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My worst Christmas ever!!!

Hey, keep posting . We're all here feeling rubbish with you.

I'm so sorry

This year was my first Christmas Day off work in four years. I broke my leg two weeks ago. So my terrible Christmas Day started then to be fair. I'm bedbound. I'm miserable. There's nothing on the fucking telly. Im totally constipated by pain drugs and I really really want a poo.

Thanks @BeggyMitchell and @Newchapterbeckons
im in an unhappy marriage and this time of year is just hell.
H is not well so we have had to spend the day away from anyone.
I have been ruminating over some decisions I made recently that have affected me negatively and I just feel trapped in a loop of negative thoughts and I don’t want to reach out to my friends and family to discuss because I don’t want to be a downer at Xmas.

just feeling trapped mentally and physically.

God what a depressing read. I never celebrate Xmas. I stay at home on my own and do what I want. Mainly because I know exactly what will happen. I will murder my mother and go to prison 5 minutes in. My sibling wants to make Xmas perfect for everyone and they are all ingrates so at some point she will totally self combust. Usually over dinner. The kids will shriek all day. The men will vanish and come back pissed. I will wish for the umpteenth time I had stayed at home so I do.
This year despite relative avoidance my adult son called me the day before Xmas Eve and said can he and wife come over for Xmas and I said absolutely not. You want me to organise Xmas in one fucking day, I have made plans to relax with friends Xmas eve and boxing day.
I then felt guilty all over Xmas instead of enjoying my peace and quiet. FML 😓

Well I hope this thread helps a bit lonelynewname. Wishing you all the best in the New Year, fresh start and all that, maybe time to put yourself first .

1st Christmas as a single mum to 3 ds (9, 10 and 5). No effort for them from exh. Emotionally and physically drained. Eldest son sobbed himself to sleep last night, clinging on to me as if he was going to drop off the world. Ex just picked them up and i miss them so much, especially because I know he won't have put any effort into making it special or magical for them. House feels like it's a shithole (it's not really just feels that way). Last Christmas was when I finally left with the kids after they witnessed him violently assault me in their bedroom.
I've been trying to lose weight since June, managed to lose 2 and a half stone, feel like I've fucked it all up yesterday and today and will inevitably put it all back on. Should be tidying, but am lying on the sofa watching Ken Burns' Civil War and eating ham from the packet.

Verbally sharted on by miserable husband. Somehow managed not to respond, which would have been met with claims of me being nasty, hysterical, causing fights, etc.

@MrsMigginsesPieShop a bit of over indulgence over Christmas will not put 2.5 stone back on. Start again in the new year and you will be back where you were by the end of January.

I did the same. Just me and the dog, pure bliss. I could have walked for hours.

I'm sending lots of love and strength to all who have had hard times this Christmas. I was really lucky for Xmas Day: I'm a single parent to 2DC and spent yesterday with my DB and his family. Unfortunately, two relatives who came over to stay were taken ill (colds/flu). They're from overseas, so couldn't just go home. Hoping the rest of the family can avoid getting ill. I felt really bad for them as it's crap being ill and away from home.

On Xmas Eve, I did a Xmas Day at home so that my youngest could have a Xmas Day with her dad (my XH) - he can't have DC at his place, and I'd rather he see her at my place so I can supervise. That was interesting. He kept on and on about how much he missed me and how much he regretted all his past shitty behaviour. That put me in a bit of a sad spin: it got me so sad that it's taken me enforcing my boundaries and divorcing him for him to actually twig. Such a bloody waste. Still, I'd never go back and I'd rather have the situation we're in now, than the fucking awful one from before we separated five years ago.

I hope things look up for everyone xxx

Yep. Morning started ok but then MIL came around at the crack of dawn and stayed - for 14 hours!!
DDs presents were bigger than expected so I got roped into cleaning and tidying her room out to make space. Knee deep in paper and old toys and washing up all day. MIL practically throwing books and toys at me at one stage. Bin bags split on the stairs. Partner saying I should have done this before Christmas. I saw red seeing as he barely does any housework or lifts a finger to help.

The rest of the time MIL and partner were on their fat arses on the sofa asleep or eating. Not one of them even washed a dish!
I never get to see my family on Christmas day because of my partner's big difficult family.
I didn't even get to go to bed early as DD bouncing off the walls in excitement over new toys.
I was ratty and short with her , saying mummies had a bad day. She gave me a hug , it's not her fault. Felt terrible then.

I had high hopes for this year but think it's actually been the shittest in 11 years I've been with partner. It's all about cooking and pleasing others. I barely got to sit down and have a drink all day. Certainly didn't get to watch any TV I wanted to.
Soon be time to do it all again at MIL house! I can't stomach the thought at the moment.

A pp described a nice Christmas alone and it sounds like absolute bliss. I hope one day I get to do this. I don't mean to offend but I often envy the childfree and single at this time of year.

Sending hugs to all those who haven't had a good Christmas. Hope the new year brings happier times x

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im a community carer and I always go the xtra mile to make sure my clients are clean well fed and looked after . I worked Christmas Day and today and what did I get ? Fucking nothing, no cards nothing !

Do It and enjoy the day.

Hmmm, my mother died on Friday. My family were not brought uo to mope about, particularly as mother lived Christmas. I made it clear to DP I want a nice christmas. His response is to make it all about him, tearful at times, and taking things out on our DS age 13 - deliberately taking everything he says as a slight/insult. Sitting silently at present opening time. I will be having strong words when DS returns to school. I wish I didn't have to wait that long - they don't go back until the 6th.He always has a strop at times of crisis or celebrations. He has put a downer on DS's Christmas, and this will not be tolerated again. He's either going to boycott the funeral,as he is avoiding my family, or come and weep and wail. Neither are helpful to me. My blood is boiling.

I'd have gone and collected all their presents and locked them in a cupboard till I could return them or give them away!

Ah sorry you e all had a crap time. Hope you can get some time to relax or do whatever makes you happy. Christmas is so much pressure and often brings out the worst.

Can I join?

The best bits of my Xmas have been the solo dog walks. Can't wait for it to be over. Feeling nothing but contempt for my husband.

Your needs matter too. You shouldn't have to put these on the back-burner every single Christmas of your life, and taking one for the team shouldn't be the automatic position for women and mums to be in. Your kids are likely to perceive this: they are like little sponges that soak up their surroundings and they know. They might actually appreciate some time with a happy, relaxed mum for a change.

I'm sorry Christmas has been such an ordeal for so many people on this thread. Some of these stories are really sad. Mine can't compare: I've only gone down with a nasty cold and cough as I seem to do not infrequently at Christmas and the worst I can complain of is feeling a bit washed out.

Warmest wishes to you all, and here's hoping for better things in 2024 ❤

Started off well, despite a stinking cold. Nice breakfast & present opening at home before round to sister's for big family lunch, drinks & presents. Then, early evening, sister announced they were going next door for party games with the neighbours. DH & I as well as a couple of others were not keen as not really our thing but felt obliged so decided to go for a short while. Our teens refused and stayed in sister's house. Games were painful (charades!) and we felt very uncomfortable, especially as some members of neighbours family very loud and obnoxious, neighbour's BIL in particular who started taking the piss out of DH & I as we were hopeless at the game and seemed to enjoy seeing us squirm, trying to make us down drinks for getting things wrong etc. It seemed neverending & teens kept phoning to see when we were coming back as they were bored and wanted to do drinks/music with our family. Eventually, after another swipe from the obnoxious BIL, I walked out and dragged DH with me. Another relative followed who also admitted they weren't enjoying it. Some of our party drifted back after a while but the atmosphere had been lost so we decided to head home shortly after. Bit sad Christmas night ended up like that really but seems minor compared to the Christmas some of you have had!

@lonelynewname start a thread, call someone, anyone, for a chat, even if it’s just to say what you said here. 💐

Also @lonelynewname from the NHS page:
Free listening servicesThese services offer confidential support from trained volunteers. You can talk about anything that's troubling you, no matter how difficult:

• Call 116 123 to talk to Samaritans, or email: [email protected] for a reply within 24 hours
• Text "SHOUT" to 85258 to contact the Shout Crisis Text Line, or text "YM" if you're under 19

Please please don’t suffer in silence. One of my dc has used this and I’m so glad they did.

Oh @MrsMigginsesPieShop that sounds really awful, and your ex sounds dreadful too. Not my place to say this really and I don't know your circs, but should your ex have the kids if he has form for 'violent assault'? Will other adults be there today? I'm so sorry for what sounds like a terrible situation - of course you need a break, Christmas as a SP is so tough, but it does seem as if your eldest is stressed by seeing his dad, or was it not seeing his dad?

Don't worry about the weight gain btw, I lost weight two years ago and did the usual sabotage over Christmas and Boxing Day, but get back into the saddle tomorrow - put the leftovers out for the birds or in the bin! You won't gain any more than a couple of pounds in two days.

Life alone with kids and Christmas gets easier as they get older ime - but the early Christmases doing it all one-handed were a nightmare of mess and stress, I spent them like a crazed wolf. 💐

I’d personally say this IS the worst! Hope he’s better now.

Omg I feel your pain. Broke my ankle badly year before last. The constipation....on those meds. Get on dulcolax or similar asap. It's awful. Hope you mend well and quickly