Anyone admit to loving their partner more than their kids

[looking4pup]

Do you love your DH, BF, Partner more than your children?

Do you prioritise and care for them more than your DC?

I don't mean "it's a different sort of love" "I love them both but in different ways" I mean if you were on a sinking ship and had to choose or hypothetically he moved away to the other side of the world and your child had to stay what would you do?

My DH works away for months at a time. It's just been me and 2 dd's 11 and 13 really. That's just for info in case I'm asked. My answer is no I love my kids more and would choose them over anything.

I'm just being nosey and curious if anyone does prefer their husband.

I love my husband the normal amount. The love I have for my dc is indescribable. Dd and I are extremely close. When she's not with me I'm almost always thinking about her. I can't hug or kiss her enough.

I adore my DH and he feels the same but he better save our kids over me if he ever had to choose. I definitely would and he would want me to

DH and I had a ridiculous argument about this not long ago.

My 7 year old keeps pushing on who I like more, her or her brother, and of course I say both are exactly the same. Once she asked who I like best, her or Daddy, and I said her without hesitation. DH was really offended and upset, he thinks I should have said it was equal, like I do with her brother, and he wouldn't have chosen the children over me. I said that he should choose the children over me and I wouldn't be offended at all if he did.
He still thinks I'm wrong and gets snippy if DD brings it up.

One of the things that killed any love I had for my STBXH was his expectation that he should always come first. He should get all the care and love and effort. He was really furious when we had a baby and it turned out that, yes, I was going to look after the baby and not just leave him to cry so I could attend to his father.

He says things about how you have to prioritise the relationship etc and complains about ‘mothers obsessed with their children’. But, actually, he simply doesn’t like not being the centre of attention and having everything revolve around him.