Sent nudes then ghosted. Mortified. How to move on?

[Mortifiable]

I can't believe I have been so stupid and I just feel so utterly sickened by my behaviour. I had a "situationship" for about 6 months which was mostly online; I ended up sending him videos and photos of myself. We met up once and it was nice but he lives miles away. Meeting up occasionally but texting daily worked for me as I have my DC living with me most of the time. Arranged to meet up a second time but he flaked on the morning because his "mum was in hospital". Talked a bit about meeting up in the future, but it kind if withered out. I messaged him on a different app wishing him happy birthday a month ago and it was left unopened. I whatsapped him today and asked why's he ghosted me, I miss him and the photos. Anyway he's promptly blocked me on WhatsApp I think, as his picture / avatar is gone - he'd had the same one for about 9 months. I feel absolutely dreadful; it was unconventional but it felt very respectful and just, well... Nice. I feel like an absolute tit (no pun intended). My face isn't in the videos but I am terrified they will end up on pornhub or something. More than that I just feel absolutely used and horrible. I had never sent photos, let alone videos to anyone before. He really seemed nice, I can't believe he has just ghosted me. Any advice (apart from avoid Tinder and don't send nudes, haha!?). Sat here crying my eyes out for being such a chump.

*OP sent nudes during the time that they were in regular contact.

This guy was a shit to pressure her in the first place, but they were having a long distance thing, exchanging nudes is really not uncommon.*

So because they were in regular contact that makes it ok for him to pressure her into sending nudes pics for w*nking?

Rubbish

If he guessed you were more into a FWB set up and not an actual relationship then maybe that’s why he’s behaved this way to you.

Agree with no nudes/videos, yes I’ve done them in the past but don’t do now. If the men are such twats that they’d put them on Pornhub then good for them.

That's the thing though; he was happy to do FWB as he had other commitments like he had a kid from a prev relationship he saw and he said he had to work late (not sure if that is true now or not, PPs have suggested maybe it was when his wife was asleep). Although maybe he thought because it was "only" FWB then he could cancel at any time and blocking / ghosting was acceptable. I have no idea. We had both agreed it was nice finding someone who only wanted to meet up rarely but wanted to be in contact daily

My head is all over the place!

I'm not surprised, I can't figure it out other than those possibilities. I mean I dunno how it works in general as never done it myself but assuming that's kinda a nice setup or way of doing it.

That is not what I said and you know it.

People on here get very uptight about nude photos. I'm willing to bet a lot of them aren't sitting home alone every night without the opportunity to form another relationship. It's a bit of fun, you didn't put your face in the pictures. It's just a body, everyone has one. You're single, you're not cheating on anyone by sending them. I wouldn't worry about it.

Probably he's deleted them, even if he hasn't, as he's long distance I'm guessing he doesn't know the contact details of anyone you know (set your Facebook friends list to private), so what could he do really?

Even if they did leak out onto the Web, chances are no-one you know will see them and if they did, you just act unphased and "so what" and it will all blow over.

Same thing just happened to me , I'm very sad that he's ghosting me and feeling ashamed of myself , especially after it happened to me years ago too.
Each time I meet someone I feel as though I can trust people less and less

Hi, just seen your post.

I'm really sorry that happened to you.

One poster said that this guy would come crawling back and do you know what? He did!! We texted back and forth about meeting up but it never materialised and now I am seeing someone else anyway.

The things that I took comfort from when this happened to me were that

1. HE was the one in the wrong
2. sending nudes is quite commonplace now. Or maybe not commonplace but it's not completely out of the ordinary and is part of the dating scene these days. Friends who are dating have since said that they have also sent nudes to people they're seeing
3. it's illegal to share nudes without consent. Everyone knows this.

I totally get what you mean about trusting people less and less over time. I am still in the dating game, as I say I am kind of seeing someone but it's really early days. In the interim I have come across some really shitty behaviour.
It is literally unbelievable some of the things that have happened to me and other friends. I think people who've got married / partnered off before the rise of Tinder / Bumble etc. don't know how bad it is nowadays. It is like the apps have emboldened men to act like complete jerks

I know it is easy for me to say but please try not to worry too much, he is a pig for ghosting you. X̌x