Mumsnet bullies

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To think that after reading replies on mumsnet, it's obvious that school bullies never change as they get older.
The downright nastiness for no reason, from grown adults. It's horrible to read, especially when it's a thread where the op is already feeling awful or is in a bad situation. These people must really have something awful in their lives to feel the need bring someone else down to make themselves feel better. It's sad really. I feel sorry for people that are that miserable in their own lives.

‘People like Minnie’ and ‘shake the stalkers’ My God. Let me just unwatch this thread so you can keep on talking without retaliation from me. It’s like you want me to keep on responding to you when the conversation has already ended

An “ignore” button would also be a good idea @MNHQ. Hide posts from certain users. It’d certainly take some of the aggro out of threads.

Minnie have you or haven't you done exactly that on my last thread ?

Why do you follow me around ? Just leave me alone !

💐 hope your OK.

I agree OP.

I'm ok thank you . X

Have to strongly disagree. Men are excellent at putting down women because they habitually do it.

Happy to strongly disagree!!

I had to AS your name because I have no clue what thread you’re talking about. Your thread came up on the trending page and I said what the hell is this thread because your thread genuinely did not make sense to me.

When I commented on that thread I didn’t even know who it was. It’s only on this thread that I noticed your comment and immediately remembered your thread that got deleted. Nowhere did I ‘out’ you because I didn’t even recognise you. I certainly am not following you around the site because I commented on a thread that was on the home page.

Bloody hell why is that so hard to understand. Seriously I’m not responding to you again bye. If you have an issue with my posts pls do report them to MN

I remember when the first lockdown had just come to an end

Someone asked what it was like working in retail at that time,and as I work in retail,I answered

I said I'd been sexually assaulted 6 times in 7 years,had people swearing and Spitting at me,rude people,people who shat in the toilets and smeared it around,parents who changed their kids dirty nappies at the table,the kid who pissed on the floor-the list goes on and all true (I have no reason to make it up)

I had this one person follow me round the thread,calling me a liar 'I don't believe you!your manager should have stepped in,this is all bollocks'

Yes,because I have the imagination,the time,and something to gain from writing on a thread and lying about it

Let's ignore the fact that anyone who works in retail,knows this does happen (and more) and what is my manager meant to do?act as my own personal bodyguard just in case?they have their own jobs to do

I ended up ignoring them (im thick skinned and just shrug-they are only words) im sure the same person followed me onto other threads under a name change (I can't prove it and nor do I care)

I simply name changed myself-but I'll never forget the venomous mean girl vibes I got that day

They must have had other issues going on in their life and tried to hang their coat of hate and shame on my hook

Yep loads of them on here.

An Example I see a lot of..

"I think my DH is cheating, he cheated on his first relationship 30 years ago but has been a loving husband for 28 years"

Response.. so you knew what he was like but married him anyway, why are you so pathetic and stupid?!?

So for my benefit

On the one hand it's "you are really recognisable " then it's "oh I commented without realising it was you "

Which is it ?

So you happily disagree that men put down women on a habitual basis? Are you living in the real world?

Me too!

I believe you. I've only had temporary short term jobs in retail and I could tell some grim stories.
I hate the troll hunting, the posters who do this are more irritating than the actual trolls.

@capabilityfrowns how about I spell it out to you very clearly.

I had already commented on this thread and engaged with a couple of posters. I carried on reading the comments and I saw your post about your thread that was deleted. I remembered who you were based on that comment alone and I very simply said people accused you lying about a situation with your ex partner/husband due to your previous posts. It’s not that you started a thread about loss and people jumped on you to say you were lying. All I did was provide context as to what happened on that thread.

You responded to me and said ‘why do people have to drag historical
threads from years ago into the current one ?’ I said that you have a familiar writing style and some people doubt the credibility of your posts sometimes. I simply gave you an answer to your question. Because of that, you’ve got it in your head that I follow you around the site and that I’m a stalker.

When I AS your name, I saw that I had commented on a thread of yours last night. When I commented on that thread, I did not know who you were. It came up on trending and I commented on it just like I always do when I read a thread I’m interested in. You’ve said I’ve outed you but how can I have done that when I didn’t even know who you were on that thread? I simply recognised you due to the comment on this thread. I hope you’ve been able to keep up with this post.

If you want to believe that I’m stalking you and following you all over the site then please go ahead. Now that I’ve explained myself, you’re more than welcome to think what you want despite being given all of the facts

I think some of the issues occur when people are recognised after frustratingly long threads about a certain situation and they then come back with slight changes to the story that paint them in a better light.
Posters (IMHO rightly) point out that the OP is a prolific poster that has had a huge amount of advice already (9/10 ignored in favour of carrying on with whatever shit show they have got themselves into) and the OP loses their shit and accuses everyone of bullying.

Nope. I disagree that on this site it’s mainly men doing the nasty posts. Like I said, it’s ok to disagree.

It's not nice is it Minnie, when everything you say is leapt on and disbelieved .

I thought you were leaving the thread. I had t expected an answer because yu said you were hiding it . Were you lying ?

ODFOD!

? No idea what that means . You could just do what you said however?

But how do you know the advice has t been taken ? I guess I'm guilty of this and that's probably why I get flak but behind the scenes I've taken the advice

Like when I was worrying about getting my equity from the house and it causes dd to fall out with me

I've since concsulted a solicitor I'm going for my share . I'd put it off through misguided loyalty to ex dh and to keep the peace with my children. It's east to dish out advice when you aren't the one wearing the consequences of that . I wonder how many would've done it if they thought their child wouldn't forgive them?

This place is a bullying sanctimonious institution now rather than a supportive safe space .

Some of the worst examples I see of this are when people are in terribly abusive violent relationships and they get told to grow a back bone and leave

Do people seriously think it's that easy ? Then they just get critiqued again and again , people telling them what a shot example they are , how they are damaging their children, like they won't know

Having left an abusive relationship with a suitcase of clothes and my dog I know how extremely difficult it is , the fear and the uncertainty and I didn't have kids in tow .

There is something very antagonistic about the way you post and jump on other posters that might not agree with you at any given time.
It isn't about whether you take the advice you are given.....more about the way you prefer to argue black is blue with anyone that engages with you.
So many people were on your side and really rooted for you to get a decent settlement from your ex husband but you argued incessantly with well meaning posters that really he should have the money and you should live an impoverished lifestyle until the end of your days.
Plenty of people months ago warned you about your relationship with your neighbour's daughter and yet here you are in exactly the same situation months later arguing about why it isn't a problem, but it is because you are posting about it again!
"You can't help those that won't help themselves" very much springs to mind.

The thing is posting doesn't mean you are obligated to take everything many posters say and do it

I have taken the advise I just haven't advertised it since .

I consulted a solicitor as many advised and I'm looking at how to get my equity . The reasons for my reluctance to impoverish my ex dh are mine and valid .

I don't have to justify that .

My neighbours I took a huge step
Back from - see my adult neighbour once a month or so , as I thought we were friends . I realised I have allowed myself to be taken advantage of because I am lonely and suffering Empty nest syndrome and I e really helpful poster on my thread who was kind , positive and supportive made me realise what I've done .

People just baying for blood I ignore .