None of the Friends Co stars have posted anything on Instagram about Matthew Perry's death

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Maybe they have posted elsewhere, just find it strange that none of them appear to have acknowledged it on Instagram, especially as they all seem to be pretty active on there.

@YouOKHun to me , it's trolling when people get personal and nasty/aggressive in their posts, such as cursing or name calling.
Anyone that responds negatively or disagrees in a normal, respectful way is not trolling

I honestly hope they don't release a joint statement. All the expectation for public displays of grief are obscene.

@BlackLotus it's got nothing to do with me, but we're on a forum, I'm allowed to ask a question or have a view

That's unacceptably rude, even if you disagree with OP.

Its my opinion. It is vulture like, ghoulish and makes me sick. If you think that’s rude, tough.

Seems pretty obvious they are waiting for the official verdict on what happened and they'll release a joint statement.

They're not going to release a half baked tribute on their individual Instagrams. They probably want to be left alone but know that won't happen so will say something as a group and then leave it at that.

I hope they are left alone to manage their grief but I doubt it.

Would you go on SM if one of your oldest and possibly very close friend had died! I’d think you were odd if you did post, given the circumstances.

Ffs why does everything have to be all over social media all of the time.

Their friend died.

DIED

NO LONGER ALIVE

They are allowed to grieve in private.

Good god.

I think, maybe, they just want to get it "right ". Whatever they say will bounce around the world, be analysed, picked apart possibly. Maybe they want to say something that describes perfectly the amount of love they hold for their friend.

I know my initial response to this was quite negative/cynical, but on the other hand OP I really don't think you deserve the pasting you are getting...

@Onceuponaheatache yes I'm aware of what death means, but thank you for the lesson in capital letters

Here's your arse, OP.

Enjoy.

I don't think its strange at all. They must be devastated at losing Matty and want the time to get their heads around it and say what they really want to say. They are grieving.

I think they will put out a joint statement like Bright, Kauffman and Crane did, but only when they are ready.

They always stood together on the show, agreed everything as a group, and no doubt they will do the same now

Fuck me, have we really got to the point where the first thing on peoples mind when a friend or colleague dies should be rushing to social media to appease the grief tourists?

Yes. When the good Lord sees fit to call me I won't give a tuppenny toss whether people put anything on Instagram.

I agree with what a lot of you re saying and in hindsight I didn't really think it through before I posted. It was more of a thought and I just posted it on a whim. If a friend of mine died or a relative, I personally probably wouldn't post about it as I don't share that much on social media

You're complaining here, on social media that they havent updated about him - by definition, you are not 'leaving them alone'

@luxuryinteriors is that a typo? No idea what you're trying to say but I gather it's rude and you're another troll

This is the second thread loosely related to Matthew Perry suggesting that timings of responses or publication are somehow disrespectful or suggestive of somehow not caring?

Social media has a lot to answer for but I think it’s deeper than that when people are scrutinised for not putting a reaction out for publication and consumption as quick as someone has randomly deemed appropriate.

What difference does it make for the remaining friends cast to make statements right now? It doesn’t, they could make a statement now or at his memorial or even in a few years in their own biographies or random interviews and they will be as meaningful as they would have been if posted yesterday. Nobody is entitled to an insight into their grieving and it’s beyond entitled to expect one to the point of comment.

it's trolling when people get personal and nasty/aggressive in their post

I absolutely don’t condone that kind of behaviour but I do think it’s important that you realise how/why you’ve provoked that. You broke a social boundary, specifically around grief. Rightly or wrongly people carry grief with them and it’s not uncommon for an old wound to be reopened when a completely unrelated scenario around the same subject unfolds. People take it personally. Which is probably why it’s best to back off in the short term and manage your expectations as above.

@almondseagull complaining is a bit strong, I was pondering it

Social media is not an adequate way to express emotions as complex and deep as grief.

Yes, because it's only actual grief when you appear in a little grid square wiping away your photogenic tears.

@Cornettoninja thank you for your constructive post and not resorting to swearing and personal insults. I totally get your point.

In the nicest possible way OP…the same thing that is driving your desire to see his friends grieve publicly for you, is the same thing that causes rags like the Daily Mail to reveal the 911 call recording (as they just have today) to feed an audience hungry for any tidbit and detail about this poor man’s untimely death.

It’s grief and tragedy as a public spectacle for us all to feel part of and connected to, when actually we have no right to be. Just imagine how that poor man’s family and friends feel right now being dragged into a feeding frenzy where millions of strangers want more and more and more and more of what is really just a very simple and very sad ending for the person they knew and loved.

You may feel like you were asking with a simple human curiosity, I expect you’re lovely and kind in real life and I’m sure you meant no harm to anyone at all, but it’s all part of this bigger problem isn’t it.

If someone posts something on MN that many people think is silly or take exception to, and those people answer expressing that, it is called handing the OP's arse to them.

I'm not a troll.

It's when you say something really crass and stupid and get righly berated for it on a majority basis.

HTH.