Mumsnet bullies

[Netflixandsnacks]

To think that after reading replies on mumsnet, it's obvious that school bullies never change as they get older.
The downright nastiness for no reason, from grown adults. It's horrible to read, especially when it's a thread where the op is already feeling awful or is in a bad situation. These people must really have something awful in their lives to feel the need bring someone else down to make themselves feel better. It's sad really. I feel sorry for people that are that miserable in their own lives.

I think some posters need to prove a point. They pick up on small things, pick arguments, make passive aggressive remarks, search posting history..I guess it makes people feel better, superior..

I don't know what you read but yes , they did

I have never given any reason for people to doubt my credibility.

Just because people keep
Recognising me doesn't give them the right to keep dredging up ancient threads . I used to have one name on here and post a lot . Then for some reason people started getting really nasty . When I first began posting in 2007 I became fairly well known and gave advice and time freely . My life was good then . Injad mt long standing marriage , my kids , I posted often about ds and his battles through school and early adult life with Aspergers. I'm posted about my career change and helped people , so I thought .

When my life altered dramatically, I carried on posting . I took a break from mn for a while , because an ex (after dh) staked my posts on here because it talked about him a lot , and it made me realise it was a toxic and abusive relationship.

Somehow , during that time , things shifted and I stated getting called a liar .

I don't know why . Hq said it might be because I posted about the same things more than once . I didn't know that wasn't allowed .

My life now is shit . I've lost identity as a wife, as a mother now my kids are in their late 20s and 30s , I lost my identity in my career due to I'll health tho still do the same job albeit in a very different capacity.

It's not your job to keep outing me through name changes just because my "posting style " is recognised by you though is it ?

Where have I outed you anywhere? @capabilityfrowns I saw your post on this thread and clarified what actually happened. Nothing more, nothing less. Enjoy your day

You clearly did not read all those posts or to the end .

There were posters calling bullshit on my baby loss .

I've not seen them here since and hope they were banned .

I'm really glad you've raised this OP as I've read some really nasty posts lately. I once got piled on because I posted what I thought was a lighthearted thread about cheese sauce and though they were lots of funny comments, within an hour I'd been called a stuck up bitch and one person helpfully told me I'd probably die alone, sad and lonely. Nice.

I remember at the time I'd posted because I was going through a horrendous time and just wanted a few minutes headspace away from it all and after reading some of the vicious comments (literally over cheese sauce), I felt horrendous. I ended up asking MN to delete my account and I didn't come anywhere near for a long time.

I do wonder if some people join purely for the 'sport' of kicking people for no reason?

I am so sorry that happened to you, @capabilityfrowns.

@MinnieL - I think you are causing @capabilityfrowns real pain. I am sure this is not your intention, but I think that enough is enough, and she needs to be left in peace. I hope you can do that.

There are definitely some posters who you start to recognise on different threads, mostly making unhelpful/uninformed/pointless comments.
That said, some people are often quick to call 'bully' when someone really just has been honest and offered a view different to them.

And they wouldn't dare it to your face

I clearly said enjoy your day so I wasn’t coming back to respond anyway

And yet here you are .

You know Minnie I'd you doubt my credibility you have the option to scroll right on past my threads or my posts

For some reason you don't though .
Ironic on a thread about bullying.

Agree I was shocked and despaired when I read a lot of the comments!

Agreed.

@MinnieL 'enjoy your day' - that's a very typical sign off from people who push and push to make a point and often cause upset along the way.

@MNHQ do you think it would be possible to add the year a user joined to the title /username line? That way it would much easier to understand if it’s an established poster who has name changed.

Or even adding something like the number of posts, non specific, so like 10+ posts, 100+ posts, 1000+ etc.

I think there are mean women. Not all incels. These women are depressed tbf. My daughter has a mean girlfriend and she's very depressed.

For me it's the grammar police and grief top trumps ones when it's really inappropriate. It usually goes something like this.

Op. "I am having a really hard time. Money is so tight and I will be struggling to by my children their Christmas presents this year"

Poster 1 "It's buy not by"

Poster 2 " Give your head a wobble. Are you aware of what is going off in the world at the moment? Jeez"

Poster 3 "Christmas is commercial shite. Your dc's should be grateful for a satsuma and a book like I was when I was a child"

Poster 4 (sensibly) "who opened the gates of the cunt farm?" OP here is some empathy and sensible advice..

Someone @‘d me so I responded, is that okay with you?

@PattyDukeAstin since when? ‘Enjoy your day/have a nice day’ means ‘that’s all from me, I’m not coming back’ in my books. Maybe if people stopped @‘ing/quoting me then I can stop responding as intended

Agree. Some posts ooze a hatred of women and an over-the-top frustrated aggression that’s much more common in men than in women.

I don’t see ‘mean girls’ I see sad little men who spend too much time online getting their thrills from putting women down.

I rest my case .

Minnie I said you are free to scroll past if you doubt my credibility- I didn't quote you - I think you can clearly see you quoted me to have the last word .

-and the little humphy face for good measure

Please just leave me alone , stop following me around mn just to say oh it's you again I don't believe you - you done the same of my last thread.

Just leave me alone if you don't believe or like what I've written . You are a bully . You follow me around here trying to cast doubt on anything I write and it's tiresome . No one particularly responded to you on my last thread .

There is a troll on almost every single post I’ve seen and someone is always trying to pick a fight.

Breastfeed vs Bottle
Working vs SAHM
WFH vs Office workers

When the OP asks a question you get weird responses from people that can’t say any constructive who comment to be mean or start an argument.

I really don’t see that. I see bitter women with few real life relationships who have nothing better to do than try to make other women feel as bad as they do about themselves. Seriously, when it comes to snide and snipe, I genuinely think it’s mostly women.

@Netflixandsnacks I agree with you... some people on here should be ashamed of themselves with the things they write, it makes you wonder what they're like in real life or if they're full of pretence at being nice... sadly some nasty children / bullies often become nasty adults. Thankfully though, the other half learn through life to treat others the way they'd like to be treated so they become thoroughly nice adults...

I post my thoughts on here because I'm a sad lonely quite pathetic figure now a days who has no one to talk to . I'm depressed, I don't leave my house , I don't see anyone, I don't open my blinds , I don't get dressed.

Is that what you want to hear ? It's true .

I used to be a vibrant , energetic, wide , mum, career woman .

I'll get the oh woe is me brigade now . Just to stick the boot in a bit more .
But it's what I am now , I deregged twice due to people like Minnie but I found myself restless and wanting to chat to people .

The poster who said add the date someone joined - I joined in 2007 but I've deregged twice so would look like I'm new . I something think I should just go back to my old name but I can't as its a new account . I keep name changing to try and shake the stalkers who find it highly amusing to follow
Me around these boards but as they keep saying I've a distinctive style . I still don't know why that means if I'm recognised it's top trumps to say oh it's you, you w done xyz and your kids did xyz and I think you're xyz . I think I do need a break . Mn just fills a bit of time for me sometimes . Sometimes I can post from experience and maybe help someone . Sometimes I just want to get what's in my head out . And I can't . Because of this !

It's not your job to keep outing me through name changes just because my "posting style " is recognised by you though is it ?

I agree with this actually. There’s a thoroughly obnoxious long standing poster who I know has been banned several times but turns up under name changes every now and then. Posting style extremely recognisable and I always spot her. I don’t feel the need to out her though because she’s not doing any harm right now. If she reverts to spite & insults as I have seen her do in the past, I’ll report her then, but otherwise I can’t see why it would be my place to ensure she’s excluded from or outed forever on MN.