Embarassed myself at the work Christmas party

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Right so. For the most part when leadership were there I was fine. Didn’t say or do anything stupid.

towards the middle of the evening I went for a cigarette and the door knocked me a bit and one guy went “ooo steady on” but it was just that the door knocked me. And yes I was tipsy but not totally messed up.

later in the night I think I walked over and said that was rude making out like I’m some p*sshead. I also touched his arm for no reason while I said this. I then had no recollection of the rest of the conversation at all because he brought me a shot.

But by the end. My close colleague and I had a couple more and by the end it was both of us and a few others. As my close colleague and I were heading home I fell over and then because of the motion in the taxi I took home with her I had to step out and throw up.

My colleague and I are at the same level and have gone on nights out together and got like this before. But I just still feel ashamed of myself.

I’m so embarrassed and I’m supposed to be applying for a leadership role. What do I do?

Never to be repeated😅

Lots of us have done it. I got passed, snogged a colleague, cheated on my bf (by snogging a colleague), fell over a pole....then had to front it out on the Monday. 2 years later and colleague and I got together. Many years later....kids and marriage. Sometimes a drunken mistake turns into a good one!!

You were offended at being called a pisshead then stared on the shots, fell over and threw up! It sounds like it touched a nerve more than offended you!

You’ve done nothing that bad, you’ve just got beer fear. We’ve (mostly) all been there.

If your close colleague that you shared a taxi with was drinking as much as you, she probably won’t remember it either. Why don’t you text her ?

I agree that it’s the anxiety from the alcohol that’s making you feel like this, it’s rubbish.

Haha no way! I’m still feeling super embarrassed

Haha no I told him he was rude and he got me a shot to say sorry😂I wonder if it was tactical to get me more pissed though

Just get through the hang. Go for leadership. People getting pissed at work Christmas nights out is a story as old as the hills. You didn’t punch anyone, verbally abuse your boss or become incontinent so no worries!

I feel your pain. So much. But you were not too bad. I quit drinking 5 months ago and am now starting to slowly face my memories from the last 20 years, believe me, your wake up shock rating could have been so much worse, especially if you are a serial sabotager ❤️ no strange men, no phone disasters, no unexplained bruises, no where the fuck am I wake up, just try and remember how very, very much worse this could have been x

I texted her as soon as I woke up she found it funny😂she said it’s just a standard drunk night out

You're not the first person to get a bit pissed at a works function. By Monday most people will have no recollection of it, and anyone who does might make a comment about how your head felt this morning, then it will be forgotten.

You feel terrible right now because it's fresh, you are on the come down from the booze, and as you acknowledge yourself, you have hangxiety, but by Monday you'll be able to just roll your eyes at it and get on with things. Nobody will care, honestly.

I’m so much more worried about what I said to my male colleague who I have a massive crush on. I cannot remember what came out my mouth

Welcome to the club. Perfectly normal. No one will bat an eyelid.

What you do is you drink plenty of water, have a shower and get yourself feeling marginally fresher, order yourself some comfort food and text your colleague.

Its a hangover. Nothing more, nothing less. You haven’t wrecked your career or done anything awful. You just got pissed at (almost) Christmas.

Maybe come up with a strategy for future events, but honestly, the only person who knows is in no position to judge and is probably feeling equally hideous today. Take some solidarity from her and be kind to yourself. Nothing will change by berating yourself.

If it was anything worth worrying about, you'd remember.

It really could have been a lot worse. No big deal, just stop drinking a bit earlier next time.

Exactly. People always tend to say they can't remember a single thing, but unless they were actually unconscious, it generally comes back to them.

Motion of the taxi my arse, you were just pissed

Quite! The op was full of a whole load of excuses. Just own it for goodness sake.

I shared a taxi home with a colleague last Christmas and we had to stop the taxi so she could throw up in the gutter. I didn’t think anything about it tbh, I was more thinking how rough she was going to feel the next day!

This is how you grow up.

Your colleagues are probably sitting at home worrying how they acted! Don't worry.

Hopefully, you don't have a person that stays sober and collects memories of the evening to taunt on Monday morning. I hate those people

You’re so kind. Thank you. I’ve spent all day thinking about it. My colleague said I kept asking her to give me his number. She said I was very vocal about my crush to her 😂😂😂

I hope I didn’t bloody tell him I like him😂😂

Honestly we’ve all done it (well most of us have). By tomorrow it’ll have faded a bit. The first day back in the office might be cringe but you’ll have to style it out. By this time next week it’ll be history x

OP if you’re worried take a tin of chocolates into the office on Monday and say “I think that last shot really went to my head on Friday, I hope I didn’t offend anyone!” Then get on with your day.

Yep. Never drink with people like that. Pains in the arse

Or just turn up Monday and say “fuck me I was pissed!” Get it in first x