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Hands up if you've had a sh*t day 🙋‍♀️

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Comfysock · 25/12/2023 20:55

My worst Christmas ever!!!

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SapphireSeptember · 26/12/2023 13:48

Toptotoe · 26/12/2023 08:54

That sounds tough -are you sure he isn't married/ in another relationship?

Was that for me? Definitely not, I've been to his house. But I'm very low on his list of priorities. It's work, his parents, his adult daughter, his hobbies, and his pet sheep, in that order. I am last, and he has let me down on a number of occasions when I've invited him to things, or he's said he's coming to see me, and then not let me know he's not coming till the last minute. Quite fed up with it all now. I still haven't heard from him today, and I feel like I'm going to have to make a big choice about my pregnancy. It wasn't like this when I first started going out with him, it's just deteriorated since the spring.

His daughter is another problem, as she wanted us to split up, so he told her we had over a year ago. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Obviously that wasn't true, which is going to cause more problems.

And yes, I'm terrified of doing this on my own, I'm autistic and I've had problems with my mental health in the past. I don't think I'd be able to cope.

ILikeCactuses · 26/12/2023 13:50

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Idontgiveashitanymore · 26/12/2023 11:53

🙋‍♀️
im a community carer and I always go the xtra mile to make sure my clients are clean well fed and looked after . I worked Christmas Day and today and what did I get ? Fucking nothing, no cards nothing !

That's rubbish and not at all what you deserve. Thank you for looking after people so diligently, I hope you get a wonderful 2024 to make up for the thoughtlessness of others in 2023.

BettyPhuckzer · 26/12/2023 16:57

Idontgiveashitanymore · 26/12/2023 11:53

🙋‍♀️
im a community carer and I always go the xtra mile to make sure my clients are clean well fed and looked after . I worked Christmas Day and today and what did I get ? Fucking nothing, no cards nothing !

That's AWFUL

Thank you for all you do 😘

CallMeBobcat · 26/12/2023 18:11

I’ve been laying in bed for the past 36 hours. Just can’t be bothered to get up. What’s the point.

Ilovetea33 · 26/12/2023 18:25

Nowhere near as bad as some of the others, but it used to be much nicer. Ever since my parents died, a lovely friend and I used to go to a brilliant Christmas dinner in a local hotel. But now she's moved away, so I went to a Meetup singles Christmas meal. The organiser kept making strange digs at me (I always correct her; I'm not there to make friends) and the food was mediocre. I was beginning to wish I'd stayed home and watched Christmas carols on TV with a takeaway.

Macanncheese · 26/12/2023 18:25

The lady who practically brought me up died in the early hours of Christmas morning yeah worst Christmas ever!

MMAS · 26/12/2023 18:35

So basically a typically old fashioned Xmas - what is wrong with that. Have you not taught your children how to converse i.e. actually make conversation with adults or do they bury their heads in phones and tablets and are now socially incapable - have you thought about your parenting ? In any case, the fact you actually have a family unit should be celebrated not slagged off like you are doing here. If parents are elderly and you are such a hot shot of ideas why didn't you take things into hand and organise ?

BajaBaja · 26/12/2023 18:37

Same here. In classic toxic family style we all had a stand up row… day ruined.

Ladymeade · 26/12/2023 18:43

I've grown to hate Christmas... DH & I would much rather fck off and do our own thing but end up hosting both sets of parents to keep the peace. One set didn't even bring a bottle of wine! It's only one fkkin day and a roast dinner at best - why is there so much hype?!

MMAS · 26/12/2023 18:45

Then everything or everyone that has made you as down as this wins. Get up, have a shower or a bath, make yourself something you really like. Make some New Year plans and go from there. Only you can sort whatever is the problem but if you are alone and reached out this far look closer as think you will probably find others closer x

Notts90 · 26/12/2023 18:49

Yep! DP and I not currently speaking to the in-laws after a row which should've been forgotten about the next day we usually go there on Christmas Day. DC kept asking when we were going..

Because they were up at stupid o'clock they were in awful moods come the afternoon and their constant fighting and bad attitude totally spoilt it. DP and I probably didn't help but we'd been up since 2AM with 8 month old DD and were knackered.

Roll on back to routine.

BritAirwaysgirl · 26/12/2023 18:55

Secondtonaan · 25/12/2023 21:03

Mines not great.

Lots of elderly family and I do everything. Totally exhausted and back at work on weds

Hate Christmas

This

naffusername · 26/12/2023 18:58

Totally get this!

Hospital nurse and only my coworkers wished each other Happy Christmas.

Our staff meals on the 25th were stopped years ago "because we pay you enough that you don't need free meals".

Families who decided to visit were treating us like maids "well, you are on double time because it's Christmas Day".

Notimeforidiots69 · 26/12/2023 19:22

Aww that's so lovely, it brought a tear to my eye 🤗🤗🤗

Gettingbysomehow · 26/12/2023 19:37

My family rang to say they all got covid. All 10 of them. I dont feel bad about not going now.

TrixieMixie · 26/12/2023 19:57

Middleagedbeige · 25/12/2023 23:15

My dad died on Christmas Day… colds are not the worst it gets.

My dad also died on Christmas Day - a long time ago now but I feel your pain. I’m sorry to hear so many of us having a hard time, but I feel the solidarity. After Dad died - he was an abusive alcoholic but even so - I hated Christmas for years. I felt like such a failure because DH and I haven’t had children and Christmas is all about perfect families so I felt awful about myself. I abused alcohol too but have been sober for 20 years next June. Well this year my stepdad also died, I was diagnosed with a life-altering incurable condition and my DH is ill. So this year’s not great, but I’m proud that, despite everything, I’ve beaten alcohol addiction and built a good life for myself, full of love and plenty of happiness - admittedly often more on the other 364 days! Cheers (with tomato juice!)

LalaPaloosa · 26/12/2023 19:59

Wellcantthisyearjustfuckrightoff · 25/12/2023 21:38

Well. I’ve NC for this, but I have finally realised, almost 3 years after discovering my “devoted and loving” husband was having an affair with an acquaintance of mine, that I deserve fucking more. He’s tried and he’s sorry but I’m fucking DONE. She was 20 years my senior and a more unpleasant woman you’ve never met. He is weak and pathetic and I have jettisoned that fat wanker. 2024 will be the year I find myself again. Merry Christmas.

Good for you!! “I jettisoned the fat wanker” is gold. Wishing you a wonderful, joyful and successful 2024!

Beaker1305 · 26/12/2023 20:05

Boxing day has been my 💩 day.
We visit parents and in-laws on Boxing day... I know this will make me sound ungrateful! But...

My own parents gor me & the hubby a selection box & bottle of wine - not a lot of thought & effort.
My in-laws got me a bath bomb set and an asda bath collection set - we don't have a bath (?!) And a candle.

I know I sound ungrateful but I honestly wish my in-laws hadn't wasted their money - the gifts off my parents were basic but at least they'll get used!

43ontherocksporfavor · 26/12/2023 20:05

I quite like Christmas but now that DC are adult- one has left home and the other still here, it gets a bit complicated because we are not in control of what we all do. The one who has moved out is single and comes home for a week of rest it seems, the other one has a bf that she wants to be with most of the time(at his folks house) so I’m wary of making plans for all and then they don’t want to take part . Had a lovely day yesterday at nephew and niece’s house but today is a slow one as tired. At least it was bright so got out for a nice dog walk.
I think if we weren’t worrying about the adult DC we would jet off somewhere for the whole period.

Maternityleavelady · 26/12/2023 20:10

It wasn’t total shit but it was exhausting and underwhelming - mainly thanks to unhelpful in-laws! Will def do things differently next year

Ladyof2022 · 26/12/2023 20:25

Lonely empty inside and terrified for my future

Ecnerual · 26/12/2023 20:48

It feels minor compared to others but mine has felt very meh.

We're visiting family and it is exhausting driving around to see different people, and it's hard to relax properly in someone else's home (even though they're a wonderful host). I am so tired.

I was also bought a lot of chocolate I can't eat due to BF a CMPA baby, this has made me very sad.

I just feel like we would have had a more enjoyable time at home, but then we probably would have felt guilty about not seeing family.

Sorry to everyone having a tough time.

Singlullaby · 26/12/2023 20:58

OK, so my emails about mumsnet came and I read;

'Hands up if you had a sh@g today'

Oh really! I thought. This is too rude!

Then I looked again and read;

'Hands up if you had a sh!t today'

Well, I thought, maybe people over-ate...

Then I looked again and, yes, I did have a sh!t day. I was fine on my own with the dogs - honestly - a woman on her own can be oh so happy. Until I read a thank you for a present I sent telling me not to send them presents as they took them and gave them away. I can't be too explicit. But the thank you was intended like a smack in the face with a wet fish.

Ahhh, I have an idea for the present I'll send that person next time. With instructions.

Mybingoballs · 26/12/2023 21:05

GinJeanie Happy birthday 🎁🥂🍾

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