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Hands up if you've had a sh*t day 🙋‍♀️

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Comfysock · 25/12/2023 20:55

My worst Christmas ever!!!

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SnugglyJumpersMakeItBetter · 26/12/2023 06:58

I'm so sorry to everyone who's having a crap Christmas! I really hope today can be better.

It's been terrible here. Little nephew in hospital the other side of England, which we knew meant Christmas would be delayed, but has just added massively to everyone's stress. Sister too ill to come over. Dog, who normally LOVES Christmas, suspected to be trying to fight off a pyometra and has taken to her basket. The house is a tip. I wanted to spend the next few days getting on top of things but am overwhelmed, stressed and exhausted.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 26/12/2023 07:06

Not the worst Christmas but certainly up there. Fucking stbxh.

Luddite26 · 26/12/2023 07:11

twiddlingthumbs69 · 25/12/2023 21:16

Definition worst ever here. My 60th birthday tomorrow and total write off due to colds etc. Miserable

Happy birthday fellow Boxing Day birthdayer. Hope you have a good one in some way sorry it's been spoilt by colds. I often wonder how much I have in common with Chairman Mao and Phil Spector other fellow Boxing Day birthday folk!

pockledigg · 26/12/2023 07:21

Very first Christmas alone (I'm 56), and I've been dreading it, fully expecting to spend the day in tears and have the shittest, most lonely Christmas ever.

I have been pleasantly surprised! I have had a lovely, peaceful day. I made myself a full Christmas dinner and ate loads of chocolate and watched TV until my eyes hurt. The only thing I'll change next year is the menu. Instead of the standard roast I'll have something spicy, probably ready-made so I don't have to faff around in the kitchen too much.

Deathraystare · 26/12/2023 07:25

Some people really have a shit time of it with ungrateful family members etc so I am grateful that I am alone.

The only awful thing about Christmas Day (I usually work) is waiting for the (booked) taxi to arrive. For some reason it always goes Pete Tong. Cannot find my booking, got wrong phone number for me, arrive hours later etc etc. I could cry with frustration at times. I get there (and back) in the end though and don't have to deal with ungrateful brats/distant or lazy husbands or bastard In Laws so I count myself extremely lucky in that regard.

DustyLee123 · 26/12/2023 07:27

I took the dog out for a walk at 2.50pm, when I knew most people would be eating lunch or watching the adulterer on TV. It was bliss, didn’t see one other person.

Mrgwl29 · 26/12/2023 07:35

@Mariposistaa I'm sorry for your loss and that Christmas had a sadness to it this year but you and your mum sound so lovely, what a nice way to make the best of a potentially difficult day. All the best for the New Year!

Busbygirl · 26/12/2023 07:51

Yes rubbish. Going through a divorce. Had to spend it with H, who was moody all day Adult children really felt it. but were great and really helped me. I felt sorry for them.
Can’t wait to get my own house and never have to spend the day with him again. Ugh!

honeyandfizz · 26/12/2023 07:57

Mine was shit too. First xmas without our beloved Dad and was invited to DBros house along with my 2 DC and my Mum. On arrival it was clear he was in a foul mood as he was cooking. He loves cooking, won't let anybody in the kitchen, has lots of expensive pans and knives etc but he barely spoke two words to us instead he was swearing under his breath (open plan kitchen so couldn't escape him) slamming pots and pans around and being a general all round cunt. We all felt so uncomfortable it was like he didn't want us there, by the time we sat down to eat I was furious, food was plonked on the table and we didn't get to raise a glass to my Dad like I wanted. Instead we sat in miserable silence trying to swallow the food but instead I wanted to throw it up the wall and get the fuck out of there.

I had a word with my wonderful Sil and told her to take her kids and leave the miserable shouty fucker (he has history of this) and run, she is wonderful and I have no idea why she subjects herself and her poor DC to a life with him.

I will never ever do that again. I had worked right until 9pm Xmas eve and was so looking forward to being with my Mum and that selfish miserable wanker ruined it. Merry Fucking Christmas.

Nanaof1 · 26/12/2023 07:58

pollyglot · 26/12/2023 00:23

Just me and DH, and he gave me some beautiful and thoughtful presents. We had the day together, as usual, my favourite thing. I know this is petty, but I would have loved to have had a card or some acknowledgement from my kids for a change. This year, as always, I have given/spent so much on them, getting them out of financial difficulty, house deposit etc. - to the tune of $80K. I have cancelled plans for travel and something nice I had planned to buy. This happened last year too, and the one before, but I thought that they might do something this time as I'm getting old now and with health issues, every Christmas could be my last. I also had a serious fall 10 days ago, requiring stitches and resulting in painful bruising. Apparently mother is immortal and dispensable. Bitter and twisted? Moi?

I know we don't do things for our children to expect something back, but when they are utterly selfish and ignore us on special days or give us a gift that had zero thought behind it, it just hurts.
I'm sorry your NVDC are not appreciating you as they should and also very sorry that you fell. OUCH! I hope you are resting when you can.

stayathomer · 26/12/2023 07:59

SleepWalkerShitTalker
Im so sorry, take care x

stayathomer · 26/12/2023 08:01

Hugs to everyone who had a tough one, hope things get easier or that something happens out of this x

Catsknowbest · 26/12/2023 08:07

honeyandfizz · 26/12/2023 07:57

Mine was shit too. First xmas without our beloved Dad and was invited to DBros house along with my 2 DC and my Mum. On arrival it was clear he was in a foul mood as he was cooking. He loves cooking, won't let anybody in the kitchen, has lots of expensive pans and knives etc but he barely spoke two words to us instead he was swearing under his breath (open plan kitchen so couldn't escape him) slamming pots and pans around and being a general all round cunt. We all felt so uncomfortable it was like he didn't want us there, by the time we sat down to eat I was furious, food was plonked on the table and we didn't get to raise a glass to my Dad like I wanted. Instead we sat in miserable silence trying to swallow the food but instead I wanted to throw it up the wall and get the fuck out of there.

I had a word with my wonderful Sil and told her to take her kids and leave the miserable shouty fucker (he has history of this) and run, she is wonderful and I have no idea why she subjects herself and her poor DC to a life with him.

I will never ever do that again. I had worked right until 9pm Xmas eve and was so looking forward to being with my Mum and that selfish miserable wanker ruined it. Merry Fucking Christmas.

That sounds horrible. Hope you can have a better day today. He sounds a real treat ☹

sweetdreamstenasee · 26/12/2023 08:21

Had a terrible few days with my parents in the lead up to christmas, my husband and I spent our baby’s first christmas with friends. I’ve been feeling so low that it’s no surprise I drank too much and had an argument with my husband when we got home. Dreading today, he will give me the silent treatment and I feel like a shit mum on top of it. I’m so embarrassed and I want to cry but wallowing will annoy him more. I feel so lonely.

daisychain01 · 26/12/2023 08:26

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 25/12/2023 23:59

Yep, shit over here too.

We live in the family home, so it's where every one comes back to on Christmas however for the past 4 years we've had DS, who is quite high needs autistic.

Now DS loves Christmas he's always loved it, and now he's 4 he can finally understand the season of it and we spent all yesterday hyping him up for Santa coming, to our own detriment as he wouldn't sleep!

He's a terrible sleeper as it is, but that meant we were playing little elves till early hours or the morning, and as soon as DS woke up visitors arrived and he could not get any of his morning routine out of the way before guests just starting piling in and getting in his face or showing off.

Boundaries kept getting crossed and me and DS kept having to take timeouts upstairs which just really felt like fun jail for him and every one else's inability to read the room just had me spiralling.

Then he was too overwhelmed to enjoy the rest of the day. It's been a nightmare.

It sounds like you had a challenging time but if you deliberately hype up your high-needs neurodiverse child for a whole day and knowingly take them outside their routine which is the absolutely opposite of what is best for them, just because it's Christmas, what do you expect? I don't understand that mentality.

daisychain01 · 26/12/2023 08:31

Comfysock · 25/12/2023 22:22

@ThreeLocusts what you've mentioned is part of why the last few days have been horrendous...lm so sorry you have gone...going through this. Im.at the start of this journey and I have no one to talk to about what's happened with DS. I dont even know what to do after having him admitted to A&E and sitting there for 5 hours only to be told it will be a 14 hour turm around to actual get him in front of the crisis team. Whilst pissheads walked in with cut heads and broken arms and got priority 😡 then started fighting....he had a panick attack and he begged us to take him home.

I hope your DS has been treated and you're both home safe and sound. That sounds like a terrible Christmas, and definitely not helped at this time of year with the Festive Fighters clogging up valuable resource that should be for worthy cases like your DS.

Stuckandunhappy · 26/12/2023 08:35

Wasn't great. DH and I are going through difficulties (I want to separate) and ended up having a little conversation about it when I was cooking Christmas Dinner. I had done all the food shopping and cooked/prepped for 3-4 hours, only for DH to announce, just as everything was ready, that he is not hungry and going upstairs to sulk. Didn't see him for the rest of the evening (separate bedrooms) and had to get the youngest DC to wake him up the next day so that the kids could open their presents.

HeraSyndulla · 26/12/2023 08:42

When I did the off-duty for Christmas I wasn't short of staff looking to cover those shifts. In fact, I had quite a few requests beforehand.

It was obvious that more than a few would rather be at work and avoid the whole Christmas thing. And most of these had family.

Poppsidoppsi · 26/12/2023 08:52

I am so sorry @Newchapterbeckons - I hope your DC feel better soon and all is clear with your DH’s results. What your dad said is unforgivable; my heart goes out to you x

Toptotoe · 26/12/2023 08:54

That sounds tough -are you sure he isn't married/ in another relationship?

Caththegreat · 26/12/2023 08:57

And you guys are always going on about poor poor singles.families are not the only way to live

Caththegreat · 26/12/2023 08:58

Creating so called magical times for children who have been allowed to become monsters and rude phone addicted older kids.Go into a town centre and you'll get more contact and humanity from some homeless people.

Meowandthen · 26/12/2023 09:02

ZiggyZowie · 25/12/2023 21:15

I did all the cooking ,washing up etc ,

Two adult kids visiting never offer to help PLUS they had the telly bellowing , no peace.

I took the dog out for a bit of escape.

They're now all buried in their phones, I can't wait till they all go home, then I can properly relax.

I hope you told them to turn it down and to give you a hand. Don’t let them be lazy sods or you just make a rod for your own back.

RoseMartha · 26/12/2023 09:03

@Andante57
Usually worse tbh. Both are ND. And have chosen to copy exh behaviour. Trying to get practical and emotional support is a nightmare. The result of all of this means family and friends have fallen away.

Next year I will try and do just that and he can have them for the whole Christmas break instead. He has gone on holiday for most of the school Christmas break.

Butternutsqoosh · 26/12/2023 09:03

@twiddlingthumbs69 Happy Birthday toooo you! 🎁🎉🥂