it totally inhumane.
c’mon people, we can’t just be kind in the good times. Please please remember that most people who post on a forum do so because they’re in doubt, pain or just needing some company. Kicking people
when they’re down is one of the worst things.
I’m part of a lovely profession-based FB closed group which is a truly supportive mums’ group (not afraid to say YABU or give people reality checks, but with no shame involved). I thought I’d give MN a go too but would encourage anyone who feels similarly about it to go looking for nicer closed groups - they do exist.

Bye then

#bekind 🤨

Yet here you are trying to close US down with the 'be kind' nonsense

clearly not been here long, for a place called “MUMS” net I actually find this one of the most vile and shaming places on the internet!

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‘Be kind’ translates as ‘STFU’.
You be kind now, OP.

You chose a wonderfully apt username for yourself.

It's perhaps a bit soon to condemn a site/tell others how to behave on it, if you only joined a few days ago. Give it time.

I disagree completely.

Mn is absolutely the place I would come to if I want decent honest advice. People are super wise, articulate and supportive here.

I don't find any value in telling someone they're right when they're being a twat.

Omg hun, you’re sooo right. No one’s ever said it before. Gud job your here to tell us all.

Now now, maybe have some Prosecco or book a spa day and you’ll cheer up a bit?

Fuck that, I need gin and a round of fisticuffs in AIBU!

I’ve been here for just over 20 years and it’s an extremely supportive place.

Netmums is over there >>>>

Are you saying that you thought all MUMS were kind before you joined here? If so, what is it about MUMS which make you think they all suddenly develop the same personality?

And if you hate it so much, why are you here?

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We each pick our poison.

Ugh.

I was kind from 1976 until 1998. That was quite enough.

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So many wasted years. I hope you’ve made up for it since.

Op, I'm really intrigued by what your motivation was to write your shocked and appalled message. Did you think anyone at all would think 'oh, I hadn't thought of that' and change their advice? How utterly arrogant and deluded.

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And yet here you are.

As we like to say here: Fuck off to the far side of fuck, and when you get there, fuck off some more. Flouncer's Corner is -->> that way.

I'm sorry but telling women to "be kind" is sexist and patronising. Actually, we don't always have to be kind. We are allowed to have opinions and voice them.