Embarassed myself at the work Christmas party

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Right so. For the most part when leadership were there I was fine. Didn’t say or do anything stupid.

towards the middle of the evening I went for a cigarette and the door knocked me a bit and one guy went “ooo steady on” but it was just that the door knocked me. And yes I was tipsy but not totally messed up.

later in the night I think I walked over and said that was rude making out like I’m some p*sshead. I also touched his arm for no reason while I said this. I then had no recollection of the rest of the conversation at all because he brought me a shot.

But by the end. My close colleague and I had a couple more and by the end it was both of us and a few others. As my close colleague and I were heading home I fell over and then because of the motion in the taxi I took home with her I had to step out and throw up.

My colleague and I are at the same level and have gone on nights out together and got like this before. But I just still feel ashamed of myself.

I’m so embarrassed and I’m supposed to be applying for a leadership role. What do I do?

Normal Friday night out when I used to go.out with friends, don't worry, we've all been there

@Onesipmore I mean the invite doesn’t say ‘make a tit out of yourself’ of course, but notoriously people do, and I don’t think they should be judged for it - especially after the crazy year this country has had.
I don’t think anyone interviewing should take into considering the behaviour of someone at a christmas party as it’s not really their business what someone does in their free time - that’s just my opinion on it.

I wouldn't worry about it OP.
The next day after a night of heavy drinking it's normal to feel paranoid about trivial stuff that most people probably didn't notice anyway.
Apart from that it was probably a good night?I 👍

You have the fear! Put on a nice movie and cuddle up on the couch. You sound like you were totally grand.

@boamorte

you sound fun

Hahahahahahahahhaahha.

Adults getting pissed is embarrassing?

Don’t clutch those pearls too tightly and hurt yourself now dear.

Do you fancy each other?

I’m so worried about what I said to my male colleague.

The motion of the taxi made you vom? Aye right

This!
People who aren’t pissheads don’t drink booze - and definitely not shots!

I wonder if the bloke who said “ steady on” triggered a nerve?

As for vomiting- poor taxi driver- It must be horrible transferring pissed people home, wondering if they are going to hurl in the vehicle.
Bet he stopped pronto !

Beer fear!

They left so you could all enjoy yourselves and let loose. They sound like a decent leadership team.
Only your colleague saw you vom. You're over thinking it. You're human. Managers are human. You will be a senior manager if that's what you aspire to. I'd rather have a manager who can have a laugh rather than all the ones I've had with rods up their arses! 🤣

Telly, sofa, takeaway.

What do you mean that people who aren’t pissheads dint drink booze? Do you know that booze is just any alcohol. So anyone who has a glass of wine is a pisshead? What an idiotic thing to say.

People can drink booze without being total pisshead idiots.

If it wasn't your work mate's house, why did her key unlock his door?

I learned long ago, never drink at work functions. I’m on call for our team party this year so have a great reason and am totally fine with that. Much safer and less career limiting.

As long as you’re not doing tequila
shots at your desk it shouldn’t matter, certainly shouldn’t affect whether or not you get the job. I’m a senior manager & i know most of our senior team like a drink, doesn’t impact their ability to do their jobs effectively because they don’t drink at work.

It’s a really early Christmas party

I think you probably need to head off this thread as some people's replies seem to be intended to make you feel bad .

You've already had a text conversation with your colleague you shared the taxi with - so no problem there .

The male colleague was with a few others also drinking shots - so I bet they will also have hazy memories as well.

You said that management mainly left after the meal - so unlikely to have been observing anybody's worst excesses.

It's one of these things where worrying about what may happen is going to be worse than the reality . Please stop worrying.

I really don't think the majority of people do the same or worse at a work function. Especially people who want to 'go somewhere' in the company.

I've been to many work parties/meals; I've never seen that level of drunkenness at one.

Totally normal in my work context. I wouldn’t think twice about it.

@itsalongwaybackfromsorry well I have, at every one for 25+ years, including by senior management in a wide variety of companies. I have also never seen it affect anyone’s promotion, ever. Do try to unclench.

For your own sake calm down. There's typically one ir two people who over do it at the Christmas party.

Typically it's usually harmless and your situationnis. Keep it on context, you didn't have sex with anyone, get naked, have a row or get caught with drugs etc.

If your male colleague, mentions anything you said. Just laugh it off and say "that doesn't sound like me, I think your making it up etc".

Calm down and style it out. Male sure it's a once off and you'll be grand. I conduct interviews regularly- There's no part of the marking system that lists conduct at partys!!! Apply for the job.

What do you think you said to the male colleague?

Male colleague - do you have his number?
I’d text him and say something along the lines of ‘OMG what was I thinking doing shots?! How’s your hangover?’
Basically test the water and put your mind at ease. Does he have any sway in the hiring and firing process?
There’s a reason SLT left after dinner!