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Newchapterbeckons · 26/12/2023 09:03

Poppsidoppsi · 26/12/2023 08:52

I am so sorry @Newchapterbeckons - I hope your DC feel better soon and all is clear with your DH’s results. What your dad said is unforgivable; my heart goes out to you x

Thank you 🙏🏻 I don’t think there is enough therapy in the world to fix my shattered heart. Wondering what I can do to salvage things for my dc when they are better. Has anyone successfully had a rerun of any kind? Or a theme park visit? Or shall I just give up gracefully take the decorations down and get on with the new year? Is anyone else wondering this?

Girlsjustwannahavefundamentalrights · 26/12/2023 09:08

Charlize43 · 25/12/2023 23:46

I had a lovely Christmas. Hosted 12 and one of the neighbours did all my washing up. He's such a sweetheart. The food turned out great and the drink was flowing as all my guests brought a bottle (s) as I have a no gift policy. The game of charades was a hoot with lots of drunken falling around, and people forgetting who they were. It was a scream.

Merry Christmas everyone.

I'll see myself out.

Fucking hell, read the room love!

Poppsidoppsi · 26/12/2023 09:11

@Newchapterbeckons bless you, I’m so sorry you are going through this. My DH has covid so plans to see my family went down the drain, so we have “rescheduled” Christmas for new years - perhaps, if your DC are feeling better by next week, you could have the Christmas Day you all deserve? Xx

Mariposistaa · 26/12/2023 09:13

Mrgwl29 · 26/12/2023 07:35

@Mariposistaa I'm sorry for your loss and that Christmas had a sadness to it this year but you and your mum sound so lovely, what a nice way to make the best of a potentially difficult day. All the best for the New Year!

@Mrgwl29 thank you. This lady has held me up so much in the last 8 months, more than most of our actual family did tbh! And I am an expert in recognising ‘I’m exhausted and need a cuddle and a bit of TLC’ tears. She spent the evening snoozing snuggled on our sofa with my owl hot water bottle, with our labrador’s head on her knee, has got some good rest and is feeling a bit better today. So that makes me feel a bit better on this difficult Christmas.

marquislafayette · 26/12/2023 09:16

Same.

Taking the tree down later and putting all the decs away.

BettyPhuckzer · 26/12/2023 09:24

Newchapterbeckons · 26/12/2023 05:50

Both of my children are so ill with covid. No one ate a single thing despite cooking for hours. Spent all day on the sofa or dishing out meds. Cried in the kitchen as even without the illness I was struggling waiting for dhs cancer results.

Following a therapy session, I spoke to my dad a few weeks ago to to talk through why he is always hostile and abusive towards me, he said he would be ‘honest’, that he has never loved me and didn’t want kids. my mum, dad and siblings are now celebrating Christmas in Scotland together as if nothing happened, and he hasn’t said a word to me since. Nor has anyone else. Not sure there is ever a way back after that conversation. My mum seems indifferent.
I don’t know how I have got through the day, without a meltdown, but I did and I am proud of that. It’s Boxing Day now and I have woken up so early and I am aching so much my eyelids hurt. At least Christmas is over..

Happier times await us all. Maybe some big/small changes for next year… big hugs to those struggling/grieving and in pain.

I'm so so sorry

Sending you so much love ❤️

BeggyMitchell · 26/12/2023 09:32

Fucking hell, read the room love!

Lol that's exactly what I thought - or at least the thread title !

Hope everyone is having a better Boxing Day.

Deathbyathousandcats · 26/12/2023 09:32

I’m so sorry for those who have a shit Christmas; I’ve had quite a few in the past and things have massively improved in the past couple of years.
There’s always hope for the future.

Tinselburn · 26/12/2023 09:35

Girlsjustwannahavefundamentalrights · 26/12/2023 09:08

Fucking hell, read the room love!

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I know. I hope you aren't this fucking clueless and tone deaf in real life, if so you must struggle.

Newchapterbeckons · 26/12/2023 09:39

Poppsidoppsi · 26/12/2023 09:11

@Newchapterbeckons bless you, I’m so sorry you are going through this. My DH has covid so plans to see my family went down the drain, so we have “rescheduled” Christmas for new years - perhaps, if your DC are feeling better by next week, you could have the Christmas Day you all deserve? Xx

I am sorry your dh is also ill, it’s not fun at Christmas is it! I hope you have a very happy Christmas with your family, Christmas is just a date and can be recaptured.

Overcome2023 · 26/12/2023 09:41

I wasn’t expecting much after a difficult year during which some things that have happened added even more dimensions to a time of year that’s already complicated. The day was actually okay until DH had too much to drink and had a massive go at me before bedtime. Not great and I’m looking forward to a day of happy families with the in-laws. I hope everyone is okay.

Lovethatforyouhun · 26/12/2023 09:43

Lots of martyrdom on this thread. Fear, obligation and guilt…

And yes I am a bloody hypocrite! When will I learn to say NO! ?

Happy New Year to all

mrstrickland · 26/12/2023 09:56

Me! D & V for me too, which then led to a UTI from lack of fluids 😫and an angry teenager because I had ruined Christmas!

honeyandfizz · 26/12/2023 09:57

Lovethatforyouhun · 26/12/2023 09:43

Lots of martyrdom on this thread. Fear, obligation and guilt…

And yes I am a bloody hypocrite! When will I learn to say NO! ?

Happy New Year to all

Yep. To be honest I would have walked out of my Brothers house yesterday without a second thought but I had my bereaved, desperately sad Mum sat directly opposite who kept giving me knowing glances. At one stage I had tears silently rolling down my face, missing my Dad at the table was hard enough without being made to feel so so uncomfortable. Mum and I called each other after we had got home and she agreed her was a top class twat and that after many many years of saying nothing to his bad behaviour she is going to call him out on it.

zeibesaffron · 26/12/2023 09:57

Agreed it was awful my DD has an eating disorder and ate nothing would not even have anything to drink apart from water - I just desperately wanted her to eat! Just one day when I am not distraught because of this ED this is not just affecting my DD but us too.

2023forme · 26/12/2023 10:02

coolkatt · 25/12/2023 22:46

i tried to have a good day but it's
just so stressful with kids getting so hyper, it's the same every year they get too much when we
go to parents home, aunts and uncles cousins. and it becomes a free for
all. too many
presents they don't even look at them properly and can't remember to say thank you, gets me so stressed, then my snidey niece being a brat, then my girls turning into unappreciate brats even thou they get a full on warning before we leave. i just hate it. then when i get them into trouble or
tell
them to settle i'm the grinch. it's the same
every year when
i'm not working. literally been looking up
holidays for next xmas since i got home. house is a shithole, all for this one day of nonsense

We used to have this when DC were young -in laws used to go do overboard with presents and my DC got very expectant of getting shed loads of stuff. Went to my sisters one year after the ILs had spoiled DC and when my sister gave DC her presents, DS (must have been about 8) said “that’s not a lot of presents is it”.

despite asking ILs not to spoil DC, they just couldn’t help themselves so the next year we went away for Christmas to break the cycle - one of my best Christmas’ ever!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/12/2023 10:03

frecklejuice · 25/12/2023 22:05

@AngelAurora it might not be "just a cold", my Mum and Sister have had heavy colds now for a week and feel rotten. They aren't bed bound and yes it's not flu but they aren't well and it's spoilt their christmas.

A dd2 we were supposed to be staying with had ‘that’ cold, finally tested late on Chr. Eve, and it was sodding COVID. TBH since dh and I had had similar colds, non COVID, none of us had expected that, and because of vulnerable non-family guests due at dd1’s yesterday, meant dh and I had to turn round and drive the 60 miles home again - having unloaded all the food I’d prepped at dd1’s.
Still, dh and I had a nice peaceful day, albeit with no proper 🎄dinner, and we’ll have a Boxing Day dinner with them instead (vulnerable guests no longer there).

💐🍷and (((❤️))) to all of you who’ve had infinitely worse to endure.

LuckySantangelo35 · 26/12/2023 10:15

TinselTittz · 25/12/2023 22:15

Nooooo!!

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@Ginnnny

does that happen often?

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Christmasneverhappenedsolidarity · 26/12/2023 10:29

Half my family have Covid so all gatherings were postponed.

DH has Covid so we are living in separate parts of the house.

DriftingDora · 26/12/2023 10:38

Wellcantthisyearjustfuckrightoff · 25/12/2023 21:38

Well. I’ve NC for this, but I have finally realised, almost 3 years after discovering my “devoted and loving” husband was having an affair with an acquaintance of mine, that I deserve fucking more. He’s tried and he’s sorry but I’m fucking DONE. She was 20 years my senior and a more unpleasant woman you’ve never met. He is weak and pathetic and I have jettisoned that fat wanker. 2024 will be the year I find myself again. Merry Christmas.

Go, girl! I hope by next Christmas it will be a whole different story for you with lots of good times ahead. Here's to a Happy New Year.

BeggyMitchell · 26/12/2023 10:39

Christmasneverhappenedsolidarity · 26/12/2023 10:29

Half my family have Covid so all gatherings were postponed.

DH has Covid so we are living in separate parts of the house.

Very very prevalent here, I'm just recovering, DD has it now.

Pretty sure I got it at the work Christmas party. What a present !🎄

lonelynewname · 26/12/2023 10:39

Havin an awful time. Just don’t want to be here.

BigHoops · 26/12/2023 10:40

So sorry to read all of these posts. My heart goes out to you all (apart from the smug 'i had a fab Xmas actually!' poster). I was feeling very sorry for myself as I tested positive for covid on Christmas Eve and have been floored with it but realizing how lucky I actually am.

Still, I'm allowing myself a little pity party. DS now has it and is really suffering, he is prone to chest infections so has been non stop coughing and I'm worried. And I don't feel any better yet and have had to cancel all sorts. Just sucks being ill on Christmas Day doesn't it!

I hope for better years ahead for everyone here.

Newchapterbeckons · 26/12/2023 10:43

lonelynewname · 26/12/2023 10:39

Havin an awful time. Just don’t want to be here.

Can you tell us what has happened? Look after yourself.