Embarassed myself at the work Christmas party

[Jbrum]

Right so. For the most part when leadership were there I was fine. Didn’t say or do anything stupid.

towards the middle of the evening I went for a cigarette and the door knocked me a bit and one guy went “ooo steady on” but it was just that the door knocked me. And yes I was tipsy but not totally messed up.

later in the night I think I walked over and said that was rude making out like I’m some p*sshead. I also touched his arm for no reason while I said this. I then had no recollection of the rest of the conversation at all because he brought me a shot.

But by the end. My close colleague and I had a couple more and by the end it was both of us and a few others. As my close colleague and I were heading home I fell over and then because of the motion in the taxi I took home with her I had to step out and throw up.

My colleague and I are at the same level and have gone on nights out together and got like this before. But I just still feel ashamed of myself.

I’m so embarrassed and I’m supposed to be applying for a leadership role. What do I do?

Nothing. You feel anxious because of the booze.

Not good. But no one other than colleague saw the worst part. The man part doesn't sound that bad. But it is bad that you bought up the issue of being a pisshead, but then proceeded to do things that made you have to stop a cab to vomit!

Motion of the taxi my arse, you were just pissed.

there’s no point worrying how it came across now, it’s done, maybe just don’t get shitfaced in the future..

I think we’ve all been there OP.

If it makes you feel any better I am an employment solicitor and behaviour at Xmas parties makes our December busy with the crazy shit drunk people get up to. All you did was get a bit drunk and puked. No harm done to anything other than your pride. I honestly wouldn’t worry.

I think 90% of people have done the same or worse.

It's really not that bad.

I reckon I made a fool of myself.

Thanks. I’m having a huge panic over it tbh. Thinking of how badly people will look at me after. I really can’t even remember what I said to my male colleague.

You have hang-xiety- it’s totally normal… you didn’t puke in front of the entire office - it could have been a lot worse!
I was once in a taxi with 3 work colleagues and one manager puked ALL over the taxi! We had to pay 200 quid to clean it. No one ever mentioned it again and I’m sure she was mortified but she never did it again and it was fine

Do nothing. It’s fine, everybody will be feeling like crap today and by Monday it’ll just be funny stories. Own it, you’ve done nothing that millions of us won’t be doing. If it gets brought up next week, just say ‘Oh my god, I was hammered, I blame so and so buying us shots. I even had to stop the cab to throw up! I haven’t been that drunk for years!

It could have been worse, so much worse.

I’m having such bad hangxiety over it all. I feel like I made a fool of myself

Yes you made a fool of yourself and you could've got into a row with the bloke too.

There's nothing you can do now really except stop drinking so much.

That makes me feel better. It was only me and my close colleague in the cab. I just felt stupid.

Go and get something to eat, have a bath, a nap, a glass of wine and a takeaway and watch Strictly, early night. You'll be fine.

Does it not sound really bad already😭

Also, some people love to make people feel shit about being a bit drunk. You didn't hurt anyone.

You've done nothing wrong. You are allowed to get drunk. So what if you were sick, you dont do it regularly.
Youve got beer fear. Put a funny film on and eat crap. Nothing to be concerned about here.

Eh? I didn’t have a row that’s how we always talk to each other. He’s blunt with me I’m blunt with him. He bickers with me sometimes too.

My colleague and I are at the same level and have gone on nights out together and got like this before.

How old are you and why do you drink so much if you can't handle it?

Time to grow up a bit maybe?

Yeah:( a few responses here make me feel like I need to hang my head in shame.

You're assuming they remember. They were pissed too and probably got hang ity themselves. They prob dont remember or care.

This. Nothing you did sounds that bad OP. Drunken behaviour can be 1000% times worse than what you’ve described. Surely others were drunk too.

You didn't say he was a colleague, you just said "One guy went ooo steady on".

Its not 'bad' though really is it. Its just pissed up nonsence that sounds like its particularly rare and probably not to be repeated.

Yeh he’s a colleague.

I jumped from table to table barefoot ( leaving footprints on the table), told my manager if he was 20 years younger “I would” and offended the other companies sharing our party venue. I was also sick in a plant on the way out.
i received a formal warning for bringing the organisation into disrepute.

don’t worry. We’ve all been there