Embarassed myself at the work Christmas party

[Jbrum]

Right so. For the most part when leadership were there I was fine. Didn’t say or do anything stupid.

towards the middle of the evening I went for a cigarette and the door knocked me a bit and one guy went “ooo steady on” but it was just that the door knocked me. And yes I was tipsy but not totally messed up.

later in the night I think I walked over and said that was rude making out like I’m some p*sshead. I also touched his arm for no reason while I said this. I then had no recollection of the rest of the conversation at all because he brought me a shot.

But by the end. My close colleague and I had a couple more and by the end it was both of us and a few others. As my close colleague and I were heading home I fell over and then because of the motion in the taxi I took home with her I had to step out and throw up.

My colleague and I are at the same level and have gone on nights out together and got like this before. But I just still feel ashamed of myself.

I’m so embarrassed and I’m supposed to be applying for a leadership role. What do I do?

DO NOT do that!

People won't remember anyway so why take some chocolates for people to then want to know what you did and start investigating. Head up on Monday and walk in like nothing happened. If someone says something..look at them confused and say you were fine, don't know what you're talking about. Then project it back on them and say..what about you!! That will send them running!

I can't work out if you really are anxious and upset or just attention seeking?

You're veering from 'poor me' to immature laughing like a school child after their first sip of cider.

Just own it and move on and if you really are upset, then obviously start drinking like an adult and learn when to stop.

If you think it's hilarious then own that too and stop looking for sympathy.

I cannot remember a single works do in more than 25 yrs when someone hasn’t got shedded and done or said something stupid! This has included various people vomiting ON THE TABLE, the top of one ladies dress completely falling down and her being too drunk to notice (she kept dancing with boobs flying everywhere!) another lady telling the MD for half an hour what a total twat he was and another man unleashing a bloody fire extinguisher all over a different very senior manager. Oh and the chap who gets hammered every year and goes round telling literally everyone how large his penis is 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️You were positively tame in comparison! It happens, at all levels and you just need to chalk it up to experience and move on. No one will care, honestly!

😅😂😂😂😂I love this. This is absolutely hilarious

No, we haven’t.

To be fair, that's very extreme behavior so if you're going to compare to that, nothing anyone does it going to be a 'problem'.

You were clearly inebriated, nothing to do with the motion of the taxi. Move on, most of us have drank too much at some point.

4 of us were all drinking in the same way though

Oh come on, just style it out on Monday like the rest of us do. Our Christmas do is legendary and most of senior management have made a tit of themselves at one point or another!
The ability to laugh at yourself goes a long way.

And this is why, boring as it sounds, I only have one drink at the work's Christmas do. I don't want to be the person who propositioned a male colleague, told their manager to fuck off, flashed her tits to all and sundry, vomited in a plant pot and ended up being carried out unconscious. I have been there when people have behaved like that and it's not pretty and it's not funny either. If it's a work's do financed by the company, you can face disciplinary proceedings as well.

Stay sober with colleagues, get wasted with friends and family, it's the only way. If friends and family are also your colleagues, then you're stuffed

I am very aware of what a tit I made of myself too 😂I want to apply for a leadership role so I feel it’s not such a good look

Don't worry about it, we have all been there... i have made a fool of myself numerous times in my 20s on nights out , it 100% will not be as bad as you think it is. The hangxiety is the worst, the alcohol will still be in your system, you will feel better tomorrow. Just try and forget about it :)

Is it just me who’s surprised by how many people are excusing this!? If I were interviewing you for a as senior role I’m not sure how impressed I’d be if I’m honest.

I presume other people were drinking quite a bit too if there were shots? In which case your behaviour isn't going to stand out. If it was a posh meal and everyone else being very sensible bit you were dancing on the table then maybe be worried.

FYI though, you were sick because of the shots not the motion of the taxi.

That'll be the fear.

Have a fry, a bar of chocolate and a can of coke.

Yeah I didn’t buy the shots at all others did.

Yes I agree, don't take chocs in... don't apologise.. just act totally normal, anything else will just get people thinking it when it may not even have originally registered with them ...

Yeh but another poster said if they had to interview someone like that for a senior role they wouldn’t be too impressed

You're in no fit state today to be making rational decisions.

Reassess the damage on Monday.

YANBU and the OP says it's not the first time. I do wonder how old she is because she sounds about 14.

Your best strategy on Monday is to go in, don't mention the night out, keep your head down and do your job diligently.

As for applying for a senior role in the company, is that likely to be soon?

I’ve never been to a works Xmas do before? I usually avoid them. Also everyone else was actually ordering shots. Not me.

I applied for the role this week. They basically created a role so I could gain some leadership experience now I’m very the interviewer will look at me differently

This!

Don't worry about it, OP.

Oh dear! I suspect many of us have done this. I certainly have, which is why I never, never drink on works nights out!

No point beating yourself up about it now. Just try to distract yourself and deal with the hangover.