The most shocking thing you've read on Mumsnet..

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Just that really.. (Kind of lighthearted/maybe not!)

OMG @ImTheGoat literally take it somewhere else. It's just bloody rude to derail this thread in this way. 😡

Right back at you @catvstree! I've just responded to one of many, many goady posts on this subject (as have you I might point out), so you have no right to single me out in that way.

I get a bit cross when someone writes “Are you getting help with your anxiety, OP?!?” There is help for people who are a danger to themselves and others but not much for anyone who is a bit anxious.

I also get cross when someone has applied for several famous schools for their child and then, when they get in to all of them, come on here to ask which one they should choose. The process for getting into Eton, Winchester, St Paul’s, Westminster is quite involved - how is it possible to get to the end and have absolutely no preference?

This thread has been totally ruined by this derail. It would have been an interesting read but I can’t be arsed filtering through so many posts banging on about this

Same. I don't think it was true, either.

I think MNHQ should delete all the derailing posts.

Unfortunately the thread is still getting derailed. Are you able to do a little clean-up, please?

I've never worn anything in bed for years! I'm past period days now, but that was the only time I wore knickers!

To be fair, it had already been derailed (albeit often humorously) with lots of talk on the specifics of American cheese - but nobody seemed to cavil about that.

No I totally agree, the cheese thing is also really derailing. I hate it when, on these threads that should flow nicely with a variety of topics, 3 of 4 posters get completely stuck on one subject. Totally spoils it.

Fair enough on the derailing - I've started a separate thread here https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4967637-to-think-women-who-enjoy-choking-during-sex-should-know-the-risks

Why would that shock you? Unless you're being ironic...

Thanks for doing that, ImTheGoat - will pop along to the new thread soon.

Yes, I have executive function disorder and when I reached out for CBT help a few years ago because I was struggling I was straight up told if your not self harming or suicidal we don't care, come back if you get to that point.

On the first one: I think we will all be doing something like that in future. At least we won't be flushing with clean water, maybe we'll have grey water systems.

On the second point, I'm white and use body lotion after every shower. Anyone with dry skin should do that.

It's not, but I realise a lot of MNers don't do because quite a few say things like body lotions are crap presents.

It's really not that unusual. In a country where about 85% are white, who do you think is buying the body lotions, creams, butters, oils, etc.?

Surely moisturising daily would actually dry out your skin? It's a marketing ploy not a necessary product.

London's not the only city in the UK!

People buy them as gifts that are then sent to charity shops. I always seem to have some unopened moisturisers but I’ve rarely bought them. . A friend of mine is a nurse and i pass them on to her to use as hand cream.

Similarly to candles really.

I presume people buy them for the elderly and babies.

To be fair though it is the only UK city where public transport runs 24/7 to every inch of it with only a 1-2 minute wait between tubes and buses. There is no need for a car in London (although I do have one) and it’s nearly always quicker and cheaper to get public transport.

I was mildly shocked to read that someone thinks the only white people who use moisturiser are the elderly or infants

Consent is important but it isn't the ONLY thing that's important. The idea that all that matters is consent, and that consent makes everything permissible, is one of the most harmful lies of the sexual revolution.

One thread that really got to me was a disturbingly racist one recently, OP had just had baby twins and her MIL was passing comments on their skin tone, OP was black from the Caribbean I think. It started off along the lines of 'do you think I'm right to feel offended by this word', but went on and on and it was really shocking, the DH was awful. She tried to leave and he had ripped up her kids passports, then when her family came to the house he said something like 'black lives matter are here'. There were loads of other stuff too, really nasty racist stuff. It was so upsetting, but she left him and then posted that he was sorry and she was thinking of forgiving him. Not long after she signed off and said she was done with the thread, I had a horrible feeling she went back to him.

Another one that shocked was during the Summer it was about 'things your parents didn't believe in' and it was mostly very lighthearted and funny then some posters told stories about neglect in their childhood, I was genuinely shocked at some of the stuff that children grew up thinking was normal.