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Can't get hold of adult son. He went out last night and phone has gone to not recognised.

158 replies

Gointhruhell · 02/12/2023 10:20

He walks home in a bad area. He never doesn't answer or reply. He lives alone in a house share.

I'm past myself.

OP posts:
User562377 · 02/12/2023 11:31

Hope he's okay op and gets in touch soon. We never stop worrying about the folk we love however old they are.

Bee2222 · 02/12/2023 11:33

Poor you!! I can understand the worry. Hopefully it's a network issues.

Was he meant to call/get in touch today? He might just be preoccupied with getting stuff together for travelling and will contact you when he gets some WiFi at his friends house.

My sister at that age would not have thought to get in touch. She used to travel the world and you wouldn't hear that she was OK for days at a time. Used to drive me mental! But that was usual for her.

You know your son. If you haven't heard anything by the time he ought to have arrived at his friend's I would drive over to the house. I know you said that him and houseshare aren't particularly friendly but I'm guessing they will have noticed if he came home or not. 50mins away isn't a massive drive.
Best case scenario the houseshare confirms he came home and left for his mates and you can get DH to take you out for a meal on the way home since your out anyway xx

walttynutcade · 02/12/2023 11:33

I am sure there will be a good reason for no contact, ie flat phone or network however 100% I would feel exactly the same as you , hopefully you will hear from him soon ❤️

mommatoone · 02/12/2023 11:34

You must be out of your mind OP (understandably). Hope he makes contact soon.

ohtowinthelottery · 02/12/2023 11:34

I feel for you OP. I'd be in panic mode too. My DS has been travelling alone through 4 countries for the last 2 weeks. I don't normally have my mobile with me 24/7 but I have since he's been away.
I always worry about him on nights out drinking too - it's not uncommon for young men to go missing after a night out drinking in our town and sadly turn up in the river many days/weeks later.

I hope you manage to make contact with your DS very soon.

Bromptotoo · 02/12/2023 11:36

When I lived in a shared house c1983 I probably spoke to my Mother once a week on the house landline. I was often away over weekends or for work but unless I made a point of leaving a note housemates hadn't the foggiest where I was. If I'd been dead in my room it's have been the smell or the flies that sounded the alarm...

In the world of Whats App etc we find ourselves worrying about a youngster in their twenties who hasn't checked in since last night.

We had something similar three or four years ago. Son's phone was ringing unanswered and Whats App messages not read. My partner was beside herself.

Turned out he'd been caught red handed smoking a spliff while sheltering from Baltic weather in his car. Possible drugged in charge offence so he was arrested and spent a night in the nick. Phone confiscated by the desk Sergeant per usual procedures.

Nothing came of it except a caution for possession.

Hastheslotharrivedyet · 02/12/2023 11:39

User562377 · 02/12/2023 11:31

Hope he's okay op and gets in touch soon. We never stop worrying about the folk we love however old they are.

Exactly this x

WillowTit · 02/12/2023 11:39

no news is good news op
he perhaps has lost his phone or has no signal

J3llycat · 02/12/2023 11:40

There are massive ID mobile issues at the moment and I think others using the same satellite system are the same, we havent had data since yesterday. Fingers crossed he gets in contact soon xx

LambriniBobinIsleworth · 02/12/2023 11:41

I'd likely be worried in the same situation because it's about how often you communicate with family. Sorry you're going through this- I hope he gets in touch very soon. I'm sure there's a reasonable explanation but I know that doesn't help.

tsmainsqueeze · 02/12/2023 11:43

To all who have made negative comments to a worried mother i hope you are never in the same situation .
I hope you hear from him soon , as the mother of 2 adult sons i can imagine how you may be feeling .

Original poster
Gointhruhell · 02/12/2023 11:45

Panic over!!!!

I emailed. Excellent idea. He replied he's lost his phone or been stolen. Can't go away as his train tickets were on his phone. Think he could probably pick them up but he's hungover. He'd had a good night.

God the relief. I admitted I was in a state and he said sorry he should have messaged when he woke up. But he wouldn't realise. He has contacts saved on Google.

Thanks all the supporters ❤️

OP posts:
Daisydaisy69 · 02/12/2023 11:49

Glad to hear he is safe and well you must be so relieved 😊

Hastheslotharrivedyet · 02/12/2023 11:49

Oh phew. Fantastic news. The relief! Enjoy the rest of your day now. Give him a big kiss when you next see him ❤️🥰

CombatLingerie · 02/12/2023 11:49

Thank goodness for that OP I haven’t commented previously but very relieved for you. Also @tsmainsqueeze well said! It’s not a crime to care about your family.

ohtowinthelottery · 02/12/2023 11:50

What a relief for you. Glad he's safe.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/12/2023 11:51

It was only last night and he doesn't live with you? This is far too early to be panicking IMO (and I'm a real panicker and worrier!). He needs a private life. If he wants to spend all morning in bed doing sexy things with a woman without having to stop to whatsapp his mum then he can! I can't imagine how stifling it must be to be in that kind of situation as a young adult and to think "I have to tell my mum I got home safe last night."

We are all very close in my family and you know what? As much as people slag off parents of young adult children for having Find My etc on their iphones, it does come in pretty useful for reassuring people about their family members' whereabouts. eg my mum is on her own now and it's reassuring to see her land back at home after she's driven back from my house. It takes the hassle off people having to update others of their whereabouts as the technology does it for you.

I imagine all is well, OP.

OhComeOnFFS · 02/12/2023 11:51

That's great. I don't blame you for worrying.

WillowTit · 02/12/2023 11:51

oh what a relief Flowers @Gointhruhell

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/12/2023 11:51

x post. Glad you're relieved.

CheshireCat1 · 02/12/2023 11:52

Great news, worry over, I’m glad you’ve heard from him. I have three sons and would worry in the same situation, that’s what love does to us mums.

SirVixofVixHall · 02/12/2023 11:55

Good news OP ! I am very happy for you.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/12/2023 11:55

CheshireCat1 · 02/12/2023 11:52

Great news, worry over, I’m glad you’ve heard from him. I have three sons and would worry in the same situation, that’s what love does to us mums.

Well, we all love and care for our kids, don't we? Panicking and worrying in this situation isn't evidence that you love your child more than the next parent. All it does is show you that you're a panicker and worrier who thinks the worst of quite normal situations.

Doseofreality · 02/12/2023 11:56

Has your DH called the police back to report that your adult sons is alive and well and had just simply lost his phone.

Bee2222 · 02/12/2023 11:56

Phew so glad he's OK- even if he's got a sore head from last night!!

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