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None of the Friends Co stars have posted anything on Instagram about Matthew Perry's death

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Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 11:11

Maybe they have posted elsewhere, just find it strange that none of them appear to have acknowledged it on Instagram, especially as they all seem to be pretty active on there.

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Cornettoninja · 30/10/2023 13:22

Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 13:18

@almondseagull complaining is a bit strong, I was pondering it

Tbh, it’s not really the time for pondering.

As I explained above, people carry grief and it’s often raw and sensitive. Their feelings for someone they did know are projected onto someone they don’t (see princess diana).

Your casual ponderance is an insult to people’s real life feelings if that makes sense.

MajorBarbara · 30/10/2023 13:22

I thought it was against the rules to call people 'trolls' on Mumsnet.

MabelMaybe · 30/10/2023 13:23

Apparently TMZ got the "scoop" on MP's death by bribing a police officer, so some of his loved ones would have found out via social media. It wasn't yet public knowledge.

If that is the case, I can understand why they want to keep away from social media right now.

wesurecouldstandgladioli · 30/10/2023 13:24

Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 13:17

@luxuryinteriors is that a typo? No idea what you're trying to say but I gather it's rude and you're another troll

I think she's saying you've had your arse handed to you on this thread.

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Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 13:24

@jupitermonket thank you, that's a lovely post. Yes I'm really not a d#ckhead in real life and didn't mean my post to make me come across that way.

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pumpykins · 30/10/2023 13:25

Don't ever judge anyone else's grief

It's highly personal

Not to be scrutinised or commented on

Pollyannamex · 30/10/2023 13:28

jupitermonket · 30/10/2023 13:21

In the nicest possible way OP…the same thing that is driving your desire to see his friends grieve publicly for you, is the same thing that causes rags like the Daily Mail to reveal the 911 call recording (as they just have today) to feed an audience hungry for any tidbit and detail about this poor man’s untimely death.

It’s grief and tragedy as a public spectacle for us all to feel part of and connected to, when actually we have no right to be. Just imagine how that poor man’s family and friends feel right now being dragged into a feeding frenzy where millions of strangers want more and more and more and more of what is really just a very simple and very sad ending for the person they knew and loved.

You may feel like you were asking with a simple human curiosity, I expect you’re lovely and kind in real life and I’m sure you meant no harm to anyone at all, but it’s all part of this bigger problem isn’t it.

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Cornettoninja · 30/10/2023 13:29

TMZ are scum bags. They’re a skid mark on civilisation and cash in on the worst aspects of human curiosity.

Nanny0gg · 30/10/2023 13:30

Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 11:11

Maybe they have posted elsewhere, just find it strange that none of them appear to have acknowledged it on Instagram, especially as they all seem to be pretty active on there.

@Itiswhatitis85
Does EVERYONE'S life only have validation if they post on SM or issue a 'statement'??

They worked very closely together for over 10 years and they're probably devastated. I doubt SM was their first thought.

If you lost someone close would you rush to Twitter or Insta to talk about it?

What is WRONG with people these days?

And what the fuck difference will it make whether they do or not? Is that the only measure of caring?

Greyarea12 · 30/10/2023 13:31

The way I think of it is that when someone really close to you passes away, the last thing you are doing is a tribute/announcement on social media. I imagine they are devasted and not quite ready to post anything yet

Nanny0gg · 30/10/2023 13:32

WhereDoYouGo1 · 30/10/2023 11:22

I noticed that and was wondering why. Lots of other famous people who knew him commented straight away.

Oh, Well they must have liked him more then

FFS

Nursercurser · 30/10/2023 13:32

I agree with you. What is the world coming to! When you see how much the media endanger famous people up to the point where they cause a death. I have made it clear to my adult children that I would be ashamed of them should either of them choose to become journalists!🤢

Hobnobswantshernameback · 30/10/2023 13:33

I'm not sure the OP understands what a troll is

Nanny0gg · 30/10/2023 13:35

Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 12:15

@Hobnobswantshernameback it doesn't impact me at all, did I say it did? It's a forum, I'm allowed to have an opinion

Yes, a not-very-nice one

Nanny0gg · 30/10/2023 13:36

Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 12:17

@TheDandyLion wow , is there really any need to be so aggressive , anger problems much?!

Not anger in my case.

Disgust

Nanny0gg · 30/10/2023 13:39

Lose10kyesterday · 30/10/2023 12:45

@Itiswhatitis85 - Lucy Davis, Jasper Carrot's daughter, who worked with Matthew Perry on Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip, posted very movingly about her experience yesterday on the platform formerly known as Twitter.
https://x.com/RealLucyDavis/status/1718562782101287190?s=20

I wish they'd show it again

Excellent programme. Shame it never got the ratings it deserved

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Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 13:40

@Nanny0gg yes well you appear to have anger issues as well

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EmmaGrundyForPM · 30/10/2023 13:41

GonnaNeedABiggerBag · 30/10/2023 11:14

Aside from the expected joint statement, I expect they are devastated and are taking solace together. I applaud their social media silence, it’s dignified and feels appropriate.

this.

Nanny0gg · 30/10/2023 13:41

Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 13:04

@YouOKHun to me , it's trolling when people get personal and nasty/aggressive in their posts, such as cursing or name calling.
Anyone that responds negatively or disagrees in a normal, respectful way is not trolling

I think the post was so distasteful it didn't really warrant any respect.

Was that normal enough?

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 30/10/2023 13:41

People have disagreed with you and said so, some quite bluntly. That isn't having 'anger issues' - whatever they are.

katseyes7 · 30/10/2023 13:43

If one of my closest friends died, the last thing l'd be thinking about would be Instagram.

Nanny0gg · 30/10/2023 13:43

Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 13:11

@Onceuponaheatache yes I'm aware of what death means, but thank you for the lesson in capital letters

So what would you do if it was a close friend of yours?

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Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 13:43

@Nanny0gg In your opinion, it didn't warrant any respect, glad I'm not in your life, you sound like a bundle of laughs

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AnneShirleysNewDress · 30/10/2023 13:44

I suspect they'll be struggling to put into words how they feel and how much he meant to them. He's not a celebrity to them he's their friend, he may even feel like family. They may not be ready to share their grief.

Nanny0gg · 30/10/2023 13:46

Itiswhatitis85 · 30/10/2023 13:17

@luxuryinteriors is that a typo? No idea what you're trying to say but I gather it's rude and you're another troll

They're pointing out that you've just had your arse handed to you on a plate.

You also kind of 'apologised' and now you're getting personal because you didn't get the response you expected.

I think you'd better go and think a bit harder before you post this kind of thing again.

I am a barrel of laughs - but not with this kind of thing.

HTH

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