The most shocking thing you've read on Mumsnet..

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Just that really.. (Kind of lighthearted/maybe not!)

@AnnieSnap
We did try to spell it out to AndrewF0gg that kidnapping the dog and taking it into the wild and leaving it there was totally disproportionate to the dog’s and its owner’s crime (the dog being too yappy).

Funnily enough though, the man capable of such cruelty and oblivious to its effects, wasn’t so good with the listening skills.

@Battytwatty I remember that one so clearly. He was hideous.

I’m so heartened to hear that she got away.
I hate it when people say on similar types of threads “weren’t you here last month under a different name and why haven’t you left him yet?” It can take so long for the victim to leave.

Not in the same league as some of the others in this thread, but I'm, always shocked at the number of people on MN who are reasonably well-off but not rich, who make their lives one long immense worry about how they can possibly afford to pay for private school for their kids, even after sacrificing holidays and all other relatively normal luxuries.

It's like panicking because you need a car, but will really struggle to buy a Maserati; or you desperately want a family meal out, but Claridge's costs a fortune - as though there aren't loads of much, much cheaper (or even free) options: options which, in fact, the majority of other people plump for without any great thought.

Thank you for the update @caringcarer and I am so glad to hear he is doing well. You must be so proud of him.

Those same posters criticising a woman for not leaving instantly would take months or years to make a career change

Exactly. The kind of man who does this will invariably make careful, well thought-out plans as to when to start with his abusive behaviour.

For example, they will never show their true colours on a first date with a woman who can just see the red flags, make an excuse to leave, block and forget about them.

This is why it happens so commonly when a woman is pregnant or has recently given birth; because he sees it that she's now trapped and vulnerable and getting away will be far, far harder for her. He might be wicked, but he isn't stupid.

I think a lot of people don't quite realise that the planning to cause, extend and/or exploit a female partner's vulnerabilities is not a separate, incidental factor to the abuse: it's an integral, calculated part of it.

@FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper Thank you. I got a bit of a pasting from some users earlier this week about this, and have been feeling very wobbly ever since.

I've been on here for nearly 20yrs, so have seen my fair share of shocking posts, but the thread that was on here earlier today - I think it's since been deleted - about the 24yo DSD leaving the country really horrified me. The OP was so dismissive of how terribly her DH had treated his children & kept saying 'he's said he's sorry' as though that excused him.

The person I was responding to said she found it strange that she, as a single woman, should be expected to answer the door to a stranger. Cold callers didn't come into it.

Where I live I rarely see a cold caller, in fact I can't remember the last time one came to my door.

What's wrong with that? The water is clean... As long as you don't touch the basin I can't see an issue.

I wouldn't rinse my toothbrush under it, but mooncup...

I find it shocking that people find 'Cistine Chapel' and 'Snapped and farted' hilarious.

I'll give kudos to 'Penis Beaker' though!

The visual of the trampoline lady over the fence makes me laugh.

Oh blimey, just reading the title has just made me laugh out load (which then set off my hacking cough).

Disclaimer... I'm talking about the big flush that comes from the middle, holding with finger tips and not letting it touch anything.
I'm not an advocate of dipping it into the bowl and giving it a swish.

Is that still minging? It's the same water that would come out of the tap. It doesn't matter anyway, I'm post menopausal 🤣

Your tap isn’t covered in bowel flora though, is it? The rim and bowl of the toilet is and as soon as it’s flushed the water is intermingled with those bacteria. The water is clean in the pipe then is instantly contaminated the second it hits the bowl and stirs up shit.

😂😂😂

What is the difference between a toothbrush and a moon cup? Both go inside you and you don’t want bacteria on there. Also as another poster says, the toilet is full of bacteria and although the water running through the pipe is clean, there will be bacteria on the hole where the water comes out from and therefore will be contaminated. In a public toilet too!! Can you imagine? 🤢😱

@babaagusjeac I am so happy to hear that. I have wondered for years if she got away.
Another poster thought it was a troll

Most recently, all the vile antisemitism.

See I thought snapped and farted was hilarious but penis beaker just a bit grim. I agree on the chapel one. Cringe. Sick of seeing Mexican house thief pop up on every bloody thread.

I don’t really know what you’re getting at but Pamela definitely was not fake. It’s very easy to find this out if you know what to google/search on Facebook.

Pamela’s funeral service was live-streamed from the church. She most definitely was not a troll.

The stoma comment on here has horrified me and I can’t stop thinking about it. Just terrible. Thats the most shocking.

And I don’t ever open my door to strangers. I have a ring doorbell. There have been numerous incidents of people breaking in once you open the door, why would I risk that when home alone with young children?! Nothing anyone is selling is worth the risk to me. Amazon leave packages on my porch and I don’t have uninvited guests drop by. I actually find it more bizarre that people would open the door to strangers, why?! If someone knocked on my door in the middle of the night I’d use my doorbell to ask what they wanted and call the police for them if they needed assistance.

How unkind some of the answers are

I'm not on Mumsnet that often but this is the only one I recognised!

That was the first one for a while. Covid stopped most of it, and fortunately there haven't been that many since. Maybe two or three this year, which is much better than before, when it could be that many in a day if I was really unlucky, and that was despite having "no cold calling zone" signs everywhere in the road, but there was always a reason why it didn't apply to them.

Its pretty common in poor areas not to drive.

To do lessons, tests, get a car, pay tax and insurance and fix the MOT faults (and I'm lucky I'm a super low risk insurance category so mines cheap for a new driver) cost me nearly £5k before ever even putting petrol in it than that was for a beat up old 15 year old car. It cost more than my IVF.

Millions simply can't afford that on something that is a 'luxury'.

I think circle effects views too:

my DH circle every household he knows has at least one car if not two (lots of medical receptionists, teachers, public servants, people in lower level banking and everyone has college or higher education).

My circle (ignoring the people I met in university) is opposite and virtually no one owns a car (lot of disabled, single mothers, trauma survivors, a few minimum wage retail workers and many are GCSE drop outs, none went to college).

Friends though my 15 year old banger was super fancy, everyone wanted to 'go for a spin'. Oddly I have know 3 that owned SORN cars (write offs they had put in their garden like ornaments) but had no license and they never ran. it was quite a status to say you 'owned' a car (even if it was useless).

In uni virtually no one owned a car either though (I'm sure many of their parents households probably did though)... students aren't very rich either.

More lighthearted. I'm always shocked about just how CFery CFs can actually be.

I remember one particular story that had a lovely end for the OP (and it was a parking thread as well). It was the one about the penguin bollards.

The OP owned a bungalow on the Isle of Wight next to a large home that had been converted into flats. The LL of that property told one of his tenants that they could park on the OP's property.

OP was upset for good reason and the tenants turned abusive when told that they couldn't park on OP's property any more.

There was then a follow up about four months later. She had got her solicitor to check the deeds of both properties and it turned out that the next door LL didn't own the land where any of his other tenants were parking either.

That land was owned by another neighbour of their's who lived elsewhere and who was unaware that LL was a CF who was telling his tenants to park on the other neighbour's land.

The neighbour then offered to sell the land to the OP and she took up the offer, informed the LL and abusive tenants that they had to shift their cars and, while looking for bollards to prevent them from returning, came across some penguin bollards and got them as she felt 3yo DS would like them.

There were three threads:-

people parking in my owned car parking space

then:-

To buy this land and risk upsetting the tenants next door

and finally:

To start a new thread about bollards on the Isle of Wight