The most shocking thing you've read on Mumsnet..

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Just that really.. (Kind of lighthearted/maybe not!)

"To do lessons, tests, get a car, pay tax and insurance and fix the MOT faults (and I'm lucky I'm a super low risk insurance category so mines cheap for a new driver) cost me nearly £5k before ever even putting petrol in it than that was for a beat up old 15 year old car. "

Where I live it apparently costs the equivalent of renting a student room to run a car every month so not including lessons, just the cost of the car, insurance, maintenance and petrol.
Unlimited public transport is an eighth of that a month within the city.

Quite. We’re white in this house and all moisturise after showering. I’ve never presumed that everyone does it but certainly didn’t consider myself rare.

How would it dry out your skin?

Any dermatologist would tell someone with dry skin to use creams.

It's rare for the average person to need 24-7 transport.
I'm pretty sure some people in Manchester use the trams and that not everybody is walking/driving around Birmingham and Liverpool.

@Calypso89 I agree that consent is not everything, and people should always be careful with whatever they choose to do.. but I think anything (unless it's illegal) IS permissible, if 2 (or more) people consent to it. - if not likely to cause great harm or catastrophe of course

I sometimes find it shocking when people on here suggest things or activities that an OP definitely can’t afford. There was one (years ago) where the OP was going on a much saved for holiday in the US and had just been told that her brother was getting married in Las Vegas and would be furious if she (and her family) didn’t go. A bunch of people said to just make it a two centre holiday - never mind that she couldn’t afford to.

Or where someone’s husband’s relative —mum— is coming to stay and a load of people say to get him to take all the time off. This family needs the income he brings in, he can’t take off two months at a time.

There was one where the OP had had a very difficult childhood and was doing okay but was not very well off. So many people told her that she needed intensive therapy to get over her situation. Marvellous - who’s paying?!? A therapist is expensive.

I was once with a man who used to do that. We are not together anymore.

I thought the Caribbean/ racism thread turned out to be a troll?

@HarryOHayandBettyOBarley I live in the US and UK licenses are not accepted unfortunately. You're supposed to get a new US license within 6 months of entering the country, which allows tourists to drive here, but not long term expats.

I live in NYC, so despite having a UK license for years, I can't actually drive in either country as my UK license has expired and you can't renew it without a UK address. Admittedly I haven't bothered to get a US license though because the idea of taking lessons/a test in Manhattan makes me break out in a cold sweat...

A guy asking if a poster had orgasmed when she cheated on her husband with a one night stand 🤢🤢🤢 Actually pretty much all his responses were weird……

I originally didn't know there was a sex topic on MN. The most shocking one on there was a woman whose partner insisted she f* him up the bum with a dildo. He was clearly gay and was no longer interested in doing anything else, but she'd been going along with it.
I'm not sure whether it was real tbh.

Not one specific post I can name, but I'm always a bit shocked by the shamey ELCS comments that pop up on here pretty regularly.

You can see who is there through the peephole. If it is the postman, I open the door.
Meter readings can be done by me, no need to send someone over.
I live alone and generally don't answer the door to anyone unless I know they are coming over first. I generally just don't feel like doing so, don't feel safe doing so, or don't see it as necessary to do so.

Why don’t you get a chain for the door?

How would you cope with the postman knocking, or someone coming to read the meters?

Neither those circumstances would ever happen where I live.

People who want to have strangulation sex should invest in a defibrillator

Problem solved

(Growing impatient with the debate over this - I don't have an opinion)

Yes plus I don't think people realise that therapy isn't the panacea it is often presented as. In fact sometimes it can make things worse. I had a shit childhood and have had therapy for 20 years, sometimes intensive. It really has not made a huge amount of difference if I'm totally honest. And sometimes I actively regret it. There aren't always answers or cures but people are reluctant to hear that.

I do have a chain for my door. It doesn't change any requirement of me to open the door if I don't want to.

@HarryOHayandBettyOBarley I do hope that person was a troll because it was a horrible story. It did seem far fetched that a grandmother was calling her grandchildren “black <name> and black <name2>. Though you never know.

Yes I stopped reading, it was awful. She and her husband minimised his neglect and abuse so horribly. I am just so sad there are people like that in the world who really can’t see how appallingly their actions and selfishness affects other people.

@housethatbuiltme Good Point. Most people ‘up north’ where I am seem to drive though, even if it’s an old car, probably because public transport is so awful.

Absolutely! It is the one with the best public transport and the fewest drivers though! I don’t live in London. I grew-up in Manchester and live between Durham and Newcastle!

While I may be classed as "elderly" by some now I have used body lotion regularly since I was in my teens.

Yes! He was indeed having an affair with the girl. That story was so intriguing. So sorry for the op.