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Should I report this?

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 08:15

At 7:40am we had someone ring our doorbell no less than 10 times and bang on the door. We assumed it was something serious so shot up, put clothes on and went downstairs.

In that timeframe, we heard them try our door handle, bang the door and ring the doorbell several times again.

It was a fucking delivery driver dropping off a parcel.

I checked the security cameras and he did indeed try to see if our door was open.

In what world is this acceptable? Why would you try to see if our door is unlocked? All lights were off and blinds closed because we were asleep!

I'm half tempted to report this. Would you?

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 12:50

@Growlybear83 as I've said before, I don't care who you are. You do not have the right to attempt to open someone's door.

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 12:50

@Amchoor thank you.

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MassageForLife · 14/12/2023 12:51

secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 12:47

@MassageForLife nothing gives the right for a stranger to try the door to someone's home unless for an emergency.

Delivering a parcel isn't an emergency.

I disagree.

If my door is unlocked, then I'm happy for a delivery person to pop a parcel just inside the door. So I would give permission for delivery drivers to do that - so they would have the right.

If you don't want someone to do that, keep your door locked, so they can't.

Alternatively, get the delivery driver in the stocks and pelt him with rotten fruit. I'm not sure much less would satisfy you.

I'm so glad that I don't catastrophise things like this. Can't be good for the blood pressure!

Alargeoneplease89 · 14/12/2023 12:53

secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 08:24

@bumtrumpet leave it in a safe place. Or give someone more than 30 seconds to get to the door. Don't try to see if my home is unlocked.

30 more seconds? He's knocked 10 times apparently

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 12:54

@Alargeoneplease89 are you ok?

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Brefugee · 14/12/2023 12:55

secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 12:37

@Brefugee ah yes, my concern for a stranger trying to open my door is batshit. Off you pop.

Hope you feel better soon.

no off you popl

Your door - as you perfectly well knew - was locked.

If you think a few rattles on the door might have compromised it - get a locksmith in pronto (but don't use those emergency cowboys, they charge a lot)

steppemum · 14/12/2023 12:55

blimey you are hard work op.

OP: am I unreasonable
Mn: some say yes some say no, everyone says wtf do you keep your door unlocked in the daytime if this is an issue

logic response - OK maybe I am overreacting a bit as this isn't universal.

but OPs response : anyone who doesn't agree with me is batshit and I am completely right and not listening to anyone else's opinion because I AM RIGHT.

next time just don't bother posting.

secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 12:56

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 12:56

@steppemum it's in chat, not AIBU.

I asked would you report. All it needed was a yes or no.

Not accusations that I want him sacked.

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Amchoor · 14/12/2023 12:57

If you posted this in a different day OP you'd likely get completely different responses. MN is mad sometimes.

thebigwave · 14/12/2023 12:58

Sorry you're getting such a hard time from some people. As I said before, I'd be annoyed if someone tried to open my door without permission.

Mostly I keep my door locked, but occasionally it's not locked, for various reasons. And I shouldn't have to keep it locked just in case someone decides to randomly walk in!

MassageForLife · 14/12/2023 12:58

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Yes.

Those of us that have sense keep our doors locked during the day, and don't get this uptight about someone trying the handle of a locked door.

Brefugee · 14/12/2023 12:58

talking about reports - your post calling a lot of people "f-ing idiots" is on the way for mn to look at.

Get onto that locksmith, it's the season for deliveries, and we don't want anyone letting your cat out.

Whoopitywhoops · 14/12/2023 12:58

SoupDragon · 14/12/2023 08:22

Not when they are trying to deliver a parcel you have ordered, no.

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Of course it is. They could scare the shit out of someone. I live alone and if someone tried to open my door and I didn't know who it was I'd be scared. What if it was the house of someone elderly, disabled, someone with learning difficulties, someone fleeing abuse, someone with a shitty ex, someone with a stalker, someone with a tiny baby etc. it's not acceptable.

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cardibach · 14/12/2023 13:00

I don’t think the postie did anything wrong tbh.
You won’t be able to raise it with Royal Mail. It’s not possible.
I know this because of my delivery saga this week. Saturday a delivery came and I was out. The card said they would redeliver on Monday or I could use a code to rearrange if that wasn’t convenient. It was, so I left it. It was not delivered on Monday. I was in on Tuesday too, so I still left it. On Tuesday apparently there was a knock at my door which I didn’t hear. I only know this because I went online with the code to rearrange a delivery - the code came back ‘delivered to safe place at 11.40’. Odd. I was in, and I don’t have a safe place (terraced house, no side entrance). I checked with the neighbours. No joy. tried to contact RM to find out where this mythical place was (they say they’ll leave a card telling you but they didn’t) but you can’t as recipient. The sender has to as they have the contract. I contacted the sender who found it was a web form so just refunded me the money.
Yesterday I had another card saying I should rearrange a delivery, but with no tracking code, so I couldn’t. I was puzzled. I was in when the card came so presumably he did his shy mouse knock again. I don’t normally miss deliveries, so it’s not my hearing or noisy ways. I also have a doorbell.
this morning I saw the van so was waiting for the knock. I stood behind the door. I still barely heard him…by the time I opened the door (from 3 steps away) he’d gone, leaving the parcel behind my recycling bins/bags. The bin lorry was in the street…
I’d be grateful for a few bell rings, firm knocks and door handle jiggling tbh.

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 13:00

@Whoopitywhoops I didn't even have an email saying it's out for delivery, which makes it worse!

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Alargeoneplease89 · 14/12/2023 13:01

secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 12:54

@Alargeoneplease89 are you ok?

I'm fine, I'm not the one being dramatic about a delivery driver ffs

justanothermanicmonday1 · 14/12/2023 13:01

Then you'd complain if your parcel was stolen and would want to report him for leaving it outside!

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 13:02

@justanothermanicmonday1 no I wouldn't as it's never happened round here. We live in a secluded area and it's the norm of have parcels left outside.

But thanks for your useful input.

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Brefugee · 14/12/2023 13:04

I'm draining? I'm not the one using offensive language.

This thread is really enlightening though.
As an aside: i just got a delivery from two lovely Amazon chaps, one is teaching the other and they were very lovely handing over my parcels. After I'd unlocked my door.

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 13:08

@Brefugee yes because some of the comments towards me are ridiculous.

I just do not understand how anyone thinks it's ok for someone to try your door.

Each to their own.

Hopefully nobody gets burgled, attacked or worse by someone you assume is a delivery driver and that makes it ok for them to help themselves in to put a parcel inside.

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saraclara · 14/12/2023 13:08

I'm bemused at the majority of the responses here. I normally find myself very much at the laid back end of what seems to be a super-safety conscious bunch of mums on here. But no way would I be happy with a delivery guy (for whom I have the utmost sympathy normally) trying to let himself in to my house.

The fact that it was locked doesn't make it okay. When he tried the door handle he didn't know it was locked and fully intended to let himself in had it not been.

7:40 is perfectly reasonable though. Especially at what is now a really busy time of year.

Brefugee · 14/12/2023 13:12

well yes, @secretsanta23 because some of your comments are so clearly either over the top or intended to rile.

Your telling people to F-off is over the line though.

But banging on about him trying the door - even though i already said i find that odd - as though he was coming in to burgle you, even though your door was locked and performed it's locked door function very well, is odd too.

And this is chat. People are allowed to chat. Just because you start a thread you don't own it, and you aren't the thread police. If you don't like the answers, unsub and get on with your day. Simple, really.

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secretsanta23 · 14/12/2023 13:14

@Brefugee woop woop, it's the sound of the police.

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