Embarassed myself at the work Christmas party

[Jbrum]

Right so. For the most part when leadership were there I was fine. Didn’t say or do anything stupid.

towards the middle of the evening I went for a cigarette and the door knocked me a bit and one guy went “ooo steady on” but it was just that the door knocked me. And yes I was tipsy but not totally messed up.

later in the night I think I walked over and said that was rude making out like I’m some p*sshead. I also touched his arm for no reason while I said this. I then had no recollection of the rest of the conversation at all because he brought me a shot.

But by the end. My close colleague and I had a couple more and by the end it was both of us and a few others. As my close colleague and I were heading home I fell over and then because of the motion in the taxi I took home with her I had to step out and throw up.

My colleague and I are at the same level and have gone on nights out together and got like this before. But I just still feel ashamed of myself.

I’m so embarrassed and I’m supposed to be applying for a leadership role. What do I do?

Don’t even worry about it! These are the rules of
christmas parties - make tits out of ourselves!

Will probably have already been forgotten about by your colleagues, or it will be shortly.

I’ve seem some things at Xmas parties. This doesn’t come close to embarrassing. If anyone mentions it just say, yes I drank too much by mistake.

I did the exact same in the summer. Fell over and had to stop the taxi and throw up while all my work colleagues looked on.
I just laughed it off at work on the Monday. Soon forgotten about.
Don't worry. You just feel worse because of the hangover

This is silly. I had a few drinks at the Xmas party. I never go out much now days and honestly it’s not like I’d ever do it again.

Makes me feel a bit better. I know I made a complete tit of myself

Well someone said I could be done for sexual harassment?

Doesn't really matter who bought the drinks, you still drank them... If you are interviewing for a leadership role it isn't a good look. I would face it out to be honest and not go on about it and highlight it to your co workers on Monday, just drop it. Next time learn to stop.

Seriously just laugh it off - i know you’re feeling anxious about returning to work but just completely play it down. Definitely don’t apologise or anything because you’ve done nothing wrong!

I found my very married COO under a table with his PA. Didn’t do him any harm. Of course she was sacked soon after…..men eh

Its comments like the one above yours that worries me.

@LoudSnoringDog 🤣🤣

Safe to say I didn’t kiss anyone I work with.

@Onesipmore Are people in leadership roles not allowed to have a drink, or enjoy themselves? Should she just have drank tea and sat in the corner?
Its not like she got drunk at work, she was at a christmas party where I can guarantee there was a lot worse going on that OP didn’t see…

Yeah see I just feel like that kind of comment makes me feel so much more worried about being able to get a leadership role

@Jbrum It’s funny that someone with the username ‘one sip more’ is commenting on someone else having a drink…

Don't worry Op

quite of lot of people have got carried away a bit too merry with drink at works do,

Nobody going to judge you

they will probably just either forget about or laugh it off as just one of those things everyone does

@lilyandrosa of course she shouldnt have sat in a corner drinking tea !! That would be very dull. Anyone is entitled to get as drunk as they like at a Xmas party. The op is not going to get done for sexual harassment either as someone said up thread. The OP was minimising her behaviour by saying she didn't buy the drinks.It really doesn't matter who bought them - she chose to drink them. Personally if I was interviewing for a higher role I wouldn't have chosen that moment to get trashed in front of my colleagues, that is all. There are times when its better to just be in control. Xmas parties are not just an opportunity for people to make tits out of themselves, it about having a laugh but without taking it way too far.

What do I do?

Stop drinking?

People banging on about how 'leadership' will frown upon it are hilarious! In all the companies I have worked for the 'leadership' are among the worst and are especially the worst when it comes to trying to shag everything that works because they're important innit.

Honestly? I was expecting way worse when I opened this thread. Try not to worry too much about it, you had a few drinks at a night out.

Ignore them. They’re just bullies sat up on their high horses who like to make people feel shit about themselves because it makes them feel better.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you did OP. It sounds like it was a fun night and you enjoyed yourself.

You didn’t insult anyone. You didn’t harm anyone. You didn’t get any injuries. You were just drunk. You were sensible and didn’t travel home alone.

Most people have been in your shoes. The hangxiety is awful. But it will pass. You’ll feel better once you’re back at work and you all discuss what a great night it was. You’ll be fine.

At one of our Christmas parties, a colleague stood on table to dance, then stripped off and threw his boxers into the crowd.
Everyone was so pissed, he got a round of applause then he bowed, jumped down and picked up his clothes.
Much worse than being sick!

Grown adults getting pissed is embarrassing let alone with work colleagues

OP: leadership prob left to get drunk elsewhere. They are not gods, they are human who have all got pissed at the Xmas party.

if anything you having fun and letting your hair down is good for a person in leadership, shows you’re actual human and can have a bit of fun. You’re just anxious because of the booze in your system. We’ve allll been there.

haven’t read the other judgy comments but you know what mumsnet is like; full of perfect humans 😂

with regard to your crush, if you did tell him how you feel I bet he’s loving it and who knows what might come of it. Can guarantee other colleagues are feeling as anxious as you are wondering what they said too…

@FlissyPaps bullies you say? Jesus! She had such a great time she can't even remember half of it. Thats not bullying that repeating what the OP said. Most people have been in a similar situation as OP. I have, but I haven't when Ive been about to interview for a new role! Horses for courses.